Need advice, fishies. What kinds of questions do you ask a potential boss to sniff out if they’re going to be toxic or not? Btw, I’m defining toxic as someone who gaslights, undermines, steals credit, makes snide jokes, gossips, throws their team under the bus, gatekeeps info you need 4 yr job…… I’m not talking about a situation where there’s just a lot of work/burnout. feel like these people can be so good at putting on an act and it can be hard to fish this out during just 1-2 conversations……

New to managing someone: she promised to send in slides eod Friday for review over the weekend, so far nothing. Do I email to remind? Offer help? She also sent in something else that we agreed was lower priority.

Been on a project for 2 weeks and thinking it’s not for me. The manager is kind of rude when I ask for help/direction, but he always says to ask if things are uncertain. He always has this condescending attitude and just keeps telling me that he expects more of someone at my level, C. I just keep feeling anxious that I’m not meeting expectations and feel reluctant to ask for help. Anyone in the same boat?

How do you tackle ignorant managers and favoritism in the team ?

What’s the consensus on dress code for a virtual interview? Is a suit too formal? Maybe no tie?

Is it appropriate to wear business casual clothing to an interview for a fin-tech firm?

I have an intern who's hygiene has slowly deteriorated over a few very stressful weeks at work. Should I leave them be, or gently remind them?

Anyone get nervous before speaking in front of a group of people? I feel super embarrassed because sometimes when I’m super nervous my voice cracks and I’m worried other people can tell. Any strategies to fight this?

Just got out of the Army and transitioned to the business world. I have no clue how to dress. I’ve worn a uniform almost everyday for 7 years. Anyone have any advice for how to dress in the workplace?

OP is being unreasonable, and OPs counsel is nice, but struggles with basic procedural skills. (For example, forwarded me emails from his client that admit to evidence spoliation). On a scale of 1 - 10, how dick-ish of me is it to wait until end of the day to serve a mountain of Interrogatories, Request for Production, Request for Admissions, and a Deposition Notice. I may or may not be purposely exploiting OC’s inability to keep up and follow the rules of discovery.

need advice.

I have been working in an interim role as a portfolio manager. I was promised that the role would be mine. However, after doing the job for 2 months, I have been advised that we might not get the funding for the role and I might not get the raise and the title but my responsibilities will be the same.

Its a political minefield.

How should I back out elegantly that I need to be compensated fairly and competitively from this mess without burning any bridges

How do I set myself up for success in the first 30 days of my new EA role? What questions should I be asking? How often should I be meeting with my executive? 2-3 times a week or daily morning touch base calls?

Older, successsful FAs: How do you suggest a younger female in the business approach you and talk about joining your team? What areas do advisors like you need help with?

Anyone actually friends with their clients? Is that crossing the line?

One partner is driving me insane. I CANNOT work with him. We are far enough in the case that it would take a lot of time for someone to take over for me but still early enough that the case will be going for another 2 years. Has anyone ever asked to be pulled from a case and is there a way to distance myself from this partner without hurting my reputation? 2nd year lit associate, partner is a jr partner in a different office but we cross staff a lot. TIA!

I’m kind of stuck what to do. The principal at my school is very intimidating, confrontational, and not pleasant to work for. I love teaching but feel like I have to walk on egg shells around him.

I'm fine with you being a seat warmer, just don't be a roadblock for my work. Rant over.

Anybody actually had any success resolving issues at work that are clearly rooted in bias but because they are microaggressions they are just dismissed or explained away as something else?

For big law attorneys with tattoos... do you try to hide them?

If you’ve gotten an offer from one shop while you’re in the 2nd round of interviews with a few others, is there a ‘best practices’ for being diplomatic whilst using it to your advantage?

Just got asked off an account for defending the work too much. I’ve never felt prouder of myself. May the bridges I burn light my way.

What is the interview process for QA Automation canddidate for 6.6 YOE

Having an anxiety attack in the office is the worst feeling. Not how I wanted my week to start. This shit really comes back 😭

41/m/nyc anyone interested in grabbing a drink

My girlfriend has a peloton fitness membership. I’m thinking about getting a bike. Do I need a subscription or can I use hers for the bike?

Anyone deal with their families not really liking your career choice? I always hear about it during the holidays and get told that "it's not too late to do something else."

Any good contractors for new flooring installation?

