if you have regular one-on-ones with a superior who you’ve often heard gossiping about other coworkers, would you bring it up to them? feel like i’ve lost trust in someone who i considered a mentor, and am wondering if i should say anything.

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What would you say if you did? If it’s along the lines of “I heard you gossiping and I feel I can’t trust you because of it” then I would caution you against it. But I think you would probably be okay if you went with something like “Would it be okay to keep the things we talk about private? I really value your advice and I’m grateful for how much you’ve helped me. Knowing that what we discuss in these one-on-ones is confidential would mean a lot to me because our office can be kind of gossip-y and I don’t want something I said to be misconstrued if someone were to hear about it third-hand or whatever.”

But honestly you should just be aware that anything you say to this person could be repeated as gossip and process accordingly.

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