Can’t believe how much I let others dictate my happiness with my career. This busy season I finally let go of that and even though I’ve been pulling long hours I love this job and feel fulfilled ☺️

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I was overly concerned about my reviews and how I compared to my peers on my teams. I had this internal mantra that reminded me no matter how hard I try I will never be as good as the other staff and I am destined to under perform. I was reinforced with this idea when my peer consistently got the more interesting tasks while I was receiving admin related projects. My managers were completely hands off with training and expecting staff to know everything from the get go or figure it out on their own if they didn’t. If i came to them with questions I had to prove that it was a worthy enough question to discuss with them and if it wasn’t they would send me back without any guidance while being condescending. Their judgment of me on a regular basis ground me down to nothing and I felt worthless. I was able to transition off of that team and was able to start fresh with a new perspective of not letting harsh criticism wreck my self worth and it has significantly paid off in my work quality and mental state

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Can you elaborate on what the issue was and how you reframed your perspective?

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My first years of working sucked me into depression and I sought help for myself and was able to embrace my life for what it is instead of what it could be and it was truly eye opening. Hope others have similar moments come about in their careers!

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Thank you for sharing. This job is exhausting and causes so much anxiety. I’ve been trying to be more confident and in a sense “care less,” but it’s hard. I’m glad you worked it out.

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