How many Big Law partners sacrificed their marriage to become partner, and, if you didn’t, how did you pull it off. Almost every partner I have ever worked for has been divorced at least once....

why do i struggle when my s/o isn’t texting me? ik they’re not cheating on me, ik they still love me, all that jazz.

but for some reason i’m not at peace when they take some time to themselves.

any tips or advice?

People with tiny kids (baby/toddler), how are you coping/entertaining your little buggers? Ours is turning 1 very soon and we have a push trike in the mail, but thinking of inside activities too.

Day 27 of 31: I miss my wife.
(We're not separated or anything. I've been on an extended work/family obligations trip).

Trying to help my retired dad - When I google for what to do after retirement, only retirement planning related things shows up. My dad has been a workaholic and hasn’t developed many hobbies he could pursue. I was wondering how I could help him stay slightly occupied if not busy. Anyone here experienced this with your parents or yourself? How did you navigate this?

My wife is in sales at Mercedes and she has been averaging $200k a year and growing YoY. She loves her job, however she works long days and barely gets time off. We plan on having kids within the next year or two, and it’s highly u likely that she’ll be able to keep her current gig. We want to find a career that allows her to work remote or that at least gives her a better work life balance so that she can see her kids grow up. Should she get certifications to give her a shot at adtech?Too late?

How to meet new friends in a new city?

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

I love living in Miami, but have found it incredibly difficult to make friends. I had a thriving social life/ friend group in Chicago. Anyone else finding it hard to build friendships here?

Looking for perspective: Did money play a role in evaluating whether someone could be your life partner?

Anyone have an emotionally abusive parent and tips with how to handle/cope?

First-gen grad students, does your family put pressure on you to succeed? It feels like our relationship is them just bugging me about my work. I’d love some advice, I miss my fam.

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

Dating my bf for about 6 months and he’s best friends with his mom and tells her everything. He even told his mom about the one time I tried a drug, before I met him. I thought I told him in confidence and now I found out he told her. How would you feel?

How can I approach my boyfriend who has an alcohol problem to help him get healthier ?

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

Why do some muslim men think that career women in their 30s become desperate and will significantly lower their standards? Someone with 3 kids that’s been divorced twice and isn’t even practicing just told my friend he’ll do her the favor of giving her children. The arrogance is mind boggling

How do you deal with parents/close family whose political views are diametrically opposed from yours?

A friend of mine was arrested last night over a DUI charge and his family is worried sick. How can I help comfort them...

EY recruiter reached out about a FDD position. Can any fish share some light on what salary range I can expect as a S2 at NYC?

What is the average salary for director Morgan Stanley india ? How is wlb and job security?

Hi guys.... Here is my situation.. Pls answer..

I have been promoted to senior but I am very much underpaid even after promotion. I took my concern to my manager. And manager as well accepted that I am seriously underpaid and told me that will take this to senior manager or ED..
What could be their response. can I expect them to give me right hike immediately ? Is it happened to anybody.

Please respond... TIA

Does PWC give free Udemy access?

Is cold calling still a thing?

Hi all, Required documents were submitted as HR asked, How long will it take him to release the official offer letter.
I got shortlisted mail and i have submitted all the documents asked.
YOE - 3.5yrs.
making a switch for first time, can someone share their knowledge on this.
new company shortlisted for is COMCAST INDIA

Hi All,
Yoe - 8
SkillSet - Magento Developer
What should be expected salary?

Hi Fishes,

I want to switch to another Company but I want to know that what salary range Market is Giving for 2+ years job seekers. I have 2.2 years of Experience on SAP C4C and also have good understanding and hands-on experience of SAP CDC.

Thanks in advance🙂

Will there be any career growth if we are into a product specific Business analyst?

I had a great review and a 5.5% raise and a great bonus at my company. But I also got a new Director and a peer manager of mine left the company, so I will be absorbing her team. In addition, my director said I will be receiving 'deep delegation' from them. I don't mind more work, but deep delegation is a new term I've never heard. What does that mean lol?

Hello Fishes,

What is the maximum package VOIS can offer for Assistant Manager position ?

YOE 3.7

Hi, I got an offer for Senior Manager position. Wanted to check if senior manager is a also people manager role? do they have any direct reportees?

I passed the coding assessment and got invited to do a technical phone interview at Amazon. Any advice on how I can ace it? It's for a software development engineer role

Hi Fishes

What to expect in phone interview at Amazon? Is it based on work ex or LPs? Amazon India

When we will get the salary slip of October 2022.

Welcome to the bowl! Discuss everything Indian on this bowl but pls respect everyone even if you don’t agree with their thoughts and opinions!

Anyone here has experience with Temenos Bangalore? Need a n honest suggestion whether its a safe company to join from a job security and work culture perspective? Your inputs will help me take a correct decision.

Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child.

I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

My wife often calls me by 5:45/6 to ask where I am if I’m not headed home yet. Sometimes she’s stressed with kids/dogs/dinner and really wants me home. This really throws off my concentration because it makes me feel rushed. Like many practices sometimes I’m out at 5:30, other times it’s much later. Just depends and is unpredictable. Any advice on how to approach this?

Biglaw parents, where do you choose to live and why? Somewhere close to work to avoid commute and spend more time with kids? Suburbs?

Last night my 9yo said, “wow mom, Idina Menzel is 48 but she looks way younger than you!” (I am 38.) Then I put makeup on this morning and she said, “well, you look nice but you still look worn out...

Some people mentioned au pairs... tell me more! Why did you like/not like it, if you did the au pair thing?

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

Do you pay out of pocket on insurance premiums at your firm? My wife may leave her job to stay home and we’re on her insurance. My firm told me we’re $750/pay period or $18k/yr. that sounds absurd.

I just wanted to take a quick moment to say that you are all doing a great job with this ridiculous, unprecedented juggling act of trying to be a parent, teacher, lawyer and human. Hang in there!

How are people managing WFH with their kids? We have a 2 year old and 5 year old and my partner is also wfh. Small condo, no nanny. It’s freaking insane and my husband and I are fighting every day....

Going back to work next month. Have a full time nanny but feel like even that isnt enough. I work all sorts of timezones. Europe has my morning, Asia has my evening. Nanny 9-5? 7-3? 10-6? No clue what will work best and don’t want to be inconsistent with her. Any advice on the return?

How do you manage the constant school cancellations? Do I need a nanny in addition to daycare?

For parents with school-age kiddos (kindergarten up), what do you do for childcare? Thinking about giving up our nanny, but worried about juggling days off, sick days, and summer break.

Trying to be really understanding about coworkers with no children feeling stressed during the holiday season, but it's hard not to ask if they'd prefer to go home to my sick kid, frustrated spouse and dirty house instead of their empty apartment where they have a flat screen TV and a beer waiting. How do you keep sane?

(Especially those of you with young children) how do you make time to exercise/be active?

NDAs for Nannies? I was wondering how everyone who is doing some work from home during covid handles in-house caregivers? Obviously we all take all steps to protect confidential information and realistically a caregiver isn't going to be exposed to anything we do, but does anyone require an NDA just to be on the safe side? (I dont have an in home caregiver yet, but just thinking about it.)

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

What's the hardest part of being a working parent in law? My wife and I are considering trying to get pregnant.

Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

How do you deal with the stress of knowing that other people on your team are working weekends and you aren’t? I’m a mom with two kids so working in weekends is tough for me. Cont. in comments:

Has anyone taken on side gigs here? In transactional real estate and could really use the extra money. I’m in-house and drowning in bills. Where did you post and what kind of insurance did you get?