Has anyone been in a very traumatic car accident (eg family members in critical condition). If so how did you grieve / process the complicated guilt and other feelings day to day (beyond help of a therapist)? Trying to figure out how to help this friend remotely.

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

Would you recommend Sedona during Christmas or San Diego during Christmas with a 1.5 year old? Entertainment, safety, meaningful experience-focused.

Sedona will be much colder, possibly snowing/icy and will be hiking, hot tub, enjoying the scenery focused. San Diego will be beach, enjoying scenery focused. Both Airbnb options look beautiful. Will also have 60 year old grandparents joining

Hi everyone I am relocating to Hyderabad next month. Even though I look forward to meeting new people I can’t seem to ignore the fact that I will move away from family. My family situation is already complicated, my mom and dad are not on good terms so we don’t live together and when I move it’ll get worse. I am financially independent but I feel guilty for not being there for them. Is there any possibility of getting transferred to Gurgaon office(a lot closer to my home)if I talk to my manager?

Does anyone here work for Axiom or know someone who does and, if so, how difficult is it to stay fully engaged?

Why are relationships so difficult!!!

So we will be shut down for a while. What are some things you will send home or do for Preschoolers during the sit down?

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

I'm in a two doc household. We've started doing online therapy to help manage the stress of this - been really hard on both of us

My kids were really upset with me when I told them that my job as an engineer did not mean that I drove trains for a living

Anybody else miss the con-call hold music? I feel like I am missing an old friend...

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

I spent an hour today sitting with one of my patients getting a chemo infusion. Lonely and weird time to not have his wife in there with him

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

I’ve always been a big saver minimum 15% to maxing out my 401k since I graduated college. I’m married to someone who thinks 6% is enough and likes $$$ cars. Other than the cars, they dont really spend money. For the married 🐠, how do you have the conversation with them that what they are doing isn’t enough? I try to guide them and say you want the $$$ cars but the salary you have won’t get there and you’re going to have to find a job that gets them the salary…. Then the fight starts.

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

Does anyone here know anyone who has left their CM role? What was the next step in their career?

What's dating like in SF? New to the area.

Any facial recommendations in the city?

I have an interview for an AR Specialist position wish me luck Fishbowl Family!!! And any pointers would be accepted.

How did you go about finding a therapist and/or coach to support you in your career transition? What value did they add, what would you do same/different if you had the time again and any other tips?

In Union Square NYC for the night. Any fish wanna grab a drink or recommend a good pub to hit alone?

Hi All, how much should I expect to pay for someone to do my taxes for me? (Ball park)
- fbar
- state
- Federal

Also I moved out from MA in February so not sure if I'd also still need to file in MA?

Is there a simple fix to remove the iManage number from the title of a PDF when I attach it to an Outlook email? My current solution is saving local and attaching from there, but there has to be a better way. Thanks!!!

How is SAP practice in LTI... Do we have ample implementation projects?

Will the learning be good and how about firm culture , onsite opportunities?

I have an offer from fidelity investments and Amadeus labs. Pay is almost same. Please suggest which is good in terms of learning, wlb, job security, growth.

There is no more powerful feeling than holding a draw-4 card in uno

Hello all!
I'm 26, I studied economics but I don't know why I'm not much into investing/trading. Someone else like this?
I recognize this is not a very good approach for someone with money "knowledge" and I would like to change this mindset. My main weakness is that I easily get bored of following the market and that I do not see big opportunities. Any advice?
Where to start learning, general advice for LT and ST investments, things you learnt, books that changed your pov on the topic etc.

Thx!

Has any companies given their employees good raises to help with the rising costs of everything? I was a top performer and only got around 3% this last year.

Can you share first year salary for midsize firms? I'm in NJ, but curious to hear other markets. Also billable targets? Thanks!

Relatively new rider here. I can hold my own on the street, but not sure I'm braking as efficiently/well as I could.
Any advice?

Misogyny in the film industry? Is it true that women are treated like hot garbage or is it at least bearable? It's my dream to become an actress but I don't want to go through some of the stuff that I've heard of.

I take immense comfort in knowing that chances are, I cross paths with some of you daily. Does anyone else notice this? It’s fascinating.

Has anyone else noticed they’re stressed without “feeling” stressed? I don’t feel as stressed as when I was in college. However, I’m still on the job hunt and I think stress is manifesting itself without me realizing it. My skin is showing really bad acne, I feel unmotivated even to fill out job applications; I’m having trouble falling asleep at night and even though I sleep past noon sometimes I still feel tired during the day... Is it stress or burnout?

Feeling down and very tired...doing a second launch in a row in pharma. Not bad not great . Not something I’m passionate about..this week worked till 3 am 2 days in a row.. yet can’t sleep feel ...

Would it be weird to send my ex a goodbye letter in the mail? He leaves for a military deployment soon for almost 1 year, and I generally care / miss him.

Can we talk about CBD oil? Who’s using it? Any bad effects short or long term? How can I get started? How much/how often? Does it really make a difference to stress levels?

I live alone and work for myself. Having horrible productivity issues right now. Its a cycle of procrastination and shame. Horrible mindset to have while trying to “create”. Working out hasn’t helped

Now entering my third week of no booze, after getting horribly and embarrassingly wasted at my work summer party. I won't lie, even though I find myself wanting a drink often, it feels really good.

Have you felt like the industry (including job searching) left you contempt or jaded to the point, you’ve started turning into a nihilist?

Can anyone recommend a bilingual (English/Spanish) therapist in NYC? Manhattan or Brooklyn preferably

I need help. I'm dealing with multiple losses in the same week and having a hard time... I took some time off from work but I have no motivation to do anything. I don't want to go back to work and don't care about my work right now. I want to quit but I don't want to make a rash decision but need a long break. It's also not fair to my team that I can't give it my 100%. What can I do?

Struggling with ADHD, anxiety and depression and my therapist suggested I might benefit from medication. Anyone with Blue Cross Blue Shield in nyc recommend their psychiatrist?

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

This is the only bowl I can think to post in, but I'm really feeling it today. Has anyone lost their best friend (i.e. through time/growing up) and feel like none of their current friends could live up to the fun/connection you used to have with your high school BFF? I feel like I put too much focus on that one friend and also my boyfriend and just never actually made time for anyone else. I fucked myself over.

Struggling with identity now that I’ve finally, truly accepted depression/anxiety are medical conditions I need meds for. I love who I am on meds, but I hate feeling like that isn’t “the real me."

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

I’m riddled with anxiety and emotionally convinced that something bad is going to happen today. It feels like instinct mixed with dread. Does anyone else get this? How do you move past it?

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

I want to advance in my career, but I have no energy to do anything when I get home, even if it's an early day.

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I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.