Anyone else feel like they don't fit in? I joined a couple months ago and there is no one I feel comfortable talking to. It seems like everyone talks shit about everyone else and acts so fake

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‘If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all’. What you are hearing is a mix of posturing, politicking and bitching. Bitching is normal. Posturing is insecurity expressing itself. Politicking is the worst, especially when someone works to split the group into ‘us & them’. Usually it’s just one or two people channeling their inner ‘mean girl’. When I could identity those individuals, I would work hard to get them out of my group. One rotten apple can spoil the barrel. Just keep your nose clean, work hard, make sure you don’t get caught between two factions by making sure that conflicts are negotiated between the offenders or pushed to a higher level. For example, if you can’t deconflict the demands of two seniors, take it to a manager

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the secret is acting like you belong even if you don’t. that way you set your own pace. leader v follower mindset if that makes sense

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Yea I used to feel the same way. Time will change everything - once you’re in, be kind to those on the outside and try to soften the tone on the inside.

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Unfortunately I've been here too many years to know this is true. Sadly, there is a lot of backstabbing too and even if you don't participate in these cutting tactics, its sometimes hard to not let it bother you.

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This is when I don’t engage in stories and try to find something that person helped me get done and how much it helped

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when the person they bitched about 2 seconds ago comes into the room. I feel like anything I say and do will be a thing and people are gonna take it the wrong way. Next thing you know, it becomes one of those stories like "you'll never believe what the new staff did/said today ..." How do you guys deal with this? I have anxiety pretty much all day at work because of this and I honestly don't know how I'm gonna survive this busy season

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