Not wedding planning related, but I recently had my wedding where my best friend, who is very much an attention seeker, managed to make the wedding about them. It's kind of the last straw for me and I need to make boundaries, but I have no idea how. The friendship has become toxic and some other things happened at the wedding with this person, so it's just been very clear that this friendship has become toxic.

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

How can I make friends in Chicago?

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

I’m experiencing insecure attachment style specific to feeling like my puppy loves my SO more than me because I work more and he gets more quality-chill time with her.

Coming out at work by bringing my girlfriend (serious) to our firm outing!!! Nervous but ready to be happy and open!

Anyone in the suburbs find it harder to make friends compared to the city? I don’t want to move back but I don’t know what else to do..

People with tiny kids (baby/toddler), how are you coping/entertaining your little buggers? Ours is turning 1 very soon and we have a push trike in the mail, but thinking of inside activities too.

My boyfriend just found my vibe...

After nearly a year WFH and being with my family 24/7, I’m not entirely sure we actually like each other. Or maybe they don’t like me being at home. Or they don’t like me. Probably the latter 😞

Any tips for traveling with a baby? Will be flying with a 4 month old in a few months. Any advice would be appreciated!

For parents with school-age kiddos (kindergarten up), what do you do for childcare? Thinking about giving up our nanny, but worried about juggling days off, sick days, and summer break.

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

Been seeing a guy for a few months now and I can’t stop myself from getting in my head. I’ve never been in a solid relationship before like this and I’m afraid I’m going to mess it up. We’re together most nights and some nights I need a night off or some space, but when I don’t hear from him I get paranoid that I did something.
I don’t know how to just let things be and feel we’re as good as I know we are.

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

I have a young student with CVI and extremely limited mobility. She is able to vocalize but not speak. However, I’ve seen her response and mannerisms change (positively) in the presence of parents and siblings which leads me to believe that she is cognizant enough to possible use a communication device. However, I don’t even know where to start with researching the best one for her. Any suggestions?

Any girls looking to make new friends? I’ve been here for 3 years and want to meet some more people, friend group is a bit exhausting at this point

A guy who is claiming to be in love with me (a black woman and immigrant), is a conservative (pro-trump, anti-gun laws, denies that there is racism etc). Are those red flags to make me cut him off?

Anyone currently working at Grubhub? I have an interview coming up and would love to hear other people’s opinions/experiences working on the product design team there. What’s the culture like?

Hi All,

How long do ppl in the US generally take leaves in December for vacation?
Only last couple of weeks or the entire month?

The unending cycle is for real. Reached my LeanFIRE number 2 months ago, yet I don’t feel satisfied. Still reaching for the stars… when will this human desire end?

Folks that have worked in Big Law in other areas of the country, what do you feel is different about being in Texas? I've been offered a role in NYC but may decline because I'm just happier here, culturally.

Anyone has insights into whether we can claim depreciation for our “home office” due to WFH? Not an expert here but looks like it’s for self employed individuals only, but maybe the individual tax experts in this community can help everyone out a bit 🤪

How is the Project Manager position at NTT ( Location : Mumbai) ?
Job security?
Pay scale to be asked for as minimum as where does this role stand in internal hierarchy in the company?
( Considering the high cost of living in Mumbai)

What are the 1-3 things that help you find meaning in life? Whether it's your work, friends, family, a cause you support, or something else

What is the salary range for application development senior analyst in Accenture.

Somebody please elaborate on Corporate Functions team at Accenture!! Is it part of Tech?

Level 10.1 how much hike and vpay?

Hello!

Considering a Consultant (lateral move) or Senior Consultant Engagement Financial Advisor at Deloitte. Any insight into the pay range?

I have 5 years of consulting experience, majority of that in project management/Engagement financials.
3 years in industry.

Trying to ensure I'm not ending up underpaid

Who do you think will die in the next episode??

Hello .. Anyone joining UBS on 31st October in Pune location?

Anyone in consulting and doing OE? Using bench time for J2+ seems like a good opportunity in this environment, considering it wouldn’t look out of place to remain on the bench for quite a while

Hi All, I am planning to move to a rival firm but have a notice period of 2-3 months in my current month. Has someone done something similar ?

