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Hi fishes, I declined the offer from Pwc AC bangalore on July 28th by sending an email to HR, communicated the same to us_pwc_ac_bangalore_recruitment_services@pwc.com. But I keep getting these emails to complete pre-hiring formalities and daily reminders for the same. How can I make them update the status in system? Also are there repercussions of rejecting an offer. I rejected 3 days after acceptance. PwC Pwc AC
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From a married man and entrepreneur-turned-consultant, you always have time for a call. It's not always convenient or easy and sometimes it means skipping dinner with the team or ducking out early, but you can always make the time.
I had this same issue and your bf is right. Even if you chat while walking to pick up lunch or step outside for 5 minutes that counts. I also "decompressed" with him by my side like scheduling movie /wine nights (little talking, more watching and drinking). Treat relationship as your job too! You can work it out!
I think he's partially right, though I entirely understand the need to have some decompression time. I'm an introvert, and sometimes the last thing I want is to spend time investing more emotional energy when I get home. The difference on my end is that I made a decision to love my wife even when it's far from convenient. If it's a new relationship, perhaps it is a good idea to evaluate, but if it's a longer relationship that just needs to acclimate to recent changes, give it time. Just keep in mind that you can't be selfish in a relationship. It's easy to think that you deserve a Saturday, or time off, or even that he doesn't understand because he's not a consultant. Even if it were all true, it wouldn't make it right to be selfish with your time.
And then you go to dinner with your team, and the 3 hour time difference means you get back to the hotel when they are asleep? I feel like he does not understand my schedule at all and thinks I choose to not call him.
You don't sound like a good match. I used to have a needy partner that was very different than me. We split. Now married and so ridiculously happy and love with someone where we figured it out and most importantly without obligation. I read something about love languages awhile back and parts of it make sense regarding travel and figuring out what people want and need.
Thank you for reply! He also said that it was quite unreasonable that I want to spend Saturdays to myself (nails, dry cleaning, laundry, re packing) and that he doesn't think a relationship can work with seeing each other one day a week. Struggling with this..
Can always make time for a call, 3 hour dinner with team members is 75% fluff. No one notices / cares if you duck out for a 30 minute call with your SO. I like to make the GF call when I am formatting decks, because I can devote majority of attention to conversation and still be productive in background.
Scope creep.
You're not that busy. Half of consulting is fluff. If you really liked this guy, you would skip a happy hour and call him. Sounds like he deserves better than you.
Reevaluate*, not evaluate.
I struggle with this as well but my wife understands though. All relationships are different and how you communicate, how often you communicate, and how long you communicate are totally up to you both. Everyone has their approach. But making sure you are communicating is the important part.
And you had time to type all of this up. Nice!
Was a period where we were together but knew it was over. That was weird. Then some gap, that was hard like after any break up. Then some dating, fun but got old quick. Main thing was to be learning about myself throughout, and I can be very honest with my SO now about my weaknesses. They don't have to like them, but we keep surprises to a minimum and that seems to be important.
Agreed with above, if the relationship is really important to you, you'd make the time and not be selfish. I used to be very selfish and always prioritized what I wanted, what was convenient to me, etc. Then I met a guy and everything changed. When I was working in Asia with a 12 hr time difference, I'd wake up an hour earlier in the mornings to FaceTime with him. Also after work, I'd go back to my hotel to FaceTime him (and he'd get up early for my call) before heading out to dinner with colleagues. On my last project, I only had a 5 min walk between hotel and client, and I'd call him just to say good morning. You don't necessarily have to have a long conversation, but a quick call shows them you love them and miss them even when you're busy in a way that a text cannot replace.
OP, why don't you tell us what effort you are putting into the relationship? Between the work, the nails and the laundry you haven't mentioned how much time you're making for your SO.
@deloitte4, well, for one, he lives in the suburbs and I live in the city. It's about a 40 minute train to him. Thursdays he picks me up usually and I stay with him (and then commute 40 Friday mornings, versus my 5 from my apartment). Saturdays I'll spend half errands and will completely pack so that I can stay with him Saturday, and then I help him with his work stuff all day Sunday and he takes me to the airport. I genuinely spend like two hours at my own place. I repack the same clothes and wash at his place. I feel like I've given up everything that is my weekend life just to spend time with him.
@deloitte3, did you have a hard time leaving that needy person?
If you care enough you will find time. Is he worth it to you? Are you going to miss him if he is not? Think long and hard.
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Agree you should always have time but my husband and I found quickly when we were dating that you don't need to have a call every night. If one of you is too busy or not in the mood to chat then it won't be a good call