Hi, my partner and I were close to finalizing a house, but he mentioned that he doesn’t feel I have the same level of drive as him and that he doesn’t see me as a mother figure. When I asked if he wanted to move forward with the house, he said he’s unsure. There’s a lot more to the story, but I’m feeling really confused about where our relationship stands. Please be kind in your comments. I feel completely lost.

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

My anxiety has been at bay after changing my job and just feeling like I HAVE control over my life. But now it's back because I feel like I'm behind in other aspects of my life (I.e dating). I have so many friends getting engaged and I just feel... anxious since I am SO single. I'm 27, and I know I'm at that age where people do but it just sucks. I've been on the apps too and it's just... more demotivating honestly than anything else

Every night for like the past month I’ve been getting incredibly emotional about adulthood. I miss the lack of responsibility, the simplicity of life, friends were always around, and less pressure to be successful.

I’m 3 years out of college now so it’s not like I just started doing this stuff, but I am feeling the exact same feeling as I did when I first started work and just wanted to be back in college. I know I just need to grow up and accept that’s how life is but it’s incredibly upsetting

Should I break up with my girlfriend? We have been dating for close to 2 years and there are some things that have irked me (her lack of care around finances, talks about her exes, super insecure about her looks (complained to me when she was drunk last Friday how no guys bought her drinks, I wasn’t there), has a terrible relationship with her mom and dad and gets upset when I go out for the weekend to hangout with my mom (father died horribly last year and she has been alone). To be continued.

if someone joined EY gds within how many days he/she can add their dependents???

in which month??

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

If you've been struggling with depression and anxiety to the point you need therapy and medication, do you think it's best to share this with close workers?

Sometimes I get overwhelmed at work due to these issues. Could mentioning these problems backfire?

What are your thoughts on this?

What do couples in consulting and same practice talk about? Does work talk continue 24*7? How do you balance it? It’s becoming too much work talk to handle.

When did you know your firm wasn't right for you? I'm not sure if it's just the stress of being a new attorney with a family or if my job isn't the right fit. I work in civil litigation and am consistently below my billables. I can't stay late because my kids need me and I can't work on the weekends because I have to maintain my house and take care of my kids. I'm being constantly told to work harder, stay later, etc but it's not practical. Or am I not approaching this with the right mindset?

Most South Asian names seem to be anglicized in the US. Since it seems inevitable, any new parents have experience with getting ahead of the curve & going with an anglicized version in birth cert?

Mom of two here (21 month old and 5 month old) who is starting to consider having a third. I am in my late 30’s and my doctor just recommended I start trying at 6 months postpartum. I am thinking I want to start closer to 8-10 months postpartum but have no idea what to expect with a third. Is anyone in a similar situation? Moms or Dads of two, do you ever look back and wish you had tried for three? Moms or Dads of three, how was the transition from two to three and how much did life change?

Random question but do you let your kids hang out in your bedroom and use your master bath if applicable? My kids always seem to want to use our bathroom instead of theirs and my spouse doesn't care but I grew up with my parent's room basically being off limits and think I'd prefer it that way.

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

IBD came to states at 8. My cousins back home are getting arrange married. My parents are starting to pressure me and pity me. But I have no interest in following a "timeline" and am pretty ambivalent when it comes to kids. I already have a SO and do not see a reason to tie the knot just because other people my age are. Anyone else getting pressured and its getting annoying?

About to have a difficult conversation with my parents about treating my wife with respect. Please send advice and good vibes.

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

If you had two kids would you let them both learn the same 2nd language that neither you or your spouse know?

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

I’m finding that more and more people don’t care about what happens with her family after they die have you been observing this trend as well?

How did you pick your travel system? So hard to choose too many options 🥹. Feeling overwhelmed

Let's post salaries, I'll go first senior 2 ITS 83k big 4

Woman I went on one date with keeps me informed on what she's doing. I.e. Seeing her girlfriend or on her way to a birthday party. Not used to this level of transparency after just one date. We do have a second date planned. Thoughts?

Anyone expecting layoffs due to COVID-19? There’s an indefinite hiring freeze and most promotions and have been paused. 👀

Hello all

Could you please let me know the insurance coverage in Lti.