What’s a good, practical tax book to read for someone who knows nothing about taxes? I feel like I should familiarize myself with them but don’t know where to start/find the topic very overwhelming and dense even as a finance attorney. Welcome to other beginning finance book suggestions too! (Already read Kiyosaki and Ramsey)

Would you say your job got easier or harder since Covid started?

Anyone who has been through both rounds at MBB - does case difficulty get any harder between round 1 and 2? Or is it just the level of interviewer?

I’m having a problem with micro management and design by committee starting to rear its ugly head in my company. Product team lead not trusting his design team to make design decisions, making unreasonable demands and putting undue pressure on us. Any advice on how to address this before it becomes a reason to start looking for other work?

My stepmom threw me a very elaborate bridal shower. My stepsister pitched in and also did a lot of work for it. Bridesmaids helped but didn’t do a ton. What, if anything should I do for my stepmom and stepsister as a showing of gratitude? I don’t want to spend a lot of $$ but definitely want to act quickly and thoughtfully.

Anyone do their own bridal makeup? Any advice or thoughts?

I’m excited for my wedding but it’s almost 9 months away and I started planning it over a year ago. However, whenever I’m around friends/family it’s the only thing people want to talk to me about. It’s constant and generally there’s not many updates to give & I’d just rather talk about other things. I work full time & I’m in school right now so I’m stressed about those things and I don’t know how to communicate that I’d just rather not talk about the wedding without sounding ungrateful/happy

Guest list stress 😖😖 how many did y’all invite vs how many came?!

Have you talked about your wedding with coworkers? I made the mistake of saying I had to leave work a little early one day because I was going to do a tasting at my venue. That starts a debate on why one shouldn’t get married, how much wedding costs & what a waste it is, dresses are stupid because you only wear them once, etc. I haven’t talked about my wedding much, but I didn’t appreciate this. I ignored the negative comments and we moved the conversation along. Not talking about that anymore!

For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

My partner and I are planning to elope. We want the wedding and the trip that will go with it to be for us. That being said, we want to throw a party of some kind to celebrate with our friends. We're pretty lost as far as the general etiquette around this goes. Do you have to tell venues it's for a "wedding" reception? Is it expected that we will still make a gift registry?

My mom’s friend was supposed to come to my wedding in a week and just cancelled. I’ve never met her but my mom insisted she be invited. This person already sent us a check which we deposited already; we already sent a thank you card. This person left me a VM saying they were sorry they couldn’t come; they have leukemia and their Dr. didn’t approve. Do I need to call them back? I would like to avoid an awkward phone call about personal matterwith a stranger but also don’t want to be insensitive.

I don't wear a lot of makeup - how far in advance from the ceremony should I be getting it done? Is having it all done 2 hrs before the ceremony too late or too early? I'm not getting pictures done until ceremony and after. Thanks!

Budget friendly bridesmaid proposals if you’d still like to give a small token in addition to a card?

Thoughts on kindly asking your bridesmaids to please not give a gift? I am over the moon excited that my bridesmaids will be celebrating me and traveling for the wedding and bachelorette. I really do not want a gift from them at the wedding. Full disclosure, my fiancé and I have great paying jobs and my bridesmaids are grad students, artists, and teachers. How would you frame this? Even if they were millionaires I would not want a gift, but I don’t want it taken the wrong way.

How much are you spending on photography? (I’m looking at 2 photographers, 8 hours) I live in the Bay Area

Considering getting highlights and/or extensions for my wedding. Is it worth it? Or is it a bad idea to update your hair for the wedding?

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.

So, we have a wedding registry and my fiance and I would really like people to stick to gifting us what's on that registry. Yet, people keep asking what they should get us. The thought of dealing with a ton of crap we don't want or need is stressing me out. How can I politely tell people to only buy what's on the registry?

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

What pre wedding beauty/wellness regimens are you doing leading up to your wedding?! I’ll be treating myself to monthly facials; orange theory 1-2 a week and will be doing a keto diet a few months before the big day 💞 wish me luck 😅

Putting together a wedding weekend itinerary and have been dealing with a frustrating level of questions from some random in-laws who are known for stirring the pot. Would it be rude to say “please contact x with any questions. Kindly do not direct questions to the bride unless there is an emergency”? What is a better way to say this?