My mom keeps sending me listings, but they're nothing like what I want. How do I tell her to back off without hurting her feelings?

Would you rather lick 👅 a porcupine or go back to your ex?

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

Hi everyone, first timer here. Having some issues w. our 4 yo being pushed around and bullied at preschool. He’s really sad and upset. He’s also super shy & introvert. Any advise? Pep talk? Discuss with teacher?

How is everyone taking time to indulge in Self Care now that most of us are either about to go back to work, or have started back up with students? I’m having mixed feelings of going back on my end and would love to hear how others are feeling too!

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

I feel old and tired with all the family responsibilities since I was a teenager. Often I feel exhausted emotionally and mentally and then I pick myself up to move forward as I don’t have an option to quit. Who can I blame? None. 😢

Yet another friend/colleague got engaged this weekend. It’s become impossible to celebrate people’s relationships. I’m a POC woman and I’ve been single since coming to the US 10 yrs ago. A handful of men have been interested but they were not Christian or back in my country. So many childless, single women in my church and I’m terrified I’ll be them soon. My non-Christian family doesn’t understand why I’ll only date Christians, or the dating scene in big cities, so they put pressure on me

Where’s the best place to live if you’re looking to secure an entry-level position working in PE? Don't have a family, really kind of willing to try anywhere at this point.

2 days ago i told the resp on the phone i had a divorce petition to mail him and needed his address. He said he would call me back with the address because he was driving, just moved to a new place, and didn't have it memorized. He never gave it to me but i found it anyway and mailed it certified. Today i found out that he cleared out their bank account. Can i do an emergency hearing to get that money back? He does not physically have the petition yet but i definitely told him it was coming.

Wanted to share this somewhere.
My father has been very aggressive and keeps on creating quarrel like situations at home day in and day out.
I care for him a lot. However, i have tried both calm and aggressive tones during quarrels, but it also didn't help.
Now it's becoming unbearable to keep on getting involved with his quarrels over little things... considering this scenario I am also not proceeding with matrimonial process as not sure how the girl will handle this
28M here
Any suggestions?

I am wanting to start the adoption process. I reached out to pathways to parenthood for information first from my personal email. I got a response within 30 min asking me to email them back from my work email. I did so and it has now been 3 days with no response. Is there any other way of contacting them?

Any other lonely social workers in here? I mean a lot to some of the people on my caseload but that's about it. Don't have any family near me and it's hard to make friends with non-SW's mostly just because I'm too tired after work to want to do much. Do you spend most of your time alone or is your social time self care for you? Just feel like I don't have a support system!

Getting about $2200 back from Federal and $1300 back from NY State. Claimed 2 for both last year and having 2nd kid this year. Should I bump to 3 or keep as is?

Is my relationship worth it? Met my SO of 3 years senior year of college. Hoped we would graduate and start our full time jobs together, but my SO is unfortunately still in school (switched majors, transferred schools, etc). Our relationship has taken a big hit, as I am moving forward with my life but he is still in school and can’t find a job. I am also starting to resent him and he is turning more insecure. I am only 23, is this worth it?

Two of our students were killed today in a shooting, another two are in the hospital. Last week a student was killed in a different shooting. Admin barely acknowledged. How do we help our kids?

Made an appointment with my therapist to talk through the issues in my relationship. Coronavirus has been rough on us

I’m excited to marry my SO in a few months but I have severe stage fright and do not like being the center of attention. Any advice on how to reduce the anxiety and just enjoy the day?

My cousin is in great shape physically and I know he could get through that part of basic training/boot camp but don't know if he could handle all the yelling because of past trauma he's been through. Thoughts / advice?

How much time does ADP takes to come back after document submission on portal for HR discussion.

I was told today that too many of my students were failing and to make it so over half of them are passing by the end of the year. Have you had to do this? What did you do?

I finally was able to convince my principal that we need a consistent math intervention at the MS level (grades 5-8). (Right now, we are just "doing our own thing," which isn't helping students progress much.) Does anyone have any suggestions? It would be beneficial to have some sort of progress monitoring tool as part of the program, if possible. Our classes run roughly 55 minutes (which is too long for an intervention, in my humble opinion).

Thanks for any advice.

How much is the shift allowance for each shift?
I heard there will allowance for overtime too!
Can you please clarify?

Salaam, unsure if this is the right bowl, but does anyone have any recommendations on books that discuss the history of Pakistan? It’s formation, etc. Thanks

What is LPA location premium allowance mentioned in offer letter?? Is it variable part which we get end of year? Or will it be part of monthly salary?

General Question!
According to the new Wage Rules, are companies giving Basic Salary as 50% of fixed Pay? Should we ask HR of our current company or the next company to actually do the same? Or the rule isn't a mandate and it's upon companies to follow it ?

Quick poll for single guys : how often do you have random hookups?

