Lately I can’t stand when my husband talks in social situations. He dominates the conversation and makes sweeping generalizations (and misremembers/exaggerates stories from our history) and I can’t engage without wanting to correct him, so I end up sitting in silence. He is charming and smart and I can’t always tell when others enjoy his approach and when they tolerate it. Anyone who’s been in a similar situation found a good way to address/adapt to it?

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He sounds like he works at the same firm as you. 🙂

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Lol, that would not work for us. He is the primary parent and does some contract work in a different field

NOBODY, puts baby in a corner.

Also, are you my wife?

But seriously, if he is always on “On” mode, it’s going to be a tough one changing his approach. Him looking to be the center of attention, is probably filling a void somewhere. Looking for an ego stroke. Gotta navigate wisely or you can damage the ego he is bolstering.

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My husband is like this. I go find someone else or others to talk to and engage with. I literally walk away. I don't care what others think about his approach though bc I love him and it doesn't bother me, I just get bored with hearing the same stories. If he said something that offended me though, I would let him know afterwards, and make it clear to not bring that subject up again in a social setting.

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This is how my dad is it drives us crazy 🙈I don’t have a solution and it’s a different dynamic because he’s our dad and not a partner, but maybe just choose a little thing instead of the full extent of your annoyance.

For example - if he’s making a generalization that might come off as insulting to someone, later when you guys leave just mention in private “hey one thing I noticed was when you mentioned X, if someone ….” And relate it to a general perception as opposed to you being annoyed by him

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Lol get over yourself. You’re not his conversation manager and as long as he’s having fun and not harming people then so what. Go have fun conversations of your own rather than wasting time assessing his

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Yeah, I’d prefer that. Unfortunately he often wants to hold court with the whole room so I have to pry individuals away which feels weird.

I dated a guy like that and hated this about him. He insisted on dominating every conversation and would interrupt people.

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