Other than someone that's physically violent or cheats, what would it take for you to call off your wedding? Like, what would be enough to make you rethink whether or not you're compatible long term with your partner? I thought we had the same values but I'm realizing he agreed with me on a lot of things in the beginning just because he wanted me so badly, and we're not really on the same page about a lot of things. But I'm mostly happy now I guess... but could this bite me in the future?

Anyone have experience salvaging a marriage with an extreme narcissist? I gave it everything I had for a year but thinking it’s time to call it quits.

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

I gained weight during my last relationship (probably around 30 lbs, and I’m 5’9”). Before my relationship, I felt like I could get any guy. But I’ve been single for 2 years now and it’s been so hard to date. I’m not sure if maybe I’ve lost confidence, but I legitimately don’t know how to get a guy to be interested. Any pointers?

Would you marry a man with ED if he was perfect otherwise?

I’m mid 30s F. Recently started seeing this guy, where he is “good enough”. Good conversations, decent time together, he has a good heart, but nothing about him shines. - not fit (I work out everyday and play sports), meh social skills (he doesn’t have best friends, just few he hangs out with), bit less energy than me.
There is a feeling in me that says “he’s going to be a comfortable life partner” and “he is just good enough, but if I break up I won’t find someone for a long time”
Do I stay?

IBD came to states at 8. My cousins back home are getting arrange married. My parents are starting to pressure me and pity me. But I have no interest in following a "timeline" and am pretty ambivalent when it comes to kids. I already have a SO and do not see a reason to tie the knot just because other people my age are. Anyone else getting pressured and its getting annoying?

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

Trying to help my retired dad - When I google for what to do after retirement, only retirement planning related things shows up. My dad has been a workaholic and hasn’t developed many hobbies he could pursue. I was wondering how I could help him stay slightly occupied if not busy. Anyone here experienced this with your parents or yourself? How did you navigate this?

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

Seriously don't know how to get a boyfriend as an IB analyst, most people who are in a relationship started dating since college. Really don't want to be single when I'm 30•••

What is "Summer Streets" in NYC? Worth doing with the wife?

Silly question but, how did you make close friends when you first moved to Miami? Feeling like a fish out of water, from Texas.

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

New to Chicago - how do I find new friends here?

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

Gift ideas for GF dad? We have been dating a year and a half, I get along with him super well. He is dealing with some medical complications so isn’t to active at the moment but loves cooking and golfing. He is one of those guys who already has everything he needs, and they are super wealthy so I feel bad getting him any clothing or accessories knowing it wouldn’t be as nice as the things he wears, although I know he doesn’t expect anything and would genuinely appreciate anything I got him

Trying to set family expectations and would love thoughts on 2 things. 1. How long after baby will I be ready for visitors beyond our parents? I’m thinking a few weeks. 2. Our 3 grandmothers are 1-3 hour flights away (3 diff places) and cannot travel. When will we be ready to take baby to see them? I’m thinking 4-6 months but that would also be flu/RSV season. Can’t predict the future but family is already talking about trips and I want to set expectations and do what is best for baby. TIA!!

A professional couple (ages 42 and 53) in Long Beach looking for other couples for platonic friendships. We are two relatively successful guys, very secure in our relationship but we don’t have a lot of friends. Neither of us have any family near by. We are looking for a similar couple to be friends with, hangout and just be there for each other when needed.

I have an EBD student on my caseload who just phys assaulted a student today (they have a history). Student is being out of school suspended all next week. Any advice on alt. ways to handle this?

Isnit true that McKinsey Canada raised base by 10% for BA1 and BA2?

Hi ,
Could anyone please suggest which company to join for 9+ experience guy
Hitach Vantara,
Epam system,
Netcracker technology,
CTS
Except CTS-everyone is offering good package

Hi Fishes,

I'm looking for referrals at GS within asset management (risk management roles). I'm working with HSBC AM (no experience into risk management though). Please let me know if someone can refer.

