What was it that finally made you go sober? I think I just had mine 😔

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Mine was a 10 year tale of trying to moderate, doing a week or two sober to “prove” i was wasn’t an alcoholic. Then dropping the ball hard and binging. This was a constant cycle with a lot of stories to go with them. I was sick of the amount of energy it took to project manage my drinking. Negotiating with myself to bend the rules.

The straw that broke the camels back was a vacation where I had negotiated doing a sober stint. I broke that promise before the vacation even started. The vacation ended with me drinking by myself at midnight, swimming almost black out drunk. I cut my foot open in the water. Woke up the next day in the shared bed with my wife and 2 year old with bloody sheets. Proceeded to drink that day.

Got home and committed to going to meetings. Almost 2 years clean and very grateful.

Good of you to start considering the alternative to how your life has been. If you want to talk, feel free to message me

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After 20 years of partying and swearing I’d “grow up” once I had kids, I went out on our first date night after having my first baby and lost my shoes, dont remember coming home or paying the babysitter. (You guys - our date night was going to a movie. That ended up being martinis before, wine during the movie then dinner with champagne and cocktails I think and closing down a bar. I’m sure our babysitter was really impressed 🤦‍♀️) I learned that night: hungover parenting an infant is the worst. I was “sober curious” and I tried to moderate until I got prego with #2 and was so relieved when I got prego that I didn’t have to try (and fail) to moderate.
When baby #2 was 3 weeks old, we went to wineries and day drank (with new baby). I didn’t go overboard but the first middle of the night waking by baby I felt like SHHHHIT and basically said no more. I went 90 days at first and then felt so good and was so scared at the end of 90 I went a year. Now a year and a half and loving zero hangovers and drunken regrets!
Welcome to the beautiful side and bravo for questioning your relationship with alcohol, despite society telling you you “need it!” For me, sobriety is everything that drinking promises and doesn’t deliver. I am closest to being the person I’ve always wanted to be. I haven’t done meetings but have a wonderful support system through other groups. Fee free to reach out if you ever want to connect!

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Welcome! It was just my time - I had tried to get sober before but I wasn’t actually done drinking I had a moment of clarity that I was an alcoholic and it was a problem. I ended up going the AA route and went to a meeting that night. I felt like shit, but life has gotten a lot better.

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I literally lost every single agency job I’ve had due to d & a. The pain got great enough, so now I’m coming up on 9 months.

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Thanks guys. I missed a very important trip because of over-drinking the night before. Going to try to turn the ship around before it sinks.

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My lows and near misses kept getting lower & more dangerous. If I hadn’t stopped I was probably going to end up dead - by accident. I’ve used up all my nine lives. Not to mention I nearly ruined my career. Thankfully & happily sober now. It’s a process though. Some days are easier than others. I still have dreams where I’m drinking - they are more like nightmares.

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VP OP - I’m real sorry to hear that. But it sounds like it may end up being a positive event in your life, if you let it.

I am in the same boat as SVP1, my drinking had started to spiral over the course of 2-3 years. I was doing more and more reckless shit. I am grateful AF that I had enough clarity around my “rock bottom” to use it as motivation to clean up before anything irreversibly fucked up my life or someone else’s. There definitely could have been and probably should have been.

I use this gratitude as a tool in sobriety. I beat the devil on many occasions and if I slip back into drinking my luck is going to run out sooner than later.

Best of luck to you with everything

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