What’s the strategy for planning to support aging parents? My mom has not a penny to her name but does live in a mortgage-free home. My siblings are worthless so it will be on me to support her.

32 M in London. Got divorced after a very short marriage. Have moved on and not given up on love, willing to give love and marriage another chance. Happy to connect with 🐟 from US, but just letting you know life’s great in London!

My husband and I have had problems for years. He used to basically give me next to no affection, our sex life barely existed (incl. his absolute refusal to do foreplay … ever!) and his general dismissal of anything I enjoyed (my hobbies were boring to him). Over the last year I just gave up trying and accepted we may need to divorce. Now he is trying a lot- he puts in a lot of effort. While a few years ago this would have made me happy I feel like it’s too little too late, I just don’t care ..

My kids were really upset with me when I told them that my job as an engineer did not mean that I drove trains for a living

Anyone else feel like there only friends are consultants and your stuck in this bubble.I don’t think consulting isn’t for me but I feel like surrounding myself with only consultants reels me back

My best friend is getting married. I’m very happy for her. But I’m also insanely jealous. She sent me pictures of her wedding dress and while I told her she looks amazing - I can’t stop crying. Her relationship was as long as my ex was cheating on me.

She’s asked me to be her maid of honor - but I want to turn it down so she doesn’t have to see me crying. I already broke down when she told me she was engaged. I was able to keep it together to help her now fiancée do something special.

I got engaged recently and I don’t want a wedding, so it will likely be courthouse. However, I’m toying around with the idea of a close girlfriends party (not sure whether it’s a bridal shower or bachelorette type of thing). New to this so bear with me. I have really close friends across 2 continents and that would mean having two separate events/ party. Has anyone here had a similar thing where you didn’t have a wedding event but a separate party for friends? How did you pull that off? TIA.

hi - new to this bowl. I want to make sure I’m not being irrational or dramatic lol.

My boyfriend forgot my upcoming birthday. He scheduled a pick-up hockey game on that day and when I asked him about it, he said it was important to him to play hockey with his friends and we could celebrate my birthday a different day. for context, we’ve been dating for over a year and he knows how important celebrating is to me. im pretty close to ending it... thoughts?

What are your plans to balance work responsibilities with schools closing? They are now saying schools in my area might close for a month and curious how other families are handling.

I struggle making friends
Whats wrong with me

I'm struggling emotionally and don't know how to cope with being a gay 22-year-old guy. I feel like half my life has been pretending to be straight, and I don't know how to talk to any guys my age anymore. How can I learn to be more open despite living in an older, more redneck part of Florida? I just want to feel like a person

How are my fellow gov lawyers doing with $$$ right now? Anyone have financial strategies or tips to providing for a family on a non private sector salary? I want to stay at my CA DOJ job as long as I can but also want to have kids. Live in LA

We’re still trying to get pregnant during this time and man it’s been so hard to do! Any reasons why this is so or reasons why we shouldn’t be trying? I’m the husband.

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

Should I leave my husband to move to the city I love when I think he just wants me for my pay check?!? We are in a Podunk town I hate for his career. I have a great opportunity in Minneapolis.

My ex cheated on me. We dated for 2 years . I been suffering from bad panic attacks since the break up . Any suggestions on healing ? (No I will not hook up with randos )

Feeling lonely due to lack of social interactions with friends and coworkers. I don’t think I’m old enough (25M) or “ready” to get married and also find getting married to fill the loneliness to be an invalid reason - so any tips on how to deal with this better ? Half the time I just want someone to talk that understand but live in the suburbs with parents (I do talk to them and have a good relationship just they don’t understand somethings)

Met this guy through friends a few years back. He made me feel really special, told me he was going through a bad patch with his gf at that point. Things happened between us in a couple of months and

Trying to get over a 6yr relationship thats been on and off for 2 years. Its long distance, I put in all effort possible.Met someone really nice recently but they told me they want to see other people

My ex filed a police report against me and asked for a restraining order. We settled through our lawyers 6 months later without appearing in court as almost the whole thing was baseless and made up (not this post’s topic so let’s skip it).

My current concern is how I can trust and love someone ever again? We were lovers, and then she decided to utterly destroy me. Now I’m slightly scared about people and dating. Feeling traumatized.

Anyone with some advice or experience on recovery?

Pregnant with my first, due 3rd week of April. My husband has an optional work trip in February for a few days, and asked if I was comfortable with him going. My first reaction was of course, it's still a couple months out from my due date and I'm having a healthy pregnancy so far. Am I under thinking this? Any other considerations I should have?

Hi sharks,
Has anybody recently raised exit request in Nagarro? Do they have also blocked your salary for the month(1st month) in which you raised an exit request ?
Never faced this kind of scenario in any other organisation

Brand new to the bowl. Looking at getting my fiancé his first nicer watch as wedding gift when we get married next year. I’m trying to stick around $7k, but would go to $10k. Is it worth getting him something now or wait until I’m willing to spend more? I know absolutely nothing about watches. Recommendations?

Any LA-based consultants looking to exit? Hiring for a strategic ops team at a PE-backed growth company. Manager or Sr Manager level DOE. Ideal candidate has 4-8 years total exp with consulting background & some exposure to ops/supply chain. DM if interested!

