How do people on here make new friends? Is there something you attend regularly? Having a hard time meeting people in a new town. College was much easier to find friends. Genuinely curious.

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Couple of ways:

1.) Work. I work in an industry that’s relatively insular, so you become close with your colleagues pretty quickly. I’d say 2 weeks into a new city and job we were comfortable enough to be able to go out to bars on the weekend with colleagues in my peer group.

2.) Parties. I’ve met tons of people at house parties and made plans to hang out the next weekend.

3.) Intramurals. Anyone can play dodgeball, kickball, soccer, etc. — just don’t join a super competitive league if you’re not good (I’m not). Hell, there’s even drinking intramural leagues nowadays!

4.) I know most people aren’t comfortable with doing this, but I’ve straight up asked people I don’t know (e.g., neighbors) if they want to hang out — not once has anyone said no and I’ve made some of my closest friends this way. That’s being said... I’ve been told I’m pretty “socially sauve”, meaning I’m able to do this without coming off as weird or awkward. If you don’t feel like you’d be comfortable doing this, totally okay, do the above three.

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I always befriend my neighbors. I end up closer to some of them than others. If we don’t become very close friends, it is just generally useful and convenient to have your neighbor’s number. You also stand out. One of them once slid a note under my door saying “not once in my 8 years living in [insert East coast city] has my neighbor knocked on my door. It was so refreshing and thoughtful, I even told my grandma about it!” Something along those lines. No joke. I am an F so it might be a little easier for me not to come off as creepy.

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Get involved with a volunteering org in your city. It’s a great way to meet people. Many are geared to YPs.

If you identify as religious or cultural, there are different denominations of events you can attend. When I moved to the city, I joined events in the Reform Jewish community that didn’t require attending temple. Met great friends there.

Industry events and Meetups are great too for expanding your professional network.

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I met some of my best friends from Bumble BFF and going to the gym and talking to people after classes. I moved every year after college so it was hard at first but I usually found one and then they would introduce me to all their friends. It’s part of the adventure of being in a new city. You get to find friends you want in your life not just ones you grew up with. As an adult it’s a refreshing challenge but worth it. You’ll do great just be open.

Find an activity you like, search for a meetup or Facebook group = find people with similar interests. I do not like work friends, all you have in common is work a lot of the time.

Having a set schedule outside of the house. For me, I go to the gym every morning at the exact same time. Same thing for church, same time, every Sunday. After a while you get to meet / chat with others that share your interest. I find it’s not hard to say hi to someone after I’ve seen them every morning for a while. Easy to say “I see you every day, I’m so and so, yada yada, see ya tomorrow”. Overtime I now know everyone that goes to my gym and church at the same time as me.

I stopped making new friends after college.

Thoughts on using MeetMe or MeetUp?

I met a mix of great and fun people and then some socially awkward people. Regardless, it was worth it for me. I made a couple great friends that were also new to the city and open to meeting people for activities. Just be prepared to meet some weirdos too but that’s life and as consultants it’s nothing new.

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