Long term relationship breakup really hit me hard today. Burst out crying at dinner and then kept crying till now… it sucks. Too many things going through in mind.

Anyone want to bar crawl the beltline tonight? I moved here during the pandemic and have no friends around

Best divorce lawyer in NYC?

Pregnant with my third child now and wondering what is the right time to tell work. I did it really early with my first two because I wanted to plan ahead, but now thinking about it, I feel like it just set me up for failure those years because I was reassigned from tasks and kept underutilized.

As holidays come around, the family has upped their questions about when we are having kids and why we haven’t yet. Doesn’t help that my sibling with one other kid just announced her second pregnancy. Definitely happy for her, but don’t feel like I need to explain to the whole family that we are struggling.

How is everyone taking time to indulge in Self Care now that most of us are either about to go back to work, or have started back up with students? I’m having mixed feelings of going back on my end and would love to hear how others are feeling too!

How personal is too personal for a SOP. I want to talk about how my aunts postpartum depression and consequent suicide shaped my career aspirations. Is that too personal/ would that be inappropriate to share?

My wife surprised me last night for my 30th bday (which was last week) with a get together with my closest friends I have known since middle school. Most of them live out of state with kids and somehow it all worked out. Feeling really loved.

I'm an engineer, and I feel like my manager is more of a friend than anything else. We talk about our personal lives, and I feel like it's hard to be completely honest with her when she's so casual with me. I don't want to lose our friendship, but I also need to be able to talk honestly with someone who has the power to help me grow professionally. Is there a way to have both?

Frustrated my fiancé keeps talking about raising our future kids in the way he was raised. We’re from different cultures. He wants to name them based on his culture, send them to schools with dual immersion in his language so “they don’t get too American,” and has even mentioned moving so they’re exposed to his homeland and culture. Religiously he is fine raising with both our relig but def wants them to participate in some of the orthodoxy of his more so (cont)

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

How do you know that this is your person? Can you choose someone even though your ideals, philosophies, and lifestyle are very different or are you essentially settling?

Has anyone found roles in Big 4 or industry that allowed more work life balance when their kids were young without damaging future career trajectory? I'm a partner with young kids and feel like I'm missing out on too much of their lives. Wishful, but my dream job would have a lighter workload in terms of time and pressure for the next ~5 years, but not set me back too much (or at all) when the kids are older and tired of me in a few years and I'm ready to be back at work full force.

How to handle the dual employment in BGV? I have a friend who have a overlap of 30-40 days from his last organization which is not disclosed in CV and with current organization. I feel UAN check will spoil it but his overlap is cuz he wasn't able to return assets back during COVID. Any suggestions?

Any millennials here worried about their parents retirement? My parents are set financially but I’m worried about their lack of hobbies and social life. They watch a lot of news, politics, stock market, and sports. However not much more than that. I feel I’d be fine with that if they were in their 80s or older but they’re early 60s. Anyone succeed in getting their parents to an activity filled retirement?

I miss truly being excited about someone, getting the butterflies and all. Being excited about your day all because you will get to see someone… must be one of the best feelings in the world.

it’s been 3 years in this city and I really need to hang out with someone other than my boyfriend. But I’m terrible at “networking"

So much baggage brought into the relationship. 2 years in and just discovered a whole lot more. Its been mentally extremely difficult and it’s changed me as a person. Just venting but feel hopeless and I know my SO is suffering. Wish there was a solution but I’m losing hope

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

Shia - Sunni marriages?

Not to get philosophical... but why is life unfair? In both the micro and macro ways? My example - One of my parent’s is somewhat recently deceased, and the loss has made my living parent unstable...

I am in Audit, started w/ one of the Big 4. Started at 68k finally be making above 100k with this new job. The new job is in NYC paying 120k. Never thought this would happen just grateful atm...3YOE

For >20 YOE, multiple companies founded, highly technical, patents, academic papers, former F10 Director… even in a T3 city, $240k TC in consulting seems low, right? Not complaining at all just not sure what direction to go for higher comp.

Hi Y’all - Moving to Dallas soon and looking to buy a house. Wanted to know if Mansfield is a good, safe area with good school districts? Also, how would the commute be to North Dallas? Thanks in advance.

I interviewed for a job in a diff location and during interviews they asked me multiple times how I felt abt relocating. I said it was fine, but the more I think about it the less I’m open to relocating. I now have an offer from them, is there anyway to negotiate no relocation? They are remote until mid year 2021. I’m Happy to fly in on a monthly basis but I don’t want to move there.

What is your opinion on online assessments as part of the hiring process?

