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I’d suggest checking out some of the books by Pia Melody... if you’re open to treatment, consider The Meadows, they have a good sex addiction / alcoholism program.
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I hate that this is the answer to everything in this bowl, but have you tried therapy? Sounds like you recognize that these are unhealthy behaviors and yet can’t find yourself willing to stop. I’m wondering if this is bordering on an addiction or if there are other things you’re working through and this is how you’re channeling your energy instead. Maybe someone can help you manage these things.
I’m glad that you recognize this though and are seeking advice to go in the right direction. Keep it up!
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Do you see the same girl each time or someone different?
Either way I don't see an issue with it unless you're catching feels for them. Seeing the same would make me think you're substituting for a commitment. Seeing multiples instead of the same is pretty healthy IMO. What are you concerned about? Female here btw
Hey lovely. you just need to look at the emotional wounds underneath. Most men feel inadequate in the bedroom, feel like they have to perform, and overall a lot of times feel like they’re not enough. There’s so much pressure on men., it’s no wonder they seek these types of environments. However, it can still leave you feeling empty, since transactional intimacy is not intimacy at all. It’s just someone cooperating to get paid. True intimacy, is built within vulnerability. Which is a scary place for a lot of guys. It’s important to start healing the emotional wounds so so we don’t need to keep turning into surface experiences.
You should try attending AA and / or Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. Can be done virtually these days which makes it easier. Sounds like you have an addiction and the 12 step process has proven to work.
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Hmm, yeah this is a great topic for a sec therapist, so maybe look for someone who specializes in that. You may be addicted or otherwise unhealthily attached, but try not to beat yourself up about it. It's pleasure that you don't have to work too hard to get in a world that's pretty dismal at the moment. It makes sense even if it's not the healthiest (like my sugar addiction 🥴)
It's good that you want to change, and it may be time to start thinking about replacement activities (maybe explore your solo-sexuality by getting toys and finding new ways to get off) but really and truly, you may need an expert for the best practices. Not because it's not common (it is!), but because people find it hard to talk about.
You can't hate yourself into getting over this in any case, so keep that in mind and try to work on the guilt part. Once you do, the solutions become much easier to achieve.
Try an AA meeting or SLAA meeting. Have you tried to be sober for a weekend?
I think the booze/prostitutes are a salve for the real problem you mentioned in your post: lack of meaningful relationships. Try working on that first and you might find in time you don’t need the other two things.