Ok, I’m preaching to the choir here, but I’m a mid-level lateral, and I get most of my work now from an absolutely toxic partner that I am basically assigned to (firm is very siloed and partner doesn’t like sharing associates). I am getting to the point where I don’t take the tirades personally, but the obvious lack of good leadership leaves me incredibly unmotivated. But the learned helplessness also means that I procrastinate—like right now! Send help!

A partner put me in charge of a specific project that I ran independently. Things were going well. The client began asking me to do more and more, including revamping their system and internal trainings. The client even gave me a litigation matter. Suddenly, the partner became more involved. I was removed from meetings concerning the revamping, my trainings were cancelled, and he started micromanaging. He has now sidelined me from the project and trash talked me to the client. I am very upset.

Poll: What dress code do you follow at your home office?

How do you deal with stub years who are exceptionally bad? I’m not talking about general cluelessness which is completely expected and understandable, but turning in work product riddled with incomprehensible, grammatically incorrect sentences that would fail middle school English. This is honestly the worst I’ve ever seen. Would you just avoid in the future or raise this with a partner? I don’t even know how to talk to this person about this…

How often are you talking and meeting with your director?

Any tips for better public speaking? Got to lead an important meeting with high profile people. Feedback was good, but needed improvement. Insecurity/shyness played a role.

What do you think when associates/senior associates misspeak on a concept during a meeting or interview?

I’ve learned something new on each project, and I’m afraid of coming off as an idiot so I rarely contribute to conversations; only after I have done research on the topic and have prepared do I speak/give ideas

Team is already talking about eating hours. My utilization is down cause I was in unassigned for a month in Dec/Jan. What's worse pissing off the partner or having a low utilization? -staff 1

How do I be a decent manager to a coworker who's upset I've been promoted twice in two years and they haven't? We started out as coworkers, became decent friends after a few good moments, but went back to simply coworkers after they flubbed a few projects and I had to step in to clean up. I'm non-confrontational but year-end reviews are right around the corner and I'm worried about having to act professional to someone who I got too close with and who now hates me.

What you should do when dealing with a very toxic worker that keep on sending passive aggressive messages to you as well as in group chat and email.
Things like when you answer his question he respond: I know that
Or when he keeps on saying my change requests were just minor in group meeting but actually not.
And keep on saying how hard he works when he clearly wasn’t and already underperformed compared to an intern level.

How to not let this toxic co-worker not poison me any further?

There is a partner that, without fail, calls on Fridays after 6pm anytime I am staffed with him. It’s extremely frustrating since his calls are usually non-urgent and I make it a point to check in early in the day to address anything. Any advice?

Best tips to manage another person that's on the same level as you, but knows everything about the client and you don't - since you are the new guy.

My annual perf discussion is monday morning. I work on a tough team for a tough place. I think Im a pretty good/almost high performer but only around 3 years and my boss seems to still act like I’m brand new (lifer boomer). I try to tell myself he has 6 direct reports and has to do this with everyone, Im no more or no less special - but I hate these convos and negative feedback even when most of it is unsurprising/fair feedback. Any tips? Just need to get through it! HR people are not immune!

I have a crush on my counsellor at work. She's much older but still really gracious and beautiful. Should I go for it or is this a bad idea?

Feeling like it's only a matter of time before I have to tell the new marketing dept head that the snazzy jargon just makes him sound like a tryhard and alienates our customer base

Ex consultant, currently in industry. BCG HR contacted me for a role, process was a lil messy and unprofessional. Still waiting for the “exploratory chat” she was supposed to set up with the MDP since 2 weeks ago. Texted on whatsapp but no response. Normal?

Has your boss ever forgotten to pay your commission? Happened to me today. Actually to our entire sales team. Advice for how to respond?

How to switch practice areas? I’ve been in immigration for 3 years now and need a change. How do you convince employers you’re a good fit for a role you don’t have any experience with?

I’m a technical sales engineer in the building automation space. 2 years out of college. Anybody have any advice on the best way to get into the tech industry as a sales engineer? Appreciate any insights or advice

I'm a Presales Manager and I'd like to know what are your thoughts on implications of taking more quota numbers for my pool? Any advantages or disadvantages?

Any guidance on evaluation for GS-13/14 level attorney-adviser positions? Matching resume but credentials aren’t insane.

For the NJ folks who work in NYC - my potential new employer has offices in both NJ and NYC. The NJ office is a 1.5 hour drive vs. NYC ~40 min commute via train. Still very much hybrid work arrangement. Given the option, which office would you prefer to be based out of and why? Mostly asking from a tax perspective. While I believe it’ll even out when filing, I’d be paying state tax in both states throughout the year, right?

Anyone has a sample deal sheet and what it should include? Reached out by recruiter and they want to see my deal sheet. Also not sure how much I can share about clients

How does diplomatic immunity cover running someone over while driving the wrong way down the street?

