I need help preparing for deployment - any tips or ideas to make this easier on me and my family?

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It depends on where you’re deploying to. Not all deployments are equal. Deployments to Iraq and Africa may have limited resources. However, if you are going to Qatar or Kuwait, you can pretty much get anything you need at the BX or on the economy. As to how to prepare your family. Try and take some time off with your family that is fun before heading down range. If you get a mid tour, for example if deployed for a year, make plans to capitalize on the time together. Lastly, make sure that you set your family up with resources that they will need while you’re away—updated will, PoA, take care of any deferred maintenance so those things don’t bite you in the backside while deployed. With a total of 7 deployments and 2 of them being for 1 year each, I’ve got lots of experience. Lastly, make sure you take time to slowly reintegrate. Realize that while you were away your spouse was doing double duty and it may take some time getting your divide and conquer roles back to normal. Hopefully this helps. I was one of those officers who enjoyed getting the mission done down range both in and out of combat zones.

Deployment can be hard on a family, but there are some things you can do to make it easier. First, try to stay positive and upbeat. Your family will feed off of your energy, so try to keep things as normal as possible. You can also use this time to bond with your family. Make sure to talk to them about what you're doing and what to expect. This will help them feel more connected to you and the mission. Finally, stay connected with them while you're away. Send emails, texts, or even video messages to let them know you're thinking of them.

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