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My husband makes 3x as much as me but I provide insurance for us. Sometimes I get down because I know that I could never afford this life without him but we’re a team and my hours allow me to take care of the kids during breaks and during his busy season when he’s working 70+ hour weeks. He’s also basically on call for his biggest clients 24/7 so he certainly earns that paycheck! I’m completely off the clock when I leave school (I go in early and stay late but just have my own personal rule where school stays at school).
Yes, we know how hard you work!! And it sounds like you guys make a great team. It can make you feel sensitive and even a little insecure sometimes when you don't make as much as you wish or don't feel like you could make more. I totally get it.
My husband makes significantly more than I do. It has never been an issue. Our health insurance is through my work. We have never separated or celebrated our salary difference. We both consider our salaries as one amount for our household.
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That is one thing I will never feel bad about. My husband knew my salary would be crap as a social worker before we got married. I work too hard to feel bad about my salary.
I’m sure your husband feels the same. Don’t add that to your thoughts, it will just bring you down.
❤️Good vibes your way! Teacher pay is disgustingly unfair.
My ex (he was 32 when he died in a single car DUI accident, I was 6+ yrs older than him) legit was verbally abusive about my salary: he HATED that I made almost double what he did. I brought it up once when he was drunk & he lost his sh*t on me . Threw him out the next day.
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry he treated you that way. I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself, and also sorry that he died that way. :(
Always! My husband started out as a carpenter, and proceeded to climb the ladder into sales and eventually president of his construction company. I always say I am just a lowly paraprofessional one more time, but he always reminds me that she would never be where he is without me information about
I don't think I make as much as my partner BUT I do have more in savings than him, which I think makes him a bit more uncomfortable but it's fine - it's separate to us, I just like to have my own little nest egg
That's completely understandable!
He makes significantly more but we knew that would be the case based on our career choices. I carry the insurance, though, because it’s better benefits for less than half his cost.
Me too! It’s a huge help to our family of 5!
We "joke" a lot about how I'll need to find a better job if I really want the house I want or etc. But I was going into teaching when we started dating, was a teacher when he proposed, & still teaching now that we have a family. He knew what he was getting into haha.
We know that obviously the $25k difference between us would be nice to fill in the gap if I were doing something else, but while he pays for a lot of bills, I pick up our health insurance which is a lot better through my work, groceries, vet costs for our dogs, daycare (again, cheaper through my work), as well as most vacation expenses and extra unplanned family costs like doctor's visits or vehicle maintenance.
I wouldn't say there are any feelings for us in terms of blame for income differences.....spending is a story for another time though!
I make just over $100K. My husband makes $120K….and $80K a year in military retirement and disability pay.
I’m only on year 12 on our salary schedule. I won’t max out for another 4 years in my lane.
My husband thankfully paid off my student loans and car for me. Our only debt is our mortgage.
Although I’m a teacher, I’ve always made a little more than my husband which has resulted in a lot of “kept man” jokes around tax time when he’s reminded of it. I think both of us are glad that someone is making a little more—doesn’t matter who.
Oh he makes significantly more (I'm a para and barely make 20k a year). It's never been an issue for us. I also carry our insurance.
In the last five years, I’ve outpaced my spouse. We’ve always had together money and personal money accounts, so it has never been an issue.
Garbage it...My Husband makes in a week what I make in a month always has always will. He does not complain and after 43 years still does not worry about it. Your Husband loves you anyway....:)
Most relationships have a bread winner, and that's okay. I think the most important thing is that there is healthy communication around money, that you have shared goals for what you are saving and who's paying for what. I wouldn't waste any time feeling guilty if you are working to contribute to the household. Most men don't expect their partners to make a lot more than them because of cultural expectations (though I'm sure plenty of them are happy about it if they end up in that situation haha)
My husband is in law enforcement. For many years I made more than him. Now we are close to the same. It is a shame our first responders risk their lives daily and get paid so little and many disrespected on a daily basis.
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They should be paid more and weed out the bad apples.
Arizona Middle School--I make a little more than my husband, but it's never been an issue. He fully supported me (financially & emotionally) when I decided to go back to school and finish my degree. It doesn't bother him at all that I make the "big bucks." HA! Our paychecks go into the same checking account from which all our bills are paid. I'm sure sales must be a difficult field to be in simply because of the up & down years, but don't feel bad about having a job that makes you happy. And remember, whether you realize it or not, you are making a difference in someone's life. That's a huge reward!
First off do not feel bad, you are contributing to your home. My partner works in a field where his income varies greatly and he makes a lot less than me so we struggle financially. I have learned how to invest in stocks and I am currently starting a small online business so I can bring in more money. You can look for ways outside of teaching to bring in more money if that helps you feel better.
My spouse usually makes me than I do. I carry our insurance though and that is worth every penny between that gap.
My husband makes ALOT more than I do as a paraprofessional. When money gets tight and the financial pressure is ON… he is not very understanding/ ok with what I make. I am looking into other job opportunities now and we are seperating…so 🤷🏽♀️.
In the beginning I made more than my husband. We both had a career change and
I now make pennies to his dollars. We have always considered our finances just that, ours. I don’t have a second thought about it., if he does he hasn’t mentioned it in 27 yrs. Our pay is direct deposited into our account. He spends what he want and so do I. #NOPRESSURE