Republicans, you're totally right. The election process is rigged and voting doesn't matter, let's just stop voting all together to protest this madness

My mentors (partner & senior) have scheduled a feedback meeting with me on Wednesday. It’s not just me, they’re scheduling meetings with everyone so I’m probably keeping my job. Thing is, I’ve been incredibly frustrated with the firm - I’m buried in work and billing like crazy, but there’s zero transparency on financials and zero communication on bonuses (...)

Which big law firm in Dallas has the “better” work life balance?

Any feedback of product studio at GLOBANT
Heard bit bad feedbacks so worried about my joining... espcially leader

Does anyone have experience with career changers in Data Analytics or UX/UI after taking the Career Foundry or Spring Board bootcamps? I’m curious to hear opinions if it’s worth the investment. Interested in hiring perspective or career changer!

Course marshall has to be one of the top part-time retirement jobs

National insurance

how’s everyone feeling about this?

Quite miffed as I just got a small pay rise and now I think this plus the upcoming not rises in utilities and inflation will pretty much cancel it out.

This country is fucked lol

Hoping to get my PHR in the next year or so. Outside of employer reimbursement, are there other opportunities for this to get funded? I know SHRM Foundation offers scholarships for the CP, but I am looking for PHR specific help. Thank you! :)

Have you ever taken a career slow down? I am feeling burnt out from COVID and the incremental responsibilities thrown my way over the last 5+ years. I feel like my health has deteriorated. I like my company, but I want to do less. I don’t need to be a HR Director, CHRO, etc. With a career slowdown, I am prepared for a lower compensation and would want decent benefits. Any lessons learned or success stories about career slowdowns?

Top “lifestyle” litigation firms - what are they and what are the best ones in the nyc market?

Does having an excellent advertising pedigree give you the right to treat people badly? Any advice on dealing with extremely rude and extremely smart strategy humans ...

I’m new on the job search and still employed. I’m looking to grow further in the logistics industry. While I look for work, it’s a bit discouraging seeing how hundreds of people apply for positions I see on LinkedIn. I still apply because you never know and AI plays a huge effect in selections. Should I even bother applying when there are more than 100 applications?

Recommendations on how to simultaneously pay off student loans and invest?

Tips for bankruptcy associates who eventually want to move in-house? 3rd year associate in bankruptcy/restructuring group doing mainly bk lit but a few deals too. Need to stay in BL for at least another year for the money, but eventually want to move in-house. The path to in-house seems more straightforward for general commercial lit or more standard transactional practices. Any tips for someone who’s practice is a bit of a hybrid (and who will never likely do discovery or handle a depo)

Anyone have slow months where you burn through a lot of your allotted pro bono/professional development hours to keep hitting minimum daily hours? The past few weeks have been like this for me. Should I be concerned (I.e., will this reflect poorly on me, come review time? Will I have dug myself too much of a hole if I keep burning my non-billable hours?) I’ve been asking partners if I can assist in any projects so I can fill my plate, but I’ve only gotten small (4-6 hour) tasks handed my way.

What is the average adoption assistance benefit at big law firms?

What is the typical first level of “off grid” salary (ie 2022 base salary for class of 2013)? Asking for NY, M&A, AmLaw100 market.

Anyone with insight into the real estate group in Orrick’s LA office?

Stop asking if we can unionize after being asked to work over the weekend.

I moved from construction to coverage and I absolutely loathe the work. Is it unreasonable for me to want to enjoy the work I do?

I wish I had even a tiny fraction of the energy I had when I first started this job

Interviewing to crossover from plaintiff to defense work, wondering what a competitive salary offer would be from a firm in the V20-30 range, 5th year, antitrust practice. NY/DC scale. Thanks in advance

PSA - We are headed into a self-imposed economic slow down. Now is not the time to lateral but if you do, I would make sure you are at a recession-proof practice or firm. The top law firms will be okay (they always are) but if you are part of a larger group of associates with no work, you are likely to be axed. Latham did it in the 2008 and 2011 and it will happen again. If you are an associate or really anyone but a rainmaker, you are expendable.

When did partners decide that outsourced admin services are a good idea? They’re terrible. You lose more time doing stuff yourself and correcting mistakes than the amount you save with outsourcing

How do you deal with a Midlevel who tells the partner you’ll cover for them, but gives you less than 24 hours notice they’ll be gone without asking if you can cover? I helped out back on July on a deal with they were on vacation, and now every vacation since they keep adding me back on without keeping me appraised of the deal in the interim

Thoughts on choosing between Katten, Bryan Cave and Polsinelli? Katten pays best, BC has lower hours requirements and seems more laid back.

What did your first year in big law look like?

Is it normal for a firm to require you to complete a conflicts check/questionnaire BEFORE they provide you an offer?

Does anyone know what the minimum hours requirement to make bonus is in the US at Baker (in a normal year, not 2020 with COVID)?
I have received conflicting answers from a few people and I just want to make sure I am working enough going in the new year as a new associate.

What do you wear when your firm sends you to do law school recruitment? (I’m a woman fwiw)

Thoughts on Dechert FRE (real estate)?