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Have you talked to your boss? It's their job to have your back or intervene or talk to the other person's job. Try to become extremely professional only about your interaction with this person. Do double-check your work to ensure its accuracy to the best of your knowledge. As account, I don't tolerate consistently having typos in emails or poor wording as communication skills are critical to the function and poor communication can lead to misunderstanding and even the wrong work produced. So use what you can from the work related things this person dings you on to actually improve for your own sake. About yelling at you, that is absolutely unprofessional and should not be tolerated at any level from anyone. Next time it happens, if in front of others in a meeting, say: "I don't think we need to let frustration overtake the tone of this meeting, but I will otherwise consider your point and thank you for your feedback". And immediately and always take it back to the business issue at hand. Speak calmly and firmly. After the meeting, catch up with the person and ask if you could speak with them for a few, then pull them aside. Do not talk by their desk in open space with others around. Look them in the eyes and say something along those lines, but make it your own as it comes to you, don't try to memorize in advance or match me, just take away the gist of my advice, it's important that it's genuine when it comes from you:
"Hey X, I noticed that you raised your voice in our meeting at me and I wanted to let you know that it's happened before and it makes me really uncomfortable. I appreciate your seniority and I'm happy to learn from your experience, so how can we ensure that the respect is mutual?"
End with a question that puts the ball back in their court and stop there! Do not speak further to fill the void even if they're stumped and stay silent for what may seem like an eternity to you. It's the effect you want and so, hold the silence and keep looking at them calmly.
After they say whatever they say, which will probably be a mixture of apology, embarrassment, and actually something constructive, say whatever comes to you that makes sense based on what they just said. Go with the rest of the conversation organically. But I guarantee you(!) they'll have a much bigger respect from you from that point on just for having the balls to go up to them and actually confront them with directness and kindness at the same time. Bullies are usually disarmed by such behavior because they have never considered someone might actually call them out on their behavior.
And keep your boss informed about everything you're doing including having this conflict with this person! Have 1:1 weekly 30min check-ins with your boss to ensure they're up to speed on what you're dealing with, you don't want your boss to ever be blindsided by an issue.
Absolutely relate. I ignore them. I’m not there to make friends so I just do the best work I can. It’s important to form relationships though so try to make them outside your team. Then, plan your escape from that toxic mess.
OP, sounds like you're really caught up in a story you've built up in your head and spun potentially out of control. How do you objectively know this person doesn't like you and is out there to get you? What have they said and/or done directly making that clear and you not just inferring that or projecting your hurt feelings onto them. At least 50% of our problems are of our own doing/in our heads. Please give more context or seek counseling, if it gets worse.
I can offer more feedback based on additional info you can provide but perhaps you're just too hard on your self / wasting your energy chasing what's not there.
^best advice ever
Just do your best and fuck ‘em haters
@AD1 - implying I’m not doing my job to other team members, cc’ing my boss on emails when they call me out on something, constantly correcting me on small things (typos, email language), over stepping my tasks, yelling...I could go on.
other person's *boss
respect *for you