Anyone has had to deal with unstructured managers stressed/ passive aggressive senior team?
They flip flop with priorities and sometimes ask for stuff never mentioned before. Also you never know when they will lash out.
I have noticed my worst symptoms being exacerbated working in this environment i.e., forgetfulness, hard time focusing on what needs to get done…

Any tips how to deal with it?

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I’m dealing with something similar but am still learning how to deal with it. I just document everything (great for my ND brain) and when they say something that’s critical of a miss, I document that it’s never been discussed so when I have a touch point with senior leaders, I show them that and inform them this is a pattern and it’s important for them to know that the manager’s attention to detail and poor leadership are valid concerns as they affect your work and the work of the project.

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I was explicitly told that using such tools would a waste of time. So I stopped using it… often the mgr refuses to have a proper check in and just drops stuff between meetings. Probably falls under the may not help category

Yes! It is hard enough for me to deal with myself and get through the day, add in managers that are not well organized and it is that much harder. I also do a lot of documenting, almost making a category for the oddball tasks that were given to me last minute, the categorizing has somewhat helped me, but still a work in progress on how to cope.

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Dealing with structured managers is stressful because I’m unstructured

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