How can I stop my unhealthy habit of patronizing prostitutes. I need real help cos I’m tired but can’t stop. I’m single, don’t have any meaningful relationship outside my immediate family and just turned 30. I spend all my money on alcohol and prostitutes... so tired of this shit!!!

26/F Toronto, Indian, dangerously independent
Bored of insecure men on dating apps 🤷🏽‍♀️☺️

Any lady 🐠 up for a drink/dinner tonight? 23 M here.

28F looking to move to SD in the next 6 months from DC and wondering what dating in San Diego is like?

How often do you have sex? How long have you been together? I’m lucky if I get it 1x a week and I’m getting frustrated.

Where do professionals 30+ meet people these days besides dating apps?!

A coworker (diff depts) and I realized we live in the same neighborhood after running into each other on the street. We started talking more in the office and he ended one convo with “we should get drinks sometime”. I gave him my number via slack and said to hit me up when he wants to get together. Hadn’t heard from him in a couple weeks then connected him to my friend who works for a company he’s trying to sell to. Then he asked if I’d set him up with my friend :( think I have any chance?

Recently divorced after 10+ yrs (40M, Denver)... Starting to figure out dating again. What age difference is it too cringe to try to date?... 10 yrs younger ok? If you're low 30'sF us a 40M in play?

Does anyone else find themselves befriending hookups? I seem to do it naturally, but then it adds a new dimension of complication to the friendship (even if both parties don’t want a relationship). Is this normal?

I lived in tampa in my early 20s and am now in my late 30s and looking to move back. One of the reason I left is because I felt I had too much energy for the city for a single young professional, but now husband is from there and we have a kid but we are both social people. Do you guys find it easy to meet interesting people and has the city gotten any more fun?

Lockdown makes it hard to date

In my 40s, here in the larger NYC area for a couple weeks visiting family. Male, athletic. If anyone's interested in chatting (admittedly in a playful mood currently, so that's my current preference), drop me a DM.

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

29F, Texas. Willing to relocate to anywhere in usa or Canada. Seeking someone mature, stable, family oriented. Open to chatting to see if its a mutual match.

Has anyone ever been in a mostly platonic relationship? I don’t like to label myself much, but I don’t really like intimacy and don’t really like romance. Some people would say I’m asexual/aromantic, but unless that too is a spectrum, I don’t think I fit squarely into that group. As I get older, I’m realizing I’m feeling very lonely. It would be nice to find someone, but have it be platonic (any gender/sex). It’s weird, I know. It’s hard to articulate as well. Can anyone relate? 😭😭

If at all, how do you guys manage romantic relationships in IB? It’s easier if your s/o is in the industry bc they have an innate understanding someone outside wouldn’t but I don’t think that means you have to find someone in the industry. Curious to hear some thoughts.

Hi, I'm new here, and I didn't know there was a dating feature but it seems cool.

How's the LGBT dating scene at HBS? Are most people single or partnered

26F. Feeling a bit lost with the dating scene in the city. I know this is an oft discussed topic on this bowl but feeling more and more disconnected with men in the city. Anybody else feel this way? How do you get over it?

Any F 🐠 fish want to grab drinks today? 32/M

I feel left out in my firm. How do I make 'friends' with my colleagues? I've been here for a year. I am naturally not a very out going person, was never 'cool' and I struggle to speak in group situations / make engaging conversation with higher ups. It is an important trait to have in this job and I just don't know how to do this. It makes me very upset - I even sought therapy but wasn't useful. I can't spend 14 hours each day feeling like this:(

Eyeing an open spot as a Senior Manager GPS Contracts DOD Sub-Sector Lead. What would be the anticipated compensation (base + bonus%?) for this role? I imagine it’s an internal (non-client facing) role within the larger GPS division. Currently have 14+YOE of specialized DOD contracting experience to include supervisory experience. TIA

How many of you are enabling BAs or other business users to handle low-code automation?

Hi everyone, I work for large startup (300 employees) and I have been asked to develop a Progressive HR manual template. Some examples include gender neutral restrooms, lactation rooms, signing off emails with pronouns, and etc. Any tips/links for resources to help would be appreciated.

Is anyone hiring? I have sales experience in the telecom industry and real estate. Looking to relocate to the Bay Area. Looking to crush 2021! Thanks in advance.

Gearing up to ask for 8 days of PTO for the spring. Just found out that staff has been getting reprimanded for taking even just a day of PTO. Now I'm scared

Is tiaa following work from home right now? Or people are joining to offices

I heard you need to show a net worth of 100% of the loan amount. Have you heard about this?

Account management role at Google or product management role at Facebook? (Entry level)

Anyone have thoughts on PENN calls for when their app is supposed to come out? I think they could be a good play, but I also might be a biased stoolie

My anxiety has been relatively constant during this whole wfh covid situation so I haven’t been wanting to be intimate with my partner as often. They said its bringing down their mood, any advice?