Any single lipstick lesbians here, what to chat 😉?

Risk assurance senior and planning to leave for industry to do security compliance soon. Would want to come back to big 4 to do security consulting, how should I plan out my career route? Just a lost young soul who graduated from college 2 years back...

What is the starting salary for a young MBA graduate with a project management certificate? Should I expect 6 figures?

Hi all,
I'll be moving out to San Diego for a few months and wont have a car, can I get around downtown without one? Also, what areas within downtown are safe?

If I take my Schengen visa from the French embassy, can my first stop be another country before I go to France?

Meeting with a recruiter at one of the FAANG companies. I won’t be able to move jobs because of H1b /GC at least for the next year. Any idea if I should start off with that or should I just try to understand the work that they have been doing?

Does ibm give any Diwali gifts?

I know that people say it’s all about story, but with a certain gpa/gmat score is there a “floor” that you’re safe on? For example would someone with 4.0/780 (not me) be pretty much assured at least 1 M7? Or is there a reasonable chance that all M7s will reject them? Or is their floor just lower (T15 for example)?

Hi Tax Friends. Seeking some advice. I will give more context in the comments, but big picture I am a non-tax litigator interested in switching to tax. The question is: (1) pursue LLM; (2) take tax job now; (3) just treat tax as a hobby?

Hello Folks,
I wanted to know about ServiceNow competency in IBM .. how’s it in IBM when compared to CTS or Infosys as am from CTS

Is buying fancy condos with high HOA(>$1k) worth it?

Any recommendation for best brokers / banks for jumbo mortgage rates? NY metro area. Was quoted ~5.6% last week from Guaranteed Rate, but not sure if they’re brokering or lending themselves. If the former, I’d think I could find better rate going direct to lender.

I'd like to buy, but the market is absolutely atrocious currently

My partner bought a new truck earlier this month. We’re hoping to joint-purchase our first home next spring. Is there a “best” time to get pre-approved for a mortgage? When should we start the home buying process?

So far we’ve kept our head in the realtor apps to see what the market is doing.

Rent just went up, pressure is on!

What do you wish you knew before you began the home buying process for the first time? What would change if you could go back to the beginning of the process?

Thinking about using my VA loan in a few years. Any advice?

Any recommendations for buying agents in Massachusetts?

I am brand new to the process and keep hearing conflicting reports. Should I be waiting out the market? Or is this the perfect time to buy if you can? I don't trust all these realty sites telling me I should buy now.

What’s a fair calculator to know your affordable mortgage?

One online have a wide range in what’s considered “affordable”
Pre bonus and equity I earn 110k/yr in Wash DC.
I’ve seen 33% net income, but honestly $1650/mo CANT even get a 500sqft condo on rent.
30% gross is $2750/mo 😱
Others say I can afford 600k houses but that seems irresponsible and ridiculous.
My current rent is $1750 for a small 1bd1ba (cheap) but I’m sacrificing my safety in my neighborhood. No frills apt.

I’m really discouraged. My after tax / after 401k contributions etc. take home pay is $6,500 monthly. I have $60,000 in savings / stocks for a down payment but even looking at a $550,000 home, my monthly payment would be about $3,400 from the calculators I’ve been using. Is that too high?

So discouraged that houses where I live are about 50% higher than what they were 2 years ago, and now interest rates are around 5.25% for my credit score. This is like a 1750 sq foot home

What are people doing in terms of stashing money away for your first house? I want to buy within the next 3 years and I'm looking for any type of budget tips, credit card recommendations, safe and solid bank loans, or whatever you did that worked. Thanks!

Anybody here a FTB in London, UK?
If so what kind of mortgage rates are you expecting?

Seeking some advice for home buying. Went under contract on a new construction back in March, was originally supposed to be ready in August but has been delayed until November. I’ve began getting quotes for mortgage rates through lenders and the best I’ve seen so far is 5.75% (excellent credit, dp at 10%) at a 60 day lock. Debating if I should test my luck with the market to see if rates will drop or if I should go ahead and lock my rate in before Rates increase even more

Plan is to purchase some time after 2 years or so. Primarily to save up for a larger down payment.

Here’s my plan of attack:
- $30K saved right now ($20K in IBonds and $10K cash)
- $90K saved by July 2023
-$130K saved by 2023 and target a $800K home

Location: Suburbs of Boston, MA

Looking to buy my first house- Would it be a bit of a stretch to buy a house with a mortgage of 2.7k when I take in 3.4k bi weekly?

Any recommendations for a good water softener/filtering system which keeps the overall salt level low post-softening ?

Buying new home first time in Austin, what you recommend to do 10% down payment or 20%. If I do 20% then saving around 60k in a year. Considering inflation is coming and house prices is going down day by day.

How much is 2k a month for a house payment? What size loan would I be able to get?