Is 42 too old to start a new life personally .. doing well professionally but stuck in miserable marriage ... want out but scared of starting over

Does anyone have family members who constantly demand money because they feel like you’re rich now because you’re a lawyer? I’ve always wanted to be in a position to help my family but we all live in the high COL city so my salary doesn’t carry me as far as it would elsewhere. I’ve given a detailed summary of all of my expenses yet every month one family member in particular comes to me for rent money (not some, the full amount, and they refuse to get a job). It has become quite the burden.

My mom and dad are separating (bad terms) and not speaking, but my mom asks me about him everyday. She knows I don’t want to talk to him or about him, but continues to bring it up everyday.. I’ve resorted to silence or not responding because I always end up being the bad guy when I get annoyed or don’t want to discuss it. Am I wrong here?

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

How does a person change their mindset to be more positive? I feel like I’m meant for my job, but blame all my life problems on it….having no energy, being single at the age of 30, etc. and it seems like a never ending loop. I look for new jobs, realize I have a good job then am ok for a bit then start it all over again. When I’m off of work I’m fine and realize I have it pretty good. Only real negative is I can’t vacation with my family in March due to my busy time.

My wife is using my credit card too much.
Monthly around 13K.

Everytime I confronted her the ending is always the same, I loose the argument and end up paying everything.

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

How do I divide the chores in this case? I’m the breadwinner - husband has been taking time off from work. No kids. Two dogs.

I feel like I do more chores because there are some things that I just can’t stand. Like dishes left in the sink, dirty floor, dirty dogs, laundry…etc. When I ask him to do those chores, he says he will do them later but he takes forever. So I do them instead. He does grocery shopping, yard work, some cooking. Is it unfair if I repeatedly ask him to do more? 😡😡

I’ve always been a big saver minimum 15% to maxing out my 401k since I graduated college. I’m married to someone who thinks 6% is enough and likes $$$ cars. Other than the cars, they dont really spend money. For the married 🐠, how do you have the conversation with them that what they are doing isn’t enough? I try to guide them and say you want the $$$ cars but the salary you have won’t get there and you’re going to have to find a job that gets them the salary…. Then the fight starts.

To all the divorced folks out there...

1) What went wrong in your relationship?
2) What's one piece of advice you'd give to us singletons before jumping into a long term relationship/marriage?

I like to learn from other people's mistakes 😅

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

Hi guys

This question may not be related. However I wanted to know from personal and family point of view how it is like to relocate from India and live abroad .
Let's say Family consists of husband , wife and a kid . I understand we will get good facilities, education, cleanliness , good air etc , however I wanted to check whether people gel up easily in the new environment? Don't they feel loneliness/ difficult to adjust? Do they look for similar asian nationalities to kill boredom?

I don't love my parents. I think they're hardworking, but they're not the parents that I needed when I was growing up. Moved away from them the moment I was able to. Don't really want to visit them any time soon.

I’m going to be starting my IVF journey. I was told that you can choose the sex of your baby. This intrigues me but I also feel as though it’s an attempt to play God. For those of you who have gone through this, what did you and your significant other end up doing?

Recommendations on an exceptional career coach who can help my husband? He works with his brother at a startup his brother founded (my husband is in-house counsel) but often finds himself belittled by his brother, cut out of conference calls and emails and generally feeling like he has no skills. He's an ivy league graduate and went to a great law school but for many reasons cannot leave this job right now. Looking for someone to help w/his confidence level and ways to approach his brother. TIA!

How have you dealt with anti-vaxxer friends? I have one and I’m not mad or angry at them. I’m just disappointed that I’ve associated myself with someone like them. 😔

Making this a bit more dynamic. I’d love to know everyone’s view on this. What are your 3 main dealbreakers when considering a relationship with someone?

Am I crazy or do women take pride in saying “my boyfriend/husband makes twice as much as me” or similar statements

I’m desperate to get out of town. Can’t really do Road trips bc I can’t drive for long periods due to injury. Where can I fly to that’s relatively safe and I’m not putting anyone at risk?

A question for VCs: I’m currently a VC analyst. I want to eventually come back to the VC industry and perhaps become a partner (if possible). However, there’s an opportunity to work at an Endowment Fund (Harvard/Yale/Stanford level). Would you recommend me to spend the next 3-4 years doing something that’s not directly VC related? Would it be hard for me to come back to the VC industry with this experience? Why or why not? Thank you so much for your time and help!

Hello fishes

I want to know good companies for good multi-skillset admins

Do we have anyone from Edwards Lifescience? Would love to talk.

Hi fishes,

TCS Hr said to expect offer letter by Feb 7 if business approval goes through.
Or she would have to come back and negotiate.
I didn't get offer till now.
How can I check my status?
It shows evaluation in progress in ibegin portal.

