Does it mean anything if an ex reaches out to wish happy birthday?

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I always took it as they don’t want you to forget them. Stringing you along as a small reminder. Don’t respond. Regardless of who dumped who, it’s your day. Don’t let the past in as you’re celebrating a new chapter in your life.

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Ok I don’t think this person is like this

I agree with paralegal. They’re just trying to see if they still have access to you.

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I agree, they’re looking for attention, want something casual or just bored. If they wanted to make a big speech about wanting you back and show you how they’ve changed, they would!

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My ex (who broke up with me) called me on her birthday. 😕

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I don’t know, I wasn’t awake to answer. I texted her and she apologized a lot and said she was thinking about me but shouldn’t have reached out.

We agreed to not talk to each other in July, first time one of us reached out to the other.

Also, she didn’t text me for my bday in august 🤷🏻

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It means do not respond.

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