I am so overwhelmed this year.... I feel like I'm not a good enough teacher for my students and at the same time not a good mom to my 4 year old and baby. There are days when I feel like I'm breaking. I'm not sure if this is the product of teaching during a pandemic or becoming a full-time working mom with 2 young children, or a combination of both. I just can't keep up. 😢 I always question walking away from teaching but I'm not sure if that would make life better for me and my kids.

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It does get easier as your own kids get older. Nobody is a perfect teacher. If you decide to stick with it, give your attention as much as possible to the task at hand, whether it is being a parent or being a teacher. You can’t do more than that, so don’t feel badly when you’re not perfect.

I agree, perfection is worthless! It seems like you're struggling with the weight of so many things but don't overexert yourself. Things will get easier over time, and focus on what your needs for a little bit too.

So sorry you're feeling this way. It is a monumental ask to be a parent to a toddler as well as a teacher, and nearly impossible to do both to the high standards set today. Be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to be imperfect - we all are. The fact that you care this much is something that doesn't go unnoticed, I promise. Honestly if I weren't so close to retirement I'd be considering a career switch, too.

Have you thought about getting some therapy? You shouldn't be dealing with something like this alone!

I think the first step is to take some blame off of yourself and cut yourself some slack. You said yourself you're a full-time working mom with 2 young children, in a pandemic, and it's a new transition for you. Sis that is a lot! The issue is not that you're not good enough. This is a big transition in a very uncertain time. Whatever you decide, it really doesn't sound like the problem is you doing something wrong.

Let household things slide a little so you can spend time with your kids after working. Keeping the scale balanced between work and school is not easy AND especially this year! Many say it is the roughest year by far in education this year! It's tough.... hang in there, June July, August will be here before you know it! Hang in...

I feel this. You are doing a great job mama. Hang in there.

We hear you. Sending love and light. You've been doing your best, hope you'd be able to rest and that things work out for you and your kids. Keep faith, keep strong!

We all have our moments and you don't have to blame yourself for feeling that way. It's been almost 3 years since the pandemic started and it has deteriorated our mental health ever since. Your feelings are valid! Just take a step back first before making a big decision like that

It's always a good practice to take a breather when something is immensely overwhelming. You can start by setting some boundaries with work and home life. Hope you feel better soon!

I also felt like that last year when I had my firstborn. It's scary to go out, be productive, and be your child's safetynet at home. Juggling all these roles are overwhelming, but we keep at it because we love this job and our children. Praying for you

This is exactly how I’m feeling. 4 and almost 1, it’s draining and exhausting. Thank you for this post!

This is why I think those "inspirational" movies about teachers are trash. They create unrealistic expectations of what teachers are or should be.

A lot of what we think is "good enough" is a fabrication.

Hello! You're not alone in feeling this way. It's okay to feel like you're not enough sometimes but you should not overlook the good things around you. You were in that position for a reason. You are a teacher because you're meant to have an impact on someone else's life. You're doing good. Take a step back and breathe.

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