I feel completely lost and worthless , I was dating a girl for last 5 years , I fought a lot for this girl as my parents never approved of her because of some cultural differences. I went to see my mom to let my parents know that I am plannning to marry her but after I came back my gf told me that she is over me. She seems to have found someone else and she says that she feels nothing for me anymore . She used to tell me that she has found her soulmate in me. I am unable to understand this :(

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SM - what might seem a heartless and painful thing right now , may end up as a good thing for you over the long run. I remember being so in love when I was 23 to this man I thought was a good match for me. Had issues with my family accepting this as they were quite conservative. During all the ups and downs, the man revealed his true self. At that time I was so heartbroken , it took me years to get past whatever happened. When I look back today, I am glad my wishes didn’t come true.

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You dodged a bullet! Better leave before marriage

I’m so sorry this happened to you! You don’t want to be with someone whose feelings can change so quickly. There’s nothing you can do about her unhappiness in the relationship. Focus on making you happy.

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