Is there a making friends in your 20s for dummies book for sale? I recently moved across the country with my partner as they landed a job here in October, but with me working remote still on the east coast, It’s been difficult for us to find friends outside of her coworkers.

Would love to attend creative-adjacent events on the weekends, grab drinks with anyone willing, or maybe even network with other advertising folk.

Do you ever get over an ex you loved?

Where are you in your own path to parenthood?

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Anyone want to get together/get to know each other? Md/partner type here

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

Any tips for hard launching partners on social media? For context, I’ve (Indian American female) been dating my white American boyfriend for 3 years and we just got engaged after two years of convincing my parents. They are very happy and excited now, but I’m scared shitless about being ostracized / judged by my extended family and Indian community in the US once I “let the cat out of the bag” on the engagement news. I want to be proud and confident about this but could use some moral support.

Just got married to a somebody I met through this bowl and I love him with everything inside me! Wanted to share that’s there’s hope for everybody!!!!

Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

Partners, how have you managed to balance the work, obviously substantial, and your family? I see many with stay-home SO, but wondering if it is possible to prioritize family if your SO has a demanding career

To those with an anxious attachment style and have trust issues due to past childhood trauma you’re still healing from: How do you keep yourself from thinking your significant other is going to cheat on you when she/he goes to a party or out while you’re miles away? I’ve been in therapy to help, and trying to distract myself but my anxiety is keeping it from working and don’t want to put that pressure on him because I’m trying to work on it.

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

How do i find out if I will be happier divorced or more unhappily staying married. 2 kids; 2 & 4 YO. They don’t hear the arguments after bed time and don’t understand the bruises yet but I know it’s just a matter of time. It would be so much harder not seeing my kids everyday than living with the pain, loneliness and lost friendships. But I’m tired. And so sad. Lost. So alone. Does anyone have something that turned it around? He changed? You changed so he did? Ayahuasca retreat maybe?

Am I crazy or do women take pride in saying “my boyfriend/husband makes twice as much as me” or similar statements

Anyone here ever had to explain to their family that they want kids, but they’re not interested in marriage? Women especially?

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

My wife reads nearly an entire book per day just in her spare time after work, no exaggeration. I’m amazed by her and wondering what ideas are out there to monetize her skill? Book editing maybe?

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

Hello fishes, what should be the right salary range for 9.5 yoe in development. Technology is Python and Java. Amazon Newco Larsen & Toubro Infotech IBM Tech Mahindra

I recently was let go (in lieu of accepting my two weeks) and I should have received my March expense check by the end of April per the employment agreement (submitted the report April 1, let go before mid April). I have emailed HR but haven't heard anything. I've got a feeling someone at the top is putting a hold on it.

How do I get my money from them? It's a few hundred dollars

Sorry if this isn't the right bowl for this question - I've checked a few.

At which stage can you start monetizing? I have 10k of enthusiastic followers for a insta car account. Thank you for insights

I am interviewing for nCino as a entry level Support Engineer. They ask for 2 years experience in the financial services industry and knowledge of Salesforce. I have over 1 year experience in the financial industry and 2 years working with Salesforce. I live in Louisiana and it's Remote. What salary should I be aiming for? Total compensation also if you can! What do other Support Engineer get paid

Hello Fishes,

I am getting interviewed for JPMC technical recruiter role. Mostly I will have comp discussion for Senior Analyst. Suggestions on max salary bracket?. Also how is the work life balance?

I had a 3rd round interview with a VP yesterday, sent a follow up email after and included a general question and no response. Is this a bad sign?

I had a job interview for a role that I really want. The hiring manager scheduled me for an interview and did not show up. Emailed me an hour later stating that he got super busy and couldn’t attend, and would like to reschedule. This is a major red flag, but I can’t help but feel that I am missing out since this role pays 50% over what I currently make. Should I let the recruiter know? What’s your take on this?

How do I find a therapist? I feel like it’s time. I’m tired of feeling anxious and getting worked up by the smallest QA comments.

I have to stop imagining how great it will be to sell my script until it actually sells.

What do you do when your new creative director turns out to be cheesy as hell? Moving concepts to very cheesy/lame directions

Please help. I’ve moved up the ranks pretty quickly at the company I work for to become a Principal SE. My manager thinks the best next step for me is to move into management and leadership and has started pushing me to apply for an engineering manager role. They say that I will be a good fit because of my strong technical background paired with the leadership and people skills I display currently.

