Desperate parent of an almost 4 year old here.

Our toddler isn't quite done with potty training. He knows to run to the potty to pee, but poops are almost always an accident. We are working with a pediatric GI to resolve chronic constipation issues + rewards for timely pooping.

My son's daycare is just being a pain and constantly sending emails reminding us how tough it is on the teachers / staff, despite us telling them how much we're trying.

Any parents who can relate or offer guidance?

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First don’t worry your okay and a 💯 good parent even if your kids 💩 s randomly.

My daughter who is now 8 had a similar issue and it was mostly a won’t not can’t and she is fine now. Sometimes it takes time or extrinsic motivation to move them forward. We just finished potty training our 3 year old with the ability to watch the paw patrol movie.

I would first see if it’s a fear of using #2 or a gi issue.

It should work itself out. If the child can pee fine your 95% of the way there

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So my daughter had a similar issue but hers was psychological. She would hold it until her body would expel it out but by that time it was painful; so she would hold it again for fear of getting hurt. We had to break her of that cycle and help her realize that, if you go at the right time that it doesn’t hurt.

I would also like to echo that you aren’t a bad parent. Yes it’s a struggle and it probably feels like a lot are against you, but you’re not alone. It does get better!

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