Months of 200+ hours, sleep deprivation, stress, and shit work-life balance came home to roost. This is the worst recurrence of my MDD that I’ve experienced in years. I could see it coming and started asking for help at work, but relief came too little, too late.

Have an appointment next week to start climbing out of this hole, but at the moment I’m barely functioning. Maybe someday this industry will realize that constantly overworking associates makes them less productive and useful.

I’m gonna short the shit the out of Peloton, hopefully will get rich enough to buy one

Fam, planning to sign up for AASLT as my AT this summer. Ngl, not in best shape currently. How hard is it? How much prep would you recommend?

Anybody struggle with imposter syndrome as a minority? How and why? Need some coping strategies man.

lol so…. how’s clearview’s wlb and culture been going?

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

I have a question for associates, what would help you the most in your job right now? It could be technical, communication, training, mental health. What are you biggest problems and struggles?

Why do have to wear a mask in public just because other people refused to get vaccinated. ? If it is an contagious as measles then mask are not going to stop the spread.

When you encounter a conspiracy theorist re the vaccines, do you set them straight or do you just ignore it? I struggle w how to approach this.

Hey small agency friends with kids! Quick question. Our agency’s family health care is expensive (ranges from $1700/mon with normal deductible to $1100/mon with super high deductible). If anyone out there (at a small NYC agency) has a better plan and is comfortable sharing, would you mind telling me who your company uses? My kids’ college funds thank you!

Is the pace and WLB a lot different between T1 and T2 firms in the middle east?

Acronym NYC was a nightmare to try to get feedback/move the process along

A friend of mine has just left Infosys BPM (Consultant). He is serving notice period. It's been 1 month and it seems like manager is hell bent to make him work day and night. And this is sudden change. As per him same had happened with one of his colleagues too. Anybody here has any idea about it ? Can he speak up and object to working over time and on weekends ?

Anybody here working at Gap Inc. headquarters? Opinions on culture, work/life balance appreciated! TIA

I am struggling to spend the time to study for the PHR. I have everything I need, but I feel exhausted from the work week every weekend. I’m looking to take it in August.. help? What do I do?

HR is scheduling the interviews without checking time with me. One interview was scheduled and then it was rescheduled to a different time at last minute. I wasn't available at that time so I mailed the HR for a different slot. They again scheduled it for a later date without checking the time with me.

Can we stay long term in nagarro for about 3-4 years thinking about it any suggestions

Panama city anyone?

Vive la France !

Taking AUD this week, any suggestions?

Where them 30+ ladies at? 25M 🙋‍♂️😉

I have joined cts US in 2015. Moved to cts India in 2018. What is the notice period if I resign now in cts ?

What's with companies charging full fees for diminished benefits? I'm a bit annoyed about being charged in full for my Marriott card annual fee and Amazon Prime mebership

So I got invited to do an on-site interview and as part of it, the hiring manager wants me to present some of the chemistry I'm currently working on. The problem is all my work has been government contracted and hasn't been published, so due to confidentiality I can't present any complete schemes or specific structures. Any tips on how to ace this presentation?

I just started meds yesterday and the change in my focus and attention to detail is mind blowing. My only concern is, just yesterday I had a tough feedback session with my manager around how I’m taking too long to complete my work, giving them anxiety around close deadlines. I’m new in the job (3 months in). Should I explain anything about my adhd to my manager or just wait for them to notice the change in me?

Has anyone successfully treated their depression and anxiety naturally (through lifestyle changes - exercise, prioritizing sleep, nutrition, social connections & therapy) rather than taking medication? I’m concerned about the long term effects of antidepressants and having to be dependent on them forever

36M here and I find beards / facial hair absolutely cringe. I feel like everyone has just gone for the 'I can't be bothered to shave' look for convenience. Especially desi guys, it's like a uniform now.

Anybody else feel the same?

What's driving you to work so hard?

Anybody work with local governments on 459 plans? Anything there? Any land mines ?

What's it like working as lawyer for sports teams? This is my next pivot idea --sports team or athletic brand or agency

Manyata folks,

How about hanging out today at some nearby Biriyani restaurant?

Agenda: Just to socialize

What did y’all actually want to be when you grew up?

When I was going into courtrooms, a bad night of sleep didn’t matter-I’d snap to attention as soon as I got into court. I’m doing phone hearings now and the focus isn’t there as much. Any ideas?

I’ve had a really tense, emotionally exhausting week. Things wrapped up yesterday and now my body feels so strung out and exhausted. Any tips for coming down from being so strung out without relying on toxic habits and just shutting down/procrastinating? (My brain is saying “go for a run” and my body is getting stuck picking at my eyebrows for two hours) I feel like my central nervous system is on a roller coaster.

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

Has anyone had good experiences taking ashwagandha for daily stress?

Choose to be happy today

Most/Least stressful areas of practice (in either transition or litigation)

If you’re reading this, go drink some water!

Wish apps like BetterHelp were free. I can’t afford healthcare or therapy (I’m unemployed, and yes, I’ve tried seeking pro bono therapy options — no place anywhere nearby offers it.) I really need a therapist I can talk to on at least a weekly basis to just unpack so much that’s bogging me down to the point of being unable to function some days, but it’s just so cost prohibitive! What sucks is everyone assumes this career hands you median wages on a platter but I’m worse off than I’ve ever been.

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

When covid first hit, I was delighted to be working from home. My hours even improved. Now, because of some triggering events, I’m dealing with horrible panic attacks on the daily. I’m dissociating and can’t focus long enough to get work done. I JUST hit a year at this firm and am going on a one month stress leave. Worried I might not kick this mental state in that time. Any advice as to what I can do while on leave so I can come back focused and ready to work?

Is anyone else experiencing a new wave of covid anxiety due to the stress of figuring out the holidays? Got in an argument with a family member about safety guidelines and testing needing to happen and I’ve been feeling paralyzed by anxiety all day.

question of the day: why did you join this bowl? Since I asked, I will start: I’ve been on a journey of recovery from legal-overachiever-workaholism. Changed jobs, city and environment and still working hard to recover from burnout that is, unfortunately, part and parcel of the legal profession.

Anyone participating in dry January or done similar things in the past? Did you notice an effect on mental health or other benefits?

Reminder to everyone: use your 2021 vacation time. Don’t let it pass you by just because you’re not traveling. Take a long weekend once a month to nap and eat chips in sweat pants all day. We all need to do our part to normalize self care, and sitting at home doing “nothing” is just as worthy of a vacation day as pina coladas on the beach.

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

I have chronic health issues and I’m severely depressed. I can’t even get myself to work anymore. If I don’t quit, I’m in serious danger of being fired. I feel that I need to just quit and take time off to get better but feel that it will be a stain on my career. I’m a pretty junior lawyer. Any advice. I just can’t do any work at all and I’m my anxiety and depression is spiraling out of control. I see a therapist I try to cope and it’s not working.

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

Guilt and shame about working in a legal position for years where, instead of using my law degree (was supposed to do legal work per the job posting), I served as a personal assistant to my boss/did nothing for maybe half the time. I feel like I was paid for work I didn't do. I've since left that job but the guilt and shame remains. I feel that I lack the character of a lawyer and that I am unworthy of the profession. I don't know how to make up for the lost years or how to forgive myself.