Would like to know coverage per person and is there option for floater against complete family.

Thanks in advance

Looking for Best realtor deals available in Atlanta. I wish to sell a property but feel 6% is too high for commission. Pls share best deals you were able to get from a realtor

Is there any profile which is based on purely SQL and nothing else, no excel/tableau/powerbi task.

What salary should I accept for a Manager of Instructional Design? I have 15 yrs exp in L&D and an ATD cert. with Big Tech experience.

Anyone have pay/salaries for Instrumentation work? Not industrial but physical applications of strain gages, temperature, pressure, voltages, displacements, accelerations…

Anyone here from IQVIA that have had their green card sponsored here? What was your timeline like?

I'm new to the field. Everyone seems extremely stressed and overworked. Am I seeing the worst of it, or is that the norm?

Hi,

Can ibm pay 28.5 ctc under 7B band?

Does TCS give joining date after BGC completion?

Anyone transition from healthcare to legal sector? I reached out to a recruiter because I’m looking to make that transition from healthcare administrative to a legal project coordinator. What are some transferable skills and goals I can best illustrate to recruiters and hiring managers?

2nd year assoc. here. Finding myself spending 3-5 hours researching/analyzing issues that should only take 1-3 hours. I find myself questioning - for every assignment - is this the issue I was asked to look into? Did I read that case right? Does this analysis make sense? And I end up reading the same cases over and over. Does anyone have advice for being more confident/efficient on tasks, especially research?

Hey everyone! What's the startup scene like in Denver?

Hello to all b4 🐠 - what's your view on the cultural differences between b4 in Australia? Feel free to put down a ranking to your best knowledge, anecdotal or not. Thanks!

When are Pune offices reopening?

Exhausted by entitled clients that are just plain nasty. Is it just me or are clients everywhere getting more demanding and treating their agencies worse?

Weekends are really tough when you're unemployed and job searching.

Has anyone else noticed they’re stressed without “feeling” stressed? I don’t feel as stressed as when I was in college. However, I’m still on the job hunt and I think stress is manifesting itself without me realizing it. My skin is showing really bad acne, I feel unmotivated even to fill out job applications; I’m having trouble falling asleep at night and even though I sleep past noon sometimes I still feel tired during the day... Is it stress or burnout?

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

My mental health has suffered tremendously over the past month. I have a therapist that I probably should see more of but I’m jobless and need to save. I am an aspiring entrepreneur with an inspiring business idea (to me lol) but my anxiety and depression is hindering me severely… fuck my brain. Any other founders here? It’s f‘ing tough.

Would it be bad if I change my start date? I proposed to my employer a start date 2 weeks after I quit my job, but now that I think about it, I feel like I need a week to recharge before starting a new job.

I’ve become negative about my life and can only think how I’ve been wronged, how I’m stuck, and frustrations w/ various circumstances in my life. They all feel connected in a cycle I can’t escape bc it’s all cause and effect ending up back where it started. I can’t find where to break the toxic cycle of negative in my life or how to make those circumstances better. I feel my life has backed me into a corner. I’m aware I’m playing victim and not taking charge of my life. Advice on breaking free?

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

Love how i think... 'oooh haven’t been anxious in a while ’ then before bed I start to get anxious... 😩

Anyone else feeling particularly out of whack the pst week or2 ? I feel out of touch and out of control; inspired but unmotivated, drinking and smoking a lot of pot ; anxious but not worried, insomnia

Signed up for improv theater to break my presentation anxiety. I'm freaking out a bit - but hopefully it will help. Wish me good luck.

I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.

Sometimes my anxiety is so intense I can’t clearly articulate my thoughts and I have to laugh it off like I’m tired. But I’m not sleepy.

Friendly reminder that depression is a protected disability. File paperwork with your company and they legally cannot destroy your health by overworking you.

Can anyone recommend a good psychiatrist who handles medication that isn't crazy expensive. Thanks!

If I had a dollar for every time my boss screamed “UGH C’MON” at his computer... It’d be enough to buy myself the medical coverage my company doesn’t provide. 🙃

Had to pull an all nighter and am convinced I will not make it through this day. Prayers are greatly appreciated.

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?