I’m torn because I do love being an IC but I’m interested in leadership also. What do I do?

What do you think about switching tech stacks vs becoming an expert in one stack? I am a backend Java engineer, and have solely used Java since I've started my software engineering career about 2 years ago. I don't know whether I should explore other tech stacks while I'm young, or instead focus on becoming a Java expert, given that I enjoy working in Java.

from God import pandemic
From China import coronavirus, mortality_rate

covid_19 = pandemic.coronavirus.set_mortality(mortality = 1.)

I am trying to justify house buying in HCOL city. The house cost is minimum 1.4m .monthly mortgage would be at least 7k(with just around 2k principal) rest goes to either int,tax. Not to mention regular house maintenance. How is it better than 3.5k rental. I understand appreciation and own house independence. But I am just trying to make numbers work.

Hello,

I have got an offer from persistent systems and salary discussion is in progress.

I am going to be placed in some cloud BU. In which they are going to give training and allocate in projects which requires cloud expertise.

Any idea about that Unit?

Yoe - 6
Tech stack - .net + azure

I got into marketing because I thought it would be an opportunity to make good money in a field where I could still exercise my creativity, but I’ve found it to be extremely stifling and bogged down by bureaucracy. Does it ever get better?

Adobe Attribution

Does anyone have an experience with Getting view thru attribution working in adobe? And if so, how was it implemented.
Thank you so much in advance for your help.

BC - do you buy/sell more puts or calls?

Whats the salary range for Senior SDET with skills of Python, javascript, jenkins, git, docker, aws

What’s up RipCity! Who’s drinking tonight?

Is anyone in Portland conservative? What is it like for you being there? I get along with just about anyone, but seems pretty hostile towards non-liberal folks from what I've seen

Let's get into it....is Portland still "weird?" Or has it sold out?

Hi there! I’ve been living here for about a year now. Looking to meet some fellow creatives that don’t work at Nike . Who’s around?!

Hi all. Relocating to Portland. Looking for reccos on neighborhood to live in. Am remote so can be anywhere up there. Have kids so don’t want to grungy, but don’t want any suburb that’s too boring. Any great little neighborhoods safe but still interesting with cafes around etc? Thanks in advance.

We looking for creatives. If you have broadcast and digital, DM me.

Hello I'm new to fishbowl and also I'm a
recruiter in Seattle looking currently for
building engineers for Seattle, Denver and
Portland roles! Hopefully will meet some
through connections on here so if you
know anyone please send them my way!!

I currently work as a optician, referral coordinator and optometry technician. Busting my butt off wearing all 3 hats and I get paid $20 an hour… I don’t think this is a fare wage considering I’m doing the job of 3 people. I want to negotiate a higher wage any tips of what I should ask for?

Anyone hiring junior creatives?

Any opinions about Thesis as a creative?

I’m looking to move to the Portland area. Would love to connect with a head hunter or recruiter. I have 15 yrs experience in advertising and marketing—agency and in-house. CD level for past 5 years. Im currently making 175k base. Is this a reasonable salary at most shops for a CD or Dir. of Marketing role?

Anyone have a recommend for a seasonal depression light? There are lots of options and I would prefer one that turns on in the early am hours.

Hey Portland!!!
Wondering cost of living in and around portland?
I’m thinking about moving from SF to Portland for a great job salary starting around 90k. I’m 30 years old with 1 child who lives with his mother.

Has anyone else seen ads for the musical “Shen Yun”, EVERYWHERE??? To date I have seen billboards, social media ads, posters, and received a mailer yesterday. Their media budget must be massive.

Hey there 2020. Anyone hiring?

Is moving from Seattle worth it? I've heard the freeze is still in affect in Portland but I'm more worried about prices. I WFH mostly and pull down like 120k a year, Seattle is getting crazy expensive rent wise and crazy full. I'd like to find somewhere new but stick to the PNW.

New to this bowl!! The bowl doesn't look super active tho😔 is there any place in the downtown area where I can get tennis lessons? Never played it before

Got a date with a girl I've admired for a while this weekend, where should I take her? Best romantic/fun date spots, ideally with great food or near great food. She has no dietary restrictions as far as I know. Thanks