PSA: Your pregnant coworker is juggling fatigue, nausea, aches and pains and/or “pregnancy brain”, along with their workload in a pandemic. So if they’re performing as usual (or better), that’s nothing to sniff at. And if they’re sometimes not performing up to par, cut them some slack okay? Sincerely, your pregnant coworker who initially underperformed but is now kicking butt.

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Hear, hear. Also what’s been frustrating is that most of my struggles took place my first trimester, when I was not going to tell anyone at work about my pregnancy.

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Coworker = associate, assistant, clerk, etc.

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100%. Anyone not cutting that slack is an a hole and not gonna make it far professionally unless surrounded by only other a holes.

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For the OP 100% based on her facts that she has been doing well and working hard and contributing and now needs some slack while pregnant. For someone with different facts maybe not total slack.

And for the women in your first trimester trying to hide your pregnancy. Please learn from my big big big mistake and don’t push yourself like you normally would. You’re not “barely pregnant” you are in the most critical time for development. I pulled an all nighter while 3 months pregnant (partner knew I was pregnant) and my blood pressure climbed and never went back down. It did not end well and my inability to say no because of work expectations will haunt me for the rest of my life.

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I am so sorry to hear this, and I completely understand the position you were in.

It is so difficult to recognize that you’re in a critical stage of pregnancy, your capacity is different, and you need to put your health first (for once). It is even more difficult to act on that recognition whether due to lack of seniority, high workload, or general firm environment.

Please don’t blame yourself. What happened is our burden, as a profession, to carry. This could have happened to any one of us (and it does).

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