After I max out my:

1.) 401k for the year
2.) My HSA for the year
3.) ROTH IRA for the year

What do people invest in after that? Whats the most tax advantaged way to save once you have maxed all of the above out?

How are experienced hires vs recent grads treated at top consulting firms? I understand that each branch of each firm will be different from the other and it depends on the leadership. But have there been any uniform truths that people have noticed?

Since it was covered by SNL yesterday, I’m looking for suggestions that can make me feel better in the absence WH press briefing. Any suggestions please

Week 13 of social isolation and we decided to get a cat. She’s here Monday, give me all your tips?

TechGC members: what benefits have you gotten out of this group? It seems like a great networking resource, but I balked at the price tag without a tangible understanding of how useful it is.

Hello everyone,

I am working in production support right now. And I don't want to work in support anymore.
I want to be Java full stack developer. But I don't know what all technologies are involved in java full stack.
Could you please tell me which technologies I should prepare to be a "Java full stack developer"?

Thank you in advance.

What has your firm’s turnover like? Are people dropping like flies or holdout out for February bonuses? We seem to have someone resigning every week.

Tech startup or big tech company? And why?

My MOH is probably not going to be able to attend my wedding bc of covid restrictions. Freaking out slightly because I don't have someone close enough to replace her / I don't know how viable her zooming in would be? Any advice / tips?

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

Anyone have a wedding planner they really enjoyed in the DFW area?

For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

Any recommendations for good videographers in NYC/Tri-State? A lot of the affordable ones I find make the cheesiest videos. I’ve certainly found some good ones but very expensive. I know you get what you pay for, but there has to be someone reasonably priced out there that delivers quality work. I am splurging on the photographer so this would just be an extra.

If you have a lace wedding dress, would you get a lace veil or a beaded one? It's been hard trying to find similar/exact lace.

For those who had Catholic ceremonies.. What kind of shoes did you wear that had bottom soles that looked nice in pics? In other words, shoes with bottoms that don’t look scratched up when you are kneeling at the altar.

Anybody not excited about the wedding? I want to get married to my fiancé but I can’t get excited to pay so much for one day…. I feel bad that I’m not more excited but it’s just so stressful

How much did everyone spend on their wedding planner? We’re planning a Fall wedding in Europe with ~80 people and want a full service planner, have been quoted 9-15K and want to see if this is reasonable! TIA

Anyone do their own bridal makeup? Any advice or thoughts?

Considering getting highlights and/or extensions for my wedding. Is it worth it? Or is it a bad idea to update your hair for the wedding?

Thoughts on kindly asking your bridesmaids to please not give a gift? I am over the moon excited that my bridesmaids will be celebrating me and traveling for the wedding and bachelorette. I really do not want a gift from them at the wedding. Full disclosure, my fiancé and I have great paying jobs and my bridesmaids are grad students, artists, and teachers. How would you frame this? Even if they were millionaires I would not want a gift, but I don’t want it taken the wrong way.

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

My stepmom threw me a very elaborate bridal shower. My stepsister pitched in and also did a lot of work for it. Bridesmaids helped but didn’t do a ton. What, if anything should I do for my stepmom and stepsister as a showing of gratitude? I don’t want to spend a lot of $$ but definitely want to act quickly and thoughtfully.

Did you have someone doing hair/makeup for bridesmaids or did you have them do their own? And were you glad you made the decision you did? I’ve been in weddings both ways and trying to decide what I want to do

Fun question: what are the best and the worst wedding trends you’ve seen?

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

Have you talked about your wedding with coworkers? I made the mistake of saying I had to leave work a little early one day because I was going to do a tasting at my venue. That starts a debate on why one shouldn’t get married, how much wedding costs & what a waste it is, dresses are stupid because you only wear them once, etc. I haven’t talked about my wedding much, but I didn’t appreciate this. I ignored the negative comments and we moved the conversation along. Not talking about that anymore!