What's the harshest feedback you've ever gotten from a partner/manager? Do you feel like it made you better at your job? Got some mean a** feedback from a partner and I'm trying not to take it personally.

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“You’re useless as a lawyer and should think of alternative careers.” Said to me as a first year! Am still here, a 6th year in big law. I left that firm!

Keep your head up! Feedback is a buffet! Take what’s good and useful and leave the rest on the table.

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If we did, glad we both got out! 😂

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I was once told "you just aren't very nice to look at" by a client. When I complained to the partner about it they said "well can you blame him?" I still work with both of these men. Can't say it made me better at my job but it helped me take their opinions less seriously.

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I would have cussed up a storm. Wow.

One time someone told me, “you are fired”. That, that was the harshest feedback I ever received. It was a Tuesday. 2011. Broke my heart. But here I am. It will be ok. Keep hustling. ✌🏽

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That’s awesome! How did you bounce back?

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"She's a good follower, but she has no leadership qualities."

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Ugh I am so sorry you had to hear this.

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I was told I was fat by a client. He told me I should lose some weight because I look unhealthy. That comment dropped my confidence flat on the ground. Thanks to him I lost 32 lbs. But seriously, that was very inappropriate.

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Beyond inappropriate! I’ve been told by two partners I need to lose weight (different firms). It made me sad so of course I ate to feel better

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You did what I said but not what I meant…

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I am gad that I never received harsh feedback from any of my managers. They always choose the right words to say to form a constructive criticism. Just so professional.

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That my work was sloppy after I proofed it 6 times. But if they had a typo on something THEY did, it was no big deal.

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“THIS DOES NOT MAKE SENSE”

😂😂 and that was today.

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