8/27 Thread (BC):

Hey, i got an offer from CBA. I wish to know about the creche/ day care facility provided by the company. Can you please help me on it

Hi,

Can anyone help what should be the fixed component for Senior Analyst Fund Research role at HSBC? Grade they have mentioned is 6.
Yoe-5

Q for guys. Any recommendations on face lotion?

Need guidance on how to move from testing to development. I am trying to change project for first time. Band B1. Total Exp-1 year. Project Exp-9 months

Hey Fishes,

Is anyone working or received an offer letter from @Luxoft?
Please share some reviews and perks of joining Luxoft.

Anyone know where I can hire someone to look at my flow? I desperately need help, so I am willing to pay by the hour. Upwork prevented me to message people , maybe I need to make a seperwte account for hiring?

Anyone who had H1B approved petition in previous company and when switched to new company the h1b petition got transfered? I would like to understand how h1b transfer works?

Career wise: if you had to choose between Allstate or USAA which would you choose? It’s both for the same position of unrepresented bodily injury adjuster.

Has anyone shifted from HR Generalist Roles to something completely different? I’d love to hear success stories of career pivots from HR! Thank you!

Hi friends, my wife has total 10 years of experience and currently working as Salesforce CRM consultant in witch.
The role offered in Accenture is in team Customer Sales & Service Sales force, level yet to be decided
What should be expected fixed portion of salary.

Any openings for Project Manager... please DM me ... I am currently working with Ey

Hi Fishes,

I had resigned from TCS during Mayl21...had got offer from KPMG...
But luckily I cleared Jan DCA and I got almost the same offer...they promised me that they'll change my project to BigData which they have...so I withdrew my resignation...

Now just yday I received an offer from LTI...
It's a good offer...

But, I am afraid whether I am eligible to resign within this 8 month interval?
Is there any cooling period between two resignations in TCS?

Pls help guys🙏🏾

Will taking a mental health leave follow you around.

Just scheduled a meeting with HR about taking a leave of absence for mental health issues. If anyone here has successfully done this, I’d love any advice/tips

Has anyone defined themselves by their passion for this industry so much so, that if they thought about doing something else they’d have no idea who they are anymore?

Does that even make sense?

Job technically allows for WFH - take about one a month because of debillitating anxiety and depression flare ups. I actually work too - I just can’t be around people.

Sunday Scaries are already in full swing and the sun hasn't even set yet 😓

I've struggled with taking meds. I never understood the concept of "take your meds even if you feel good."

Today, I'm 28 days consistent taking my meds and I feel so. damn. great.

Keep going friends

Have any of you had to go through multiple different therapists and found one that you enjoy meeting with consistently? Hating myself rn but don’t want to talk to the one therapist i have met with 3x and not sure if the search is even that worth it ultimately. For those that couldn’t find a good match for a therapist - are there other methods of therapy you’ve tried or would recommend?

I’ve gotten to the final stage in interview process at 5 places now to be told no. First and second interviews at a bunch of other places too. Starting to really feel drained. So much work for nothing

My parents got incredibly angry and threatened to “end up in the hospital” and “disown” me after I told them I want to marry my partner, who comes from a different religion. My partner is amazing and I can’t imagine loving anyone this deeply, and feeling so safe with them. But I also love my parents and they’ve done so much for me. I don’t know how to cope with this.

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

How do you stop putting yourself down? I don’t mean to do it and it just comes out of my mouth and then I feel SO awk after.

Is feeling suicidal a reason to leave work early/call out sick in the morning?

Seeking benefit clarification - US Health Indursnce says “Employee cover starts frm $17.65 PCM w/ $400 per month contribution by employer”. What does this mean? Worried about mental health costs/srvcs

My heads messed up. Feeling anxious about a situation with my ex (A) but ex (B) shows up after I’ve been distant with A ... I hooked up with B ... I hate that I feel neglected... (continue )

What made you feel life was “worth it” again?

I enjoy what I do but It’s ultimately not good for my anxiety. Making good work at a competitive agency seems to come at the cost of my mental health.

I was depressed last year, did therapy and on antidepressants and got completely better. But now I’m feeling depressed again, even though I’m still on antidepressants.
Feeling stuck- will I always be battling this?

Any success stories of L-Theanine supplements? After a particularly rough anxiety attack last night, I’ve decided to try some remedies (without resorting to Ativan).

Every interaction I have with my partner has become super passive aggressive. It ruins my day and I think she gets off on it. How do tell her I need her attitude to change or that we need to interact.

Any tips on managing anxiety? It’s kind of snowballed since becoming a parent and I need to get a handle on it