Months of 200+ hours, sleep deprivation, stress, and shit work-life balance came home to roost. This is the worst recurrence of my MDD that I’ve experienced in years. I could see it coming and started asking for help at work, but relief came too little, too late.
I have an offer and want to negotiate
1. London base salary but I have to absorb all the expenses (train + stay)
I am thinking to negotiate to
2. home base salary and have my expenses paid for
I know that's depends on the amount I have to travel (and potentially stay) but at the moment this is unknown. Past 8 months was just twice a month + 2 nights stay.
The only thing I know is it won't be every week, the return trian ticket is about £80-100, depends I could plan ahead.
I have a valid H1b till 2025. Super demotivated at my current job and applied for COS from H1b to H4. At what point can I leave my job. I still have not received any receipt from USCIS.
My puppy and plants are cheering their mama as she tries to get referrals at EY.
I’ll be grateful for support.EY ♥️
Just leaving this here..
How it Citi KYC project? I have cleared all interviews and waiting for offer letter now.I am asking from WLB and technical stack perspective .
How does the offer stage look like at EY? Recruiter gave verbal offer and kept saying that he will extend a final offer. Should I negotiate now or when I see the final offer?
Can I get some real helpful guidance here?
-75k in the market (VTI,QQQ, ETFs and stocks)
-20k in Emergency find /Cash
-30k in Roth(maxing since 2019)
-60k in 401k (maxing since 2019
I don’t got much money expenses and wanted to know where to put my money during this market for the next couple months. Is it smart to DCA? Put limit orders in? Just hold cash?
-minimal rent / expenses (~1000/mo)
- started HSA this year
-130k, 3 YOE
- no debt
Need your suggestions please
I come from a cyber strategy background with very little technical experience.
I want to make a shift towards Devsecops,
Could anyone please suggest what is the best way to build the needed skills /do projects online for the relevant experience?,
Thanks,thanks a lot in advance,!
Hi I am a new teacher intern hired yesterday. I will be teaching second grade. School reopens on Aug 17. I do not have my own materials. I do not know what materials are there in my classroom. What should I buy? I will be talking to the Principal on Monday to find out more. I am very excited and nervous at the same time. Any tips and suggestions for me would be helpful.
What comments of a media plan do you feel are often missed by teams when sharing with clients?
Hi there 👋🏽Any plant moms on this platform? I'm a recent 🪴 M💚M and I just wanted to share a few of my babies; my happy place!
How can I get my *micro* manager off my back? I know I haven’t been doing the best work this quarter, but emailing me all damn day isn’t going to help me do better, I do know that.
Any IPs in here? I have a quick question how do you get other employees to assist with remanding their co workers when they see them do something wrong? I work in a 4 floor rehab/LTC facility and I can not be everywhere. I am the only IP in the building. I do the best I can but when I speak to some people they are just blaming other people like “oh I saw so and so do this you didn’t talk to them”. I can’t educate or remand what I don’t see. We should all work together in keeping everyone safe.
I am an experienced, trustworthy, CFP®, actively looking to purchase a small to mid-size practice in the Chicagoland area. I am with LPL and part of a Hybrid RIA. I’m open to different acquisition options including partnership.
Please anyone help me,
What will be my monthly in-hand salary? Thanks in Advance.
Tips for the day of your GMAT?
Fellow creatives - how the hell do you stay fit? I’ve gained like 15lbs since I entered the industry a year ago. How do you find the time to squeeze in exercise amidst 15 hour working days?
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Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.
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