My elderly alcoholic father is harder to deal with each day. He behaves as if he is mentally challenged while drunk and the entire family is exhausted managing him, esp in public. How do we help a 72+ yr old who doesn’t speak good English, and doesn’t want to get help? He cannot control himself, he heavily drinks even in front of the grandkids.

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

Are there any mothers here who voluntarily gave primary custody to the kids father? I love my children fiercely but tbh I don’t think I’m cut out to be a single parent. Family and friends tell me I’m a great mom but at the end of the day having them on my own is exhausting and I end up just either letting them do whatever they want Bc I don’t feel strong enough to set a limit about it, or yelling at them. They’re 4 and 7 for reference. Please constructive responses only. Thank you!

I really want to move out of my parents place for social reasons etc. I still hangout with friends a lot but it’s just a hassle having to drive a hour or so to kick it with them. So my dilemma is I enjoy saving $ on rent (yes I know can’t have both) but the main reason for me moving back home is so that I can save and buy a house. On the flip side with how expensive houses are right now it’s hard to even buy. I’m in CA btw SoCal. If anyone has any suggestion of places to live for a 26 YO TIA!

I have seen my parents fight every since I was 8 and I’m 27 now and nothing has changed. I discovered at 17 that my dad is gay who had multiple relationships with other men. We were devastated but....

Anyone else struggling to make meaningful friendships in b school? It’s only been two weeks but I’m struggling to go beyond superficial talk with anyone

How can I approach my boyfriend who has an alcohol problem to help him get healthier ?

Both my parents are starting to have some medical issues and its really becoming something super stressful and anxiety provoking. I love my parents a lot and even small things really scare me and make me worried. I’m not sure how to deal with the feelings and stress

I'm a US citizen living abroad I applied almost 11 months ago for my spouse. Married for years, kid. I wait and wait. It seems this will take 2 years, maybe more. I feel trapped. On one side the US system demands I work and domicile in US, the other side says families should be prioritized to stay together. My spouse has had enough of the process. I feel trapped abroad and locked in a dysfunctional system. We're just in limbo, it's depressing

Does anyone have good advice on moving with their cats? We're moving for the first time since adopting them and I think they know lol. They really hate going in the car or carrier under any circumstances, but I'm also concerned about adjusting them to the new home

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

Anyone stuck in an unhappy marriage? How do you deal with loneliness of this profession and complicated family life

Looking to move to San Antonio and we're looking at places in Alta Vista and El Dorado. Pros and cons? We have two kids under five, so looking for a nice family community with good schools.

Do you talk about work with your loved ones? Do they resent you for it? I have no idea how to create a work/life separation

I’m posting this here instead of my usual Big Law bowl because I’m guessing there are people here who will understand. I just need to vent. I am married to a wonderful man who has a young son. My husband is the kindest, most patient and supportive man I’ve ever met other than my dear late grandfather. He is saintly. But the chaos that surrounds him hurts me. I am the primary breadwinner and far out earn my husband and my stepson’s bio mom. I have always put pressure on myself to succeed (Cont.)

I need friends. Feel lonely when everyone else is partying up.

Any 40+ women here interested to make new friends? 40+ man here.

Fellow 🐠 - What qualities would you look for in a junior practitioner (0-5 years experience)? I’m updating a JD and would appreciate your collective inputs. TIA

I felt like I am moving nowhere. I don't know what to do.

I am 29. I decided again to pause studying business in a university. I only have 5 subjects left before graduation. Reasons?

$10,000 total debts,
Pandemic,
Career Crisis

I turned to online classes that offer internship and support. I'm taking digital marketing, python programming and bookkeeping to apply and enhance my skills. I retained my job as a real time analyst.

I sleep 6 hours in average. High sugar intake.

EY application has turned to “We'd like to progress you to the next step in our recruiting process”. How soon does communication begin and typically how long is the process?

I am looking for some inspiration. If you were selecting the location for an office for 100 consultants in Zone 1. Where would you choose and why?

Any leads for a room/1 RK near ZS gurgaon office, have my joining from 5th so need to shift ASAP.
Please help.
TIA

Can we keep the Bosch company laptop with us permanently?

How are holiday party expenses handled at your firm? The MDs on my floor usually split the cost out of pocket.

Does Bank of America have a car lease policy ? If yes, which band are eligible for the same ?

Does BofA provided laptops support USB to ethernet adapter ?

Enrolled in Stern for a few weeks.
The number of the alumni and current students that go to top consulting firms FT& summer intern are countless even for a small class size.
Stern is way more than a finance school. Given its location, do you want to spend your 2 years in a rural area or heart of Manhattan? Location is almost everything for business school. (I have a friend in Cornell that frequently travels about 5 hours to NYC for events.)

What do the exit ops from Capital One BA roles look like? Especially wrt PM roles in big tech.

I currently work at Fidelity Investments in the call center. I want to move my career towards in person planning at a branch and there isn’t a lot of opportunity here at Fidelity to do that in my area. What are some other good firms to work for? I was looking into Merrill Lynch, Morgan Stanley, Edward Jones, and some others. Thoughts?

Can anyone share their experience with an ESOP?

I have been talking to a recruiter for a little over a month about a position. I let her know out the gate that I really wasn’t looking to change jobs, but she just kept wanting to continuing the conversation. I didn’t have 2 interviews with the hiring coming and they know that I am not really looking to make a switch. They are now working on an offer letter and I know they’re going to offer me more money. I’m having my annual review this week. Any advice on how to handle a) job offer b) review?

Looking for inputs...
Is it worth to join snowflake as a solution consultant with hardly 15% of salary hike?
Have a decade of technology consulting experience.
Will like to hear insiders view.

Currently working as product owner with a tier 2 Product organisation with a CTC of 33 lpa and company is quite stable and old. Just got an offer of 48 from a series B funded startup in AI, is worth taking risk ? My yoe is 10 years in Product management.

When are promotions due in ACs

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Any recommendations for group therapists in NYC??

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

Drop below to share 👇

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Hello to all,
If you need someone to save from addiction we can try.
Just contact me

About to go on in person retreat and have struggled with my sobriety a lot. It’s better but not perfect and part of the reason I stay sober is the support of my partner. Would it be viewed as unacceptable if I brought my family with me?

I’m sober curious. I’m also about to help a new non-alcoholic spirit company with their launch.
I have a question for people in recovery. If a brand were to contend that sobriety is a spectrum, or allow for that to a least be part of the conversation, how does that make you feel? Are other brands doing a good job of being inclusive of people who are truly sober?
(I get that NA drinks / spirits can be triggering for people in recovery)
Thank you.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

Has anyone tried using Kratom to help with an addiction to opiates? Does Kratom itself get addictive if you start using it for a while?

Trying to get rid of this casino addiction.. every time I drink,m or I’m bored... thoughts of blackjack stream in

Looking for motivation to get me to my first Alcohol rehab appointment.

Another fly day, but today is 1 year sober for me. I used to love airports because I could run to a bar as soon as I pass security on a Monday morning. Yet I didn't think I had a problem.