Spoke to one of our mental health first aiders (at their prompting) about feeling down, linked to a situation at work. Next thing they dinged me in my performance review for negativity, citing what I shared with them as an example. WTF? Do I have any recourse here?

I’m kind of stuck what to do. The principal at my school is very intimidating, confrontational, and not pleasant to work for. I love teaching but feel like I have to walk on egg shells around him.

I’ve been in a smaller firm for a month or so now, and I am struggling to find allies or even collegiality. I have had multiple conversations with other associates who shit talk each other, and say things like A: “don’t talk to B because they don’t know anything…come to me instead” then hear things about A never having peoples backs/stabbing people in the back. It’s making the actual “working” part of the job so tedious because I never know who to go to for help without making myself vulnerable.

What are some ways to handle mental health flareups when I'm at the office, such as ptsd and anxiety issues, without bringing attention to myself? It happens quite often, and I'm working through it with a therapist, but I had to leave the room in the middle of a meeting the other day. This is very hard to talk about with my manager without opening up entirely about what I'm dealing with. And it honestly can't be getting in the way like this, workwise...

How do I not let my resentment for my boss show? Lately, he DGAFs about hitting me with useless work at the last minute and I've noticed myself giving him a bit of attitude in occasion.

What's a good heel height for work?

How do people deal with client requests when they’ve had a few too many drinks? It’s happened a few times on weekends and it’s becoming difficult to navigate when they’re unexpected

Been on a project for 2 weeks and thinking it’s not for me. The manager is kind of rude when I ask for help/direction, but he always says to ask if things are uncertain. He always has this condescending attitude and just keeps telling me that he expects more of someone at my level, C. I just keep feeling anxious that I’m not meeting expectations and feel reluctant to ask for help. Anyone in the same boat?

What is the etiquette for exit row in the middle section (think seats configured to 3-3-3)? Are people meant to climb over your legs to pass or is this reserved for the passengers who are sat there?

How would you suggest dealing with a toxic boss? They gossip and seem to purposely be vague about critical information, likely so they can't be held accountable.

My work crush and I were discussing work crushes today and she asked who mine is and I was honest and now we're going out on Friday.

🤞🏻

Do you ever feel like people treat you differently at your firm because of your age? Like reverse ageism? As if you don't know enough or aren't competent enough yet? Just curious if others have ever felt this way.

Has anyone had this issue?
I left PA after almost two years and started in a new role at a boutique investment firm last month. Although my salary and title aren’t entry-level, I’m the least tenured on my team (obviously). I’m realizing that the four others on the team treat me like I’m straight out of college and feel the need to over explain everything. One person keeps telling me that “it’ll take at least a few months for you to understand what I’m talking about”. While I appreciate (cont)

I have an intern who's hygiene has slowly deteriorated over a few very stressful weeks at work. Should I leave them be, or gently remind them?

I work with a person who when you pronounce their name sounds like a cat Hocking up a hairball

Aww, bummed to see this is a dead bowl. Anyone still around?? Getting ready for our first internal off-site and I haven't seen the rest of my team in person for almost 3 years now. I'm more nervous about the new folks that I have only met via Teams, including my 1st-ever direct report. I feel fine in my own skin most of the time but when I am in new and unfamiliar situations I get crazy body dysmorphia and super concious of my physicality. Any ideas on what I can I do to temper those feelings?

I think there should be more males caretakers in this world. Some of my clients just feel more comfortable with a guy and it's kind of sad how often they say I'm the only male they could find.

Hello, I have a question that needs your inputs how to handle. I am working with a post-MBA Associate on a project and this person seems to do extra work beyond what the team is asking the rest of us to do. I think during our conversations with the leadership, there were a couple of points that were brought up by the MD but that was not a concrete directive that we need to do because if it is, I would know about it from the chain email since I am staffed to the project.
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For big law attorneys with tattoos... do you try to hide them?

As a manager, how do you expect your employee to deal with a diffcult customer?

What are some good books to read if I want to learn how to better show up for the team as a manager?

Are commercial properties easy to get into/manage compared to rental property homes? What steps would I need to start with commercial properties (ex broker, lawyer, etc)?

