Me & my bf took 3 months before seeing each other. We are in an LDR for 4yrs (EC/WC). During that time, I’ve felt myself getting disconnected & disheartened bc currently there’s no plan of ending the distance. We reunited this week for a few days bc I’m in a city close to his hometown for work & I’m struggling to get intimate with him. The flame is missing & he called me out on it. Is there anyone who has recovered from a similar situation? After 4yrs, I’m feeling like time to walk away is here😔

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unfortunatley it might be. but wdym by the “3 months before seeing each other”

but before you make any decisions i’d say talk to him about. maybe try to plan more trips. maybe try to move to the same area sometime soon?

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Thank you. I meant we had been apart for 3 months from the last time we saw each other

Was in a similar LDR last year. I didn’t mind the distance for the most part, tried to make it home at least every 60 days. When together try to make it last as long as possible to reset that normalcy. E.g., I’d be home for like two weeks at a time minimum.

She broke up with me because she was tired of the distance, and a few months later I had an opportunity to go fully remote which would have been perfect but since it was too late I declined.

Just because the end isn’t in sight doesn’t mean they aren’t looking for it

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Thanks FA1, that last sentence kinda got to me

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