What duration of break is perfect for a couple to figure out if they want to break up or move forward with the relationship? Me and my boyfriend, we fight a lot over petty stuffs and have disagreements over every little things. So, we decided to take a break to decide what’s best for us.

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

My kid has started having nightmares about diseases. Never before this

I know this isn’t a marriage therapy bowl, but my husband has a really terrible tendency of saying things like “you’re being really mean” and completely shutting down during a disagreement when i objectively am not being mean, just truthful or vocal about how i feel about something. It’s a really convenient argument for him because it enables him to either be the victim and me the villian, or forces me to concede my stance and not reach a true resolution. Any tips on dealing with the irrational?

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

Family member saw me working out hard and called me a "retard" for pushing myself being at max speed and "making faces". Seriously? When you push hard, it's supposed to be - hard. No?

Where/How did you meet your SO?

My marriage is beyond repair I think. Husband just said we keep having the same conversations over and over in the past year about things we’ve been trying to fix. Is a year enough time? 11 years together for reference. And I don’t think his statement is true - he literally mentioned one of those things last week that he was happy about. I just can’t do it with these vague statements in arguments.

So sad to see my beloved Cooley becomes a laughing stock. I still remember the day that a classmate of my 7-year-old thought I am a food delivery guy. Can't blame him cause I was wearing a jacket with a large COOLEY logo. He just learned the word "Cooler" the day before.

I, a childless woman who does not plan to have kids, am jealous of the parental leave parents get to take from work from choosing to have a child (a big life event). I 100% understand that they are working in a different way by taking care of the baby and being deliriously worn out in the process, but it makes me sort of jealous that unless I have a kid there is no life event that I can take ~3 months away from work to focus on and enjoy, plus have my hours prorated and a job to come back to.

Feeling really sad about friends I have drifted apart from despite efforts to stay in touch. My best friend from high school and I haven’t seen each other in about 4 years, I messaged her a year ago, got a nice response from her, and I tried keeping the convo going but she left me on read. Offered her and her boyfriend tickets to join me and my boyfriend at a concert in fall 2019, left us on read with no response. Her bday was last week and she left my bday wishes on read too. I’m so sad.

Anyone have leads on a live in or live out nanny in the Columbia/Ellicott City/Howard County, MD area? Two kids, a 4yo and a 4mo. Looking for someone to start next summer/fall so could work nicely if there are any families who will be aging out as their kids start school.

Has anyone regretted their marriage and who they married? Please share experiences

I have been married for 3 years. We have been trying to have a baby and found out my husband is shooting blanks and requires surgery to possibly resolve that. Recovery is 4 weeks and he refused. He is also not open to adopting or fostering or using someone else’s sperm. What do I do now?

Several years ago a gay male acquaintance said he didn't date Black guys. It made me bristle but I was not surprised. Now he's married to one. I feel in a way vindicated every time I see his loving social media posts with his Black husband of like 5 years or so now.

How did he get over his apparent aversion to Black men enough to go and marry one? Where would he be if he hadn't had a change of heart?

I wish there were a tactful way to remind him he said that and watch as he eats his words...

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

My mom says to marry a man who loves me, not a man who I love. Happily married wives: thoughts?

Graduated law school, passed the bar, and started my job last summer. My wife and I got pregnant with our first sooner than we expected, and we're due in June. Any general tips/advice?

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

Was hanging out with a friend in town. We met on Bumble but he just wanted to be friends. He has dated