Day 54. Anxiety has transitioned into a deep apathy and anhedonic state which seems pretty hard to get out of. I took a sick leave at work. Have negative energy right now. How long will this last?

What’s our bereavement policy for PDM? Lost a loved one yesterday…

Would you recommend the CVS test? I dont think I want to get it done due to the risks.

Anyone interested in working with a health coach to support you with nutrition, career, relationship and overall lifestyle change? DM or comment below for more details!

Any indoor basketball courts in downtown toronto I could go to for drop ins/21 etc. I used to play before but the pandemic took me out of routine and I'm looking to get back to the court during winter (hopefully somewhere indoors)

What are some good gyms in the city? I like to do a mix of cardio and strength, a pool would be nice but not a must.

Any recommendation for a therapist around Jersey City/ NYC area? I have called 15 people so far and none of them are taking new clients. This isn't helping my anxiety.

Hey everybody! If anyone is interested in joining a rugby club(mens and womens leagues) let me know. We just kicked off the fall season. It’s a great way to make friends and get a really good workout in.

Well I recently told a guy I have been seeing I have HSV-2. We have not yet been physical but it’s been heading that direction. Man I hate this part - waiting to see what his response will be after he researches and talks to his doctor. I’m on daily meds which help reduce transmission risk. You’d think that since HSV-2 affects 20% of Americans and likely a higher % of gay men, there would be less taboo but it’s hardly ever talked about. Anyone else in my shoes? Or had it disclosed to them?

Anyone haves OB/GYN in the Chicagoland area you would suggest? Looking for west suburbs, Elmhurst, Lombard area. Thanks!

LADIES: SWEAT, Fitbod or else for HIIT workouts & committing to a routine?

New to NYC and looking for a good OBGYN and dentist... any recommendations that are covered by EY insurance? And work Fridays? So hard with all of the travel!

How do you determine whether your inability to get out of bed in the mornings is due to depression or mere avoidance of all the crushing work and stress that awaits you? Still WFH and now beginning to get worried at how late I’m getting out of bed these last few weeks and feeling completely unmotivated to do anything.

Thinking of getting a peloton. Anyone actually experience weight loss and overall health improvement from having one?

I make excuses for not going to the gym and the number 1 being convenience so I figure if it’s in my actual home then I have no excuses!

Be nice, thanks! 😊

Losing hair really badly!!! :( I dont know if its the thyroid meds or just pregnancy. I'm currently 13 weeks. Any recommendations? I'm doing the hair oil stuff but that will take time.

Do any retail workers out there still get severe anxiety when you see someone without a mask?

Those who had their babies, are you guys making your whole family take tdap vaccine? Like parents, in laws, siblings? We haven't asked but what if they dont want to?

There’s no excuse that by the age of 25 you have never tried therapy. I’m speaking directly to the demographic in this group who I’m sure over 95% of people in here are earning 6 figures. Key word: TRY. I understand it’s not for everyone but to have never even attempted seeking therapy is a injustice to yourself and the people around you.

Is there anyone here that is a physician advisor? If so, how do you like it?

I don't get how people can be so lax about getting covid. Like whenever I talk to those "I'm YoUnG aNd HeALtHy" people they say it'll just be a cold, but I have a cold right now and I'm miserable 🤒 like do people like getting sick?

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Can you change your 401k contribution amount specifically for bonuses, in the fidelity 401k? You can do this for Schwab 401k but not seeing an option for fidelity

Anyone have any resources (online) for settling claims wish Medicare liens? Looking for ways to resolve early while ensuring potential lien is preserved.

Follow up post to my last post…My husband was laid off from the company where I also work. I am feeling really isolated / depressed about working and moving forward. I’m also getting to a stage where I’m really sad that people haven’t reached out to either my husband or myself to send well wishes or provide support. It’s like they don’t know what to say or I make them feel awkward so they don’t bother…I’m trying to focus on a few that have been supportive but it’s hard…Any words of advice? 😞

Hello all
Anyone have idea about whales cloud technology company?
I have got an offer for expert position in R&D team gurgaon.

Hi Guys,

I have an offer from JPMC of 27 lacs Fixed and HR round pending for Morgan Stanely Bangalore.
How much should I ask?
YOE:7 Yrs, Stack: Scala Spark

Also which is better JP or MS? I heard rumours about Job security issues at MS. TIA

Do you consider Dallas to be "conservative"?

Good morning Fishies!! Question of the day. What’s an experience you’ve had dealing with micro-aggressions? How did you deal with it? Do you feel like you reclaimed your power and confidence?

Renters: if you love your place, please let me know. My apartment complex is mehhh now and rent for my 2 bedroom/2bathroom, 1100 sq. ft. apartment is going up to $2,600+. I don’t mind the price but I need more amenities for it to be worth it. Also is Hanover worth the hype?

Looking for some advice on how to branch off into a job in tech. I’m a Mechanical engineer interested in working in a big tech company. I have some programming experience but excel mostly in mechanical and product design as well as 3D CAD. Was wondering if any other mechanical engineers have managed to make the shift from a traditional mech job to a tech job and if you could give me advice on the best path that worked for you. Thanks!

What do you do when there’s absolutely nothing going on at work? The projects I’m working on are all in production, and I’ve raised my hand several times about taking on new work, but there’s nothing right now. Don’t get me wrong, the down-time is nice…but I’m hungry to make stuff.

Was anyone able to successfully get global entry after having a DUI on their record?

We have been utilizing a third party asset manager. We have grown to the point where we just don’t think it makes financial sense to continue to do that and need to bring the portfolio management in-house. Have a few questions for the group:
How many models do you run?
How much time do you devote to this weekly?
What advice would you give to someone who has had total reliance on TAMPs but making a complete change to investment management style?

What will it take to retire the FAANG acronym? 🤔

Any recommendations for where to get Botox done in the bay/SF? Looking to get it in the frown are, maybe the forehead

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
⏸ 🌬 ▶️

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

For everyone in recovery, please reach out and stay in touch with your people. Isolation is a killer.

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Any recommendations for group therapists in NYC??

About to go on in person retreat and have struggled with my sobriety a lot. It’s better but not perfect and part of the reason I stay sober is the support of my partner. Would it be viewed as unacceptable if I brought my family with me?

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Has anyone tried using Kratom to help with an addiction to opiates? Does Kratom itself get addictive if you start using it for a while?

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others