Hi fishes, need to know how is garner in terms of paying out annual bonus amount is it 100% payout or +- also please help me the hierarchy levels of gartner

I am looking to leave Deloitte but I have not been around long enough to satisfy my signing bonus. How do you bring up a signing bonus in negotiations with a new employer?

Hi ,

if you dont join any company due to multiple offers does that company blacklist you or future or you can apply for it in future something like that?

Could you please confirm if there is cab facility for Shollinganallur office,since I will have to WFO for 3 days in a week


Also,if cab is available,can you please share the charges for the same.

What are some tools you use to track progress (IEP goals) for high school students? How often do you track?

Can anyone share resources for getting a night nurse and/or nanny in nyc? Trying to understand pricing, availability (part time/full time), etc.

I am pursuing MBA +ACCA, currently a graduate with 6LPA .
What should I do to reach double digits in annual package soon?

I am looking for moving forward in my career. My background is as follows:

- bachelors in environmental health and safety engineering (EHS)
- masters in safety sciences

6.5 years work experience
- worked in distribution in EHS for a year
- worked in EHS Consulting for 3 years
- currently working in insurance consulting in risk management

Want to get opinions on next move. Living in TX now. Insurance pays alright but my last raise was less than inflation rate and salary growth is low.

People on medication—is your medicine managed through a psychiatrist or your primary care dr? The psychiatrist is charging me $225 a session ($116 with insurance) vs I can see my primary dr for free (ie covered by insurance). Can she manage it ?

Any recommendation for a therapist around Jersey City/ NYC area? I have called 15 people so far and none of them are taking new clients. This isn't helping my anxiety.

I’ve suffered from workaholism for a long time. Thanks to a lot of great self help books and therapy, I’m no longer putting work on a pedestal and I’m spending a lot more time on self care and my marriage. But, unfortunately, I am now getting withdrawals, because my body is used to the daily adrenaline of throwing myself into work. It’s this terrible feeling of like anguish/unease in my gut, but I don’t have anything I’m worried about- it’s like my body wants to find something to worry about.

Does anyone get so anxious about work that they can’t eat? The thought of food just makes you want to puke? How to manage? Skipping meals/not eating for a day is unhealthy and will cause weight gain

Does anyone’s face freeze up when you start talking during a presentation? Idk if it’s my anxiety acting up physically or not. Mentally I dont feel that nervous, but my body tenses up physically.

Can anyone else not sleep right now? So stressed and exhausted with everything but can’t fall asleep

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

Is anybody diagnosed with adult ADHD? Did you know before joining the firm? How does it affect your work? How do you deal with it?

I was wondering if anyone in this group is or knows about groups to support attorneys who are/have been suspended and how to handle it with life. Frankly the state bar isn't a good resource and it's starting to impact my career in not practicing the law. I've been working for a non attorney job in my company for years and was recently told my suspension means I'd never get it. Boy that was a blow that triggered depression and anxiety, still there as it's been less than a year week.

Has anyone dealt with a therapist not being able to see you (virtually) while you are temporarily located in another state? I’m struggling with coordinating my work and when I’ll be in my home state with my sessions because apparently I can only be seen when I’m physically in my home state. Are there different types of lisences I should look for that would allow someone to treat me while traveling? It’s all very confusing…

I struggle with perfectionism and anxiety and this job seems to not help. How can I learn to be less of a perfectionist in a job that highly rewards this kind of behavior?

I think I’m depressed.

having vivid violent dreams I can remember which has never happened. Pretty depressed also for reasons. Struggling to get out of bed let alone exercise. Feel inadequate for lacking mental strength

Stuck on a tech implementation for 18 months now. Part of me wants to quit my job, but a big reason I am anxious to do so is how pivotal my knowledge and experience is to the success of the project.

Those who did MBA / can relate: I made friends but I’m almost never in the loop about pre-games/house parties, though I see these happening through insta stories. It’s bothering me a lot.

I’ve been working on making small conversations to strangers as a way to manage my social anxiety and to try to meet people the old-fashioned way, but it’s so nerve-racking. Any tips?

In a depressive episode & having trouble staying afloat at work. Luckily I’m on the bench now, but worried I’ll fully drop the ball next week when I’m traveling and staffed again. Howd you break out?

Dad got laid off. Drinking got worse. Attempted assault on sis and mom. Had to put up in hotel. No clue on next steps (legal and personal). Project is complete shit show and SM is not getting it. Idk man...

What are tips to stop “hate scrolling,” ie looking at social media opinions/profiles that conflict w your own? Sometimes I find myself doing it just to feel something, but I know it’s bad.

How do I get better with frustration with family (even though warranted)? Therapy?