Hi all..I got offer from JP Morgan Bangalore and UBS Pune with same CTC. Can someone help me which should I join ?

Best doctors in NYC to get injectables / facial contouring?

Just watched Karan Arjun. SRK is the GOAT.

My life threw a curveball at me and I
need a senior audit or audit manager
position that allows me work outside the
US for a limited time. Does anyone know
of companies that allows for this and
potentially help me get a referral there?

What is salry slab for consultant specialist in hsbc ? Tech stack python backend ,Azure, kubernetes ..

Guys EY Mandatory learning course answer key anyone.!!??
If someone will provide genuine and positive answer, I can tell course name in comment.

Which units in infosys provides maximum number of on-sites ?
I am having almost 10 years experience as a full stack developer.

Does your consulting firm offer a Jewish community group or professional network? Please indicate your company name if possible - doing research on DEI initiatives for the Jewish community. Thank you in advance! 🙏🏻

Anyone here from NYC? Be cool if there was a meetup.

Current job openings?

Thought it would be good to start a new post for anyone who knows of BA openings to post them for those looking. Bonus if you have the recruiter name at the agency.

BA friends - Music contracts.
We’ve been having issues getting final signed contracts back from publishers/labels prior to ads going live. Legal teams at the majors are soooo sloooow.
Anyone else having this issue? What’s the solution?

For KPMG PPMD, how long did you spend at the director level before making it to MD? How long at MD to Partner?

Hot take: I like our decentralized staffing model because I can work in any industry and it creates less of a “class divide” between offices

Looking to transition from an experineced(more than 7 years) automation and manual tester to a python full stack developer , looking for guidance about the path .... job market(including freelancing option) ,job position to target , potential struggles , courses or any other potential resources !
P.S. trying this change to as having a inclination towards development, and also see myself going for technical manager role in future !
Feel free to bust any myths , but plz avoid demotivate!

I know Mck is the top for strategy, but in terms of digital/design in top consulting firms which do you think is better? Mckinsey digital or deloitte digital? (Or another..?)

Presidential debates start next year?

What are some of the best books you’ve read about people and investing? Such as dealing with people (business psychology almost) and then investing (real estate more specifically)!

I am looking for books that give practical advice, not just big picture theory and motivation.

Rooney... can't believe I woke up at 7 am, hungover as hell, to watch that crap.

Someone reached out to me on LinkedIn about becoming an author on the side. Has anyone heard about such a thing?!? The person said she’s worked with 800 consultants writing their books and marketing it for them.

I currently work as an APM at a FAANG company but recently received an offer to join an MBB. I’m very excited about the role but didn’t realize I’d need to take a pay cut when I applied (~100k base + ~20k bonus + ~60k equity vs. 90k base + 10-20k bonus). Considering that I currently work 40-60 hours/week, I’ll be making significantly less per hour at the MBB. I’m very interested in the opportunity but also don’t want to make a poor financial decision early in my career. Thank you for your time!

Friday evening flight. Half empty plane. Flight attendant offered to let me move to an empty row. She then tells me that if I choose an exit row, she’ll have to charge me (continued)

For all you major savers + investors, how would you suggest to get started investing in assets other than a 401K and ROTH IRA?

Ugh! Got 2 hours left in a 14 hour drive with younger sis. Both of us getting on each other's nerves and I hate road trips. Help fbfam! Anything entertaining? 😔

I always poke fun at Canadians, but your country is an inspiration. Thank you, Justin Trudeau

I've been on iPhone since the 4S; came from a Droid Incredible (garbage). Had every iPhone since (currently on 7 Plus); just got a separate Android phone for work (Note 8). Color me impressed. 👍👍👍

Best consulting firms for PE work (CDD,Value Creation)? Looking for the best firm for exit ops to PE ops eventually. Thanks!

Any book recommendations for learning about investing smart in your 20s?

Does anyone own an investment property outside of the state you live in? Want to buy a house in a college town a couple states away but don't know if it will be too difficult to manage. Thoughts?

Anyone have a test bank for the Azure 900 cert or have any recommendations on how to pass it asap. Also looking into AWS cloud practitioner

If you have to say you're not a "helicopter" manager, guess what?

One of the reasons I want to transition from industry to consulting (tier 1) is that I get frustrated when I have to collaborate with mediocre people. My assumption is that Tier 1 consulting firms hire really sharp people and if I can get in, I’ll be collaborating with folks on top of their game (not expecting much from clients). I’m aware there are personal aspects I need to work on like my mindset, patience etc etc, but I just get so frustrated with blatant stupidity.

How hard is it to get distinctive achievement for a second year analyst looking to move to consultant?

Are FPX projects considered under utilization? I heard something about adjusted utilization... does that still exist?

Just got a job offer! After being laid off in October I’ve found a new job paying 20% more base salary + bonus oppty up to 50% over my old annual take home