Anyone feel like they regret being in consulting? I’m a serious introvert who wishes instead of going to school for business, I did something more technical and ended up as a developer. It could be isolation making things worse, but I’ve come to realize I really hate talking/facilitating due to social anxiety lol. But I feel it’s too late to do anything about it (I’m 27).

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I don’t have any regret but I feel like the fact that I’m an introvert has held me back and potentially cost my job. Reason I say this is because I have always been quiet. I’ve been told to speak in meetings but I have found that a struggle

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I get told the same thing. It’s better to be quiet than say something stupid. If I don’t feel comfortable I keep my mouth shut. When I am comfortable with the subject I do speak up. Make sure you are occasionally adding value to a conversation. Most people will be okay with the quiet guy as long as his occasional words have weight. I’m expected to lead projects with many teams, so I can’t be the quiet person any more.

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🙋‍♂️ it’s definitely not too late to go get a masters or do a boot camp or you seriously want to switch. I left to join an analytics team under BizOps because the work was much more hands on, less cat herding.

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This is inspiring! Thanks for sharing your experience. I’ve been considering doing a masters for a long time now, this year might just be the push to do something that I like for once.

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Trust your insticts, OP. Find a career that aligns to your personality. You are very young so there is no excuse not to change career focus! If you have math and quantitative skills -- you should be in high demand. Data scientists and engineers are well paid and can be reclusive 🙂 Talk to people doing the type of work you think you will like before making the career change. Make sure your perception of jobs matches the reality. Good luck!

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I am also non technical but am 20 years older than you 😀 If I were your age I would branch into other, more data intensive and analytical pursuits. Many of my friends learned coding in their 20s or 30s and changed careers. You do not need traditional degrees nowadays for many careers. Certificates and online training programs suffice.
Where there is a will there is a way. I am a BA holder from a no name school but with persistence moved from an HR career into consulting in my 30s.
Again, good luck!

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Developer roles suck. Your job competition makes $4-$10hr. We push those teams with unrealistic expectations and expect perfection. It’s like working the production line at McDonalds. The technical folks do expect the business/pm types to have excellent communication skills. If you really want to try it take classes on your time in a language you can apply at work. Don’t broadcast it because they are always looking for capacity. When you personally get to a level where you can contribute and not waste everyone’s time ask if you can take a user story and give it a go. Then explain you’ve taken some classes and would like to help part time. Offshore will look at you with amazement and hand you all of their work in the part time role. At least 16hrs a day worth. Next thing you know you’re a developer, no degree required. Just build on small successes and you’ll get there with significant self study. Remember that I warned you! I’m an architect and an introvert. Clients like me but I hate presenting online, in person, and conference rooms and cubes are literal prisons for me. I do make friends easily. My interpersonal communication skills are better. So when I present I throw up slides and have conversations. It’s more interesting. Sometimes you have to use a crutch to keep walking. I’m sure there are other tricks you can learn to survive in an extrovert world.

There is no clear correlation between being extrovert and a successful career in consulting.

Joined a firm with a lot of other introverts. I found that super helpful

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