I have a problem at work where I think everybody is talking about everything negative in my life even things that they would have no reason to know. Going to therapy on Monday but has anybody struggled with this

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It’s paranoia. Anti-anxiety meds and anti-psychotics help.

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No. I don't post anything about my life online and I limit how much personal information I share at work.

I'm good on the first one I'm getting better on the second one

There’s a saying, “When you’re 20, you care what everyone thinks, when you’re 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you’re 60, you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place.” I don’t think it takes until 60, but you’ll eventually learn that, despite all your worries, no one was ever sitting around thinking about you in the first place.

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