Is this an aggressive position? Would you use final regulations effective for tax year beggining Dec 16, 2020 to support a deduction for calendar tax year 2020? Proposed regulations didn't include this exception. More details below.

Any good solutions to hair loss?

So this will be my first Thanksgiving working. Not going to miss the family drama, and I'm imagining front of house will do pretty well with tips but maybe that’s optimistic. Any thoughts?

I initiated my resignation 10 days back, but my manager has not approved it yet despite reminders. How will it affect my FnF and what are my options if he keeps delaying the approval?

Guys, what platform do you use to trade US stock?

sigh* last week Saturday my s/o & I broke up after our 3 year relationship. & it really been affecting me negatively — not eating, autopilot mode, self isolation & diving deep into work. Today I decided to go outside, where I picked up some food to go and went to an outdoor movie by myself; where I had the realization I just really enjoy being by myself. Idk, maybe I’m just better off single after so many failed relationships/am I being dramatic? but anyone else has given up on love?

My anxiety has been relatively constant during this whole wfh covid situation so I haven’t been wanting to be intimate with my partner as often. They said its bringing down their mood, any advice?

Does anyone else have a constant nagging feeling something bad is going to happen?

On the road every week- feeling burnt out, depressed, seems like nobody cares

I am so tired of it all. I’ve barely eaten in the last 3 days and had to take a painkiller last night to fall asleep. I’m so overworked and I constantly feel like a piece of sh*t. I don’t even have the energy to move right now and feel like I will faint any minute.

Any Atlanta based individuals here have a recommendation for a counselor? Online hunting is very scattershot. Specialty-wise, looking for anxiety/depression.

I no longer tell myself I want to be dead. Meds and therapy have helped. But I also seem to not care if I die or get a terminal illness or disease. Like I won’t put myself in danger but if I get a disease or illness I won’t mind either. Does anyone else feel like that? Maybe that’s one reason I don’t bother to get myself in shape.

Married to a man who raised kids as a single dad and did lots of good things. He’s now retired and his hostility is killing me. We had nice ($$$$$) dinner last night and thought maybe we will finally connect. Well on his way to restroom a group was having pic taken in lobby and blocked him. Ruined the night. Angry grouchy jerk. And it’s always directed at me. It’s daily. Very sad and lonely. I bring it up and he belittles me. Traveling limited my exposure and was ok. Now I can’t handle

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

Starting a new project tomorrow and I feel completely overwhelmed. Already feel burnt out from the past couple of projects I’ve been on... when is it time to call it quits?

I am done trying to pretend everything is fine at work. The higher ups on the team kept asking if I’m doing anything fun for the weekend during video calls. I felt the pressure to make something up but I just can’t. I’ve been struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety with immigration and the fact that I might be out of work soon cuz my visa is expiring. I’m thousands of miles away from my family and I just want everything to stop. But when my manager kept asking in front of everyone am I

I have clinical depression and binge eating disorder. Food has always been my coping mechanism, but I am starting to see a therapist next month to hopefully work through these things. Any advice or tips from others who struggle with binging that I can try out in the meantime?

I think I have work trauma not sure how it’s clouding my ability to make decisions. I’ve had unstable work after being laid off from a company 3 years ago. I thought I worked out a plan to get to a stable place but my job is proving to be unstable yet again. I secured a FT role at another company but because it’s a lot less money I’m unsure because I feel very cynical about companies in general. I assume it’ll be just like all the rest but now I’ll just be making less and could get laid off.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Been seeing a therapist for a while now and feeling worse than ever. Been having suicidal thoughts. Not sure what to do.

Do you share your struggles of depression and/or anxiety with your parents/family? Especially when not living with them.
Should I be? It's a lot of effort to sound ... happy or normal on the phone. But don't want to make them worry either.

Do any of you struggle with feeling like you owe other people. Or I guess owe your employer, company, team etc to put in your best effort? I think I feel this way but to the point of it being detrimental. And I’m not sure how to fix or change it. It’s like my whole existence is a ledger i need to keep in balance (lol accounting analogy)

Need some advice about family problems. My brother just got another DUI (now a felony since he has had so many when he was younger). This happened only 3 months after he finally got his license back..

Anyone the only single family members with a flexible job that always gets called upon to help everyone out? Watch kids/sick parents, travel to vs being visited?
It’s like your 2nd class in the fam 😔

I can’t get over how meaningless my life is. I feel stuck in a dark tunnel with no light at the end. I don’t know what I’m doing in life. It’s overwhelming and makes me cry over every little thing. Is it too much to ask for me to just be happy in life? I’m 26 but I feel like this is all life has to offer.