Going through a miscarriage at the moment. Was 5 weeks-ish in and did three days of HIIT workout and here I am. I’m young so not that sad but I just hope I don’t have to get the D&C surgery. :(

Is it too entitled to complain to a hotel about a dirty so dirty it's nearly opaque? I quite like the view and the hotel is full. It's a Westin property if that matters.

Jummah Mubarak Fam ☪️💚

Any Philadelphia firms hiring at senior associate level for accounting advisory, transaction advisory, or valuation? Anyone willing to refer me?

Does anyone have experience being a contractor for Deloitte? What was your salary negotiation experience? Do they pay fairly? (extra context: looking at their operations program manager contractor role)

My brother recently joined wipro as react js developer and got assigned for boston consulting group project. Is there any scope for onsite opportunities ?

Hey techies, which is the best home router to use?

Can you cut 18mg Delmosart (i.e. Concerta) to get 2x 9mg?

Amazon is making me mentally ill. Joined here few months ago.😤

Office being closed for the hurricane but they still expect us to work. How long before the power goes out. We all know the deadlines will be extended #hurricanematthew

Hi everyone! I’m currently on the PR side of things but definitely am more interested in AD. While my experience is mostly PR, how do I transition? I graduated a year ago. Should I intern again?

I’ve gotten to the final stage in interview process at 5 places now to be told no. First and second interviews at a bunch of other places too. Starting to really feel drained. So much work for nothing

Fake smiles. Fake smiles. Fake smiles.

Sunday Scaries are already in full swing and the sun hasn't even set yet 😓

I had a day today where my mind was not functioning well. Stupid mistakes, lots of back and forth, etc. I got kicked off and account once for having a day like this, and I am sad and frustrated. (1/2)

Any tips on managing anxiety? It’s kind of snowballed since becoming a parent and I need to get a handle on it

I've struggled with taking meds. I never understood the concept of "take your meds even if you feel good."

Today, I'm 28 days consistent taking my meds and I feel so. damn. great.

Keep going friends

Has anyone defined themselves by their passion for this industry so much so, that if they thought about doing something else they’d have no idea who they are anymore?

Does that even make sense?

What made you feel life was “worth it” again?

Dad had to get emergency open heart surgery over the weekend. Now me and my family are preparing to help him recover and determine what those next steps are.

While all that is happening, we’re working on a huge initiative at the agency and our client has been super anxious about it. That anxiety is coming down stream so I’m trying to do my best as the PM to alleviate the team’s concerns.

And today, I found out I got a raise.

It’s too much going on the last few days.

My partner is suffering from really bad depression and anxiety and it's so hard to concentrate on work when my home life is what needs the most attention. Wish I could take time off to help make him better.

How do you stop putting yourself down? I don’t mean to do it and it just comes out of my mouth and then I feel SO awk after.

Anyone have any experience in coping with someone’s Narcissistic Personality Disorder? It’s my mother, and this has psychologically devastated me all my life, but I don’t know whether to keep trying or cut her out.

I was depressed last year, did therapy and on antidepressants and got completely better. But now I’m feeling depressed again, even though I’m still on antidepressants.
Feeling stuck- will I always be battling this?

I enjoy what I do but It’s ultimately not good for my anxiety. Making good work at a competitive agency seems to come at the cost of my mental health.

Anyone else feel like they don’t know if it’s them or their job that is actually contributing to your mental health struggles? I go back and forth between blaming myself or blaming my workload.

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

This may be a long shot but recommendations for male therapists/counselors that take MetroPlus Health Plan insurance in Manhattan (close to/accessible from UES)? Or someone out of network &affordable?

Im going on two straight months of exercising regularly for the first time in my life! It’s amazing how positively it affects my mood + how I feel about myself. Hoping to keep it up once work picks up

Anyone on here religious/spiritual? Praying helps me a lot - I had a dark day today and bolted out at lunch so I wouldn’t freak at work - I’ll be praying extra hard tonight.

Has anyone tried SAD lights/ light boxes for SAD? Do you find them effective?