Ever realize too late that some of your old coworkers hate you behind your back?

Not even talking the cold shoulder after you go to a different place. Just like actively despise you to the point of sabotaging future jobs.

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yeah one time my partner wrote a really long email complaining about his “writing partner”. said they were terrible, a no talent hack, didn’t even know why they bothered to hire them in the first place because of how awful they are. then they accidentally sent it to me while i was sitting right next to him. i went and threw up then started crying after. this was my first job. our entire time together they denied it was about me and it was someone else instead.

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it’s okay. i’m now at an award winning agency and he’s at some no name place in a small market. and i have a partner i genuinely care about.

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The world of creativity often feels like the most toxic of all—full of backstabbing, inflated egos, and pointless drama. In the end, it’s all for nothing. We’ll be gone soon, and everything we obsess over will be nothing more than dust in the wind.

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I’ll definitely be gone soon. But I need to feed my kids while I’m still alive.

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Hmm. I have worked with a few CDs over the years who I have really disliked. The most recent on was a bully and made lots of people cry. I definitely would tell anyone who asked what I thought. If they are on my “never again” list and a friend mentioned them- I’d definitely warn them.

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Yep, lots of CD bullies. I resigned with no plan, because of one.

When it comes to reputation, we all have one. Whether we like the reputation we have or not is a different matter. The thing about reputation is that it’s earned. I’ve had moments when I’ve had this realization. After the initial gut punch, I treated it as a gift. Try to see the opportunity here. Spend time being introspective to figure out the why: You’ll probably conclude that some of it is fair, some of it is not. But mostly what I learned is that it doesn’t matter what I think or how good my intentions may have been. If others think it, it’s real to them. You can’t please everyone and you shouldn’t set out to. But it’s good to reflect, and to be aware of things about your style that may trigger others. Ask questions of yourelf to understand why you might have this reputation. What to do about it? Dig deep. Reflect. Get out and connect with your advocates and even with your detractors. Actively Listen. Embrace the Learnings. You can totally evolve your reputation. Betcha next time a recruiter calls you’ll have more people in your camp. You got this OP.

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I highly doubt anyone is actively trying to sabotage you. Unless your definition of sabotage is not recommending you for roles, I wouldn’t recommend someone I didn’t like either.

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I can’t say I knew them to be talking shit about people. I only briefly worked with them. I didn’t have a negative opinion of them from any interaction. They were just being polite to my face I guess.

They had a great book of work. But they did seem to prefer to work alone in general. Not someone that had a full time partner. I did feel slightly like a third wheel. Especially since nothing sold while I was on the project. It was rebriefed. So we didn’t even present work to client. And I had other projects going on, so left that one.

Any inkling as to why they'd have such strong feelings about you?

The only scenario I could even imagine bothering to actively sabotage someone is if they were stealing work or credit.

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Haha. I don’t have a bunch of award-winning projects that anyone would even want to steal credit for. And anything in my book lists my specific role. Some stuff I’m proud of. But nothing anyone has really heard of.

Of course, you have to talk yourself up somewhat. You are selling yourself as an employee. Which is hard enough.

Sometimes people just don’t like you. Or anything about you. The only reason you even interact is because you are both being paid to be in the same building together.

I’ve made some real friends in this industry over the years. But never got involved with the “political class.”

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I don’t think about them at all.

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