Just want to share that instead of feeling sorry for myself, I started to invest in myself instead. I'm down 5 pounds since the breakup, have been reading more, joined Orange Theory, and am only drinking alcohol on the weekend now. Feels good to turn something negative into something positive.

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Alcohol is best left alone when in pain, it’s a depressant and makes everything worse. You’re doing a great job yayyyyyy you!!!! Stay strong you can do this. Been there, just remember this too shall pass and you will be ok!!!

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Really appreciate that! I'm still bummed but slowly getting over it. Unfortunately though, she signed up for the same dating service I did so I'll see her at a future event. Not looking forward to that.

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That’s excellent! Drop alcohol completely and watch even more weight just shed off of you

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OrangeTheory is amazing! The comradery that comes from the glasses is second to none

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Love this! Keep up the amazing work on you!!

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