Is it true that you make less client side than at an agency? I’m an SVP and making $175k and find I’m completely overworked on 6-7 accounts at a time & staffing bandwidth is consistently stretched.

My ECD constantly talks over me when I try to explain something. I can barely get a sentence out and it’s super annoying.

Can someone give me insights on PwCs case study round? Please DM me

Hey fishes, willing to refer anyone to EY Ireland. Lots of exciting roles available in technology/business consulting, tax, audit etc. Shoot me a dm if interested.

What are some of the REITs you have invested in? Any suggestions on things to look out for while researching REITs?

Had some anxiety before starting my PE gig but after 6 months in PE my stress/anxiety is 100x worse than pre PE. I'm experiencing a lot of physical symptoms of stress/anxiety for the first time. Can't decide if this is a reason to quit or not or if this job truly gets better over time.

Hello Fishes,
Anyone from Oracle has switched teams internally?
Had some confusions.
Can we delay the time to join another team by, say, a month? Considering I am awaiting interview/results from another team?

Am I making a mistake switching from PwC to Moss Adams?

MS in Computer Science vs MS in Analytics

Buy BAT, check their website and white paper, thank me later!!

Do you feel like you just "get by" with your current salary? Or, are you comfortable enough?

Got rejected in client interview for my first project at Nagarro 🥲 Darr ka mahol hai

Does your agency drug test? 👀 🍃

3 shots of espresso is humanity at its peak.

Agencies you've freelanced for that you love in NYC. Please and thanks.

For those of you who are recently married - how did you FIRE and pay for a wedding?

Fire friendly car? I have a bmw and it’s paid off but it’s a ticking time bomb. I want something more reliable. Should I trade in and get a Toyota? For purposes of fire, I could get an older model since they last forever. But the new ones are tempting and I would pay maybe $200/mo. Worth it or just keel the bmw?

What’s a reasonable fee for an accountant? Single filer, W2 employee. Simple investments but just need some help filing correctly given a move between states, a recent start to investing in more tax advantaged accounts and more etfs. Otherwise pretty simple. Should this be a few hundred dollars?

For those of you who have a side gig in real estate, what do you do and how much $ do you make from it?

What’s your recommendation if my new 401k does not accept pension rollover? I think the only 2 roll over options left are traditional/Roth IRA, right? If I first roll over the pension to traditional IRA, and then immediately roll over the traditional IRA to my new 401k, will I still trigger the pro rata rule when I do backdoor Roth in the future? I have never contributed to a traditional IRA or done backdoor Roth so far.

Anyone follow Millennial Revolution?

Have you calculated how much total tax you pay each year? Last year I made $185K and paid $68.5K in total taxes, which includes federal income and payroll taxes (social security and Medicare) and state income tax. 37% of net income went to taxes. How much in taxes are people paying?

If I roll my old employers 401k into an IRA this year, am I correct in thinking that what I contributed this year in that 401k still counts against my 401k contribution limit?

Is it possible to live off 12k/year?

Can someone please explain a “backdoor” ROTH? When its required/why? I’m very new to all this. I keep seeing this mentioned but no idea what it means.

What are some jobs you can do abroad to earn US money while living abroad? Haven’t reached FI yet but I always worry about running out of money after early retirement.

Does anyone have any experience with buying & renting real estate properties in Florida? Good idea or bad?

I’ve been looking at apartments in Brickell, Miami. This would be used primarily to rent via AirBnB (or a full 1 year lease if I can find a a decent tenant).

Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks all

Hi,
28 with about only 30k saved till now. Have worked 2.8 years and I feel I’m so behind. I’ve tried to save on everything possible but my family commitments make me feel I will never be able to retire - I make 95k a year and started at 82 base and 14k sign on in 2019. From 2019-2020 I had to help a family memes out of debt (approximately 30k). I started saving more aggressively in 2020 but then realized I’ll have to support my dad who’s business went under (1K every month-he’s in India so low

Anyone living the dream DINK lifestyle to help reach FIRE earlier? Still very single myself but would love to hear success stories!

im 27 and could possibly retire if I kept my spending low. However you never know what’s going to happen, do you? How do you deal with the uncertainty?

I’ve been listening to “millionaires unveiled” (highly recommend for FIRE content) and it seems like every other guest ends up doing real estate investing. If you do it, what books or online courses would you recommend to get started? If you have experience in real estate investing, would you ultimately recommend it?

What stocks or funds do you invest your IRA contributions in. Just opened up my IRA last week and looking to see where to invest in.

Is a 1 bedroom apartment big enough for a couple, especially if one primarily works from home? Thinking about moving in with my SO.

Need advise: Looking to calculate our fire number and not sure whether to consider the mortgage payment into it or not.
HHI: 410K, monthly expenses: 7.5K (3K mortgage, 1.5K daycare, 3K everything else), no car EMI. We are mid-30s and 2 kids, 4 &1. expecting daycare expenses to go down in 2 yrs. And mortgage should be done in next 7. I intend to RE in next 10 yrs.