Anyone else out there who’s spouse makes them feel worthless most days? I have got to get some kind of medication for this so I can keep working.

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Why do you have to? If she's not working with you it's not a partnership

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You tend to post the same issue/complaint periodically. You don’t seem to want to listen to sensible advice. What are you looking for?

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Maybe a new spouse...why are they making you feel worthless?

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You have to be the one to make the change - we can’t. If you think you have to stick it out and go on meds and won’t listen to any other sensible advice in this thread - that is your choice. It’s hard to see that though when you post in a group like this to reach out but won’t make an honest effort yourself to improve your life. We live a life of choices - good luck with whatever you choose but I really hope you choose you.

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Go to counseling together to see if that helps. If it doesn’t hard decision but likely does no one good to stay in toxic relationship. Good luck

Talk to a professional

No way in H would she go. I just need something so I can tolerate the rage and mocking

Don’t tolerate it - my sister was in bad relationship and it started to seriously effect her health and self esteem. It was hard to break/divorce since 3 kids were also involved. Now she is in a great relationship and kids are well adjusted.

Have to.

Agreed, still have to. Still need meds.

Maybe try explaining the issue to see if we can offer advice.

Why do you have to tolerate them? Or are you using your spouse as an excuse to get names of medications that you can try to coerce out of your doctor?

Wow, judgmental much? It’s not consistent, but periodic. Have I lost a job due to the treatment? Yes. Have I been suicidal at times due to it? Yes. I haven’t walked in your shoes- don’t judge mine.

The relationship sounds toxic man of your not both building to success what’s the point life is meant for happiness ... what do you really want ?

Nobody is judging you OP. But when you say “I’ve to tolerate them” it makes people wonder. It sounds like you have a battle with addiction, not your spouse

Respectfully say - I want both of us to speak to each other in a respectful and productive way. Set a small boundary for what you think you can do to start making change happen. A therapist once told me - can you be 1% more honest or direct? Do find a counselor - they will give you practical steps and meds to start changing the dynamic. I also believe prayer and meditation relieves stress, creates more inner calm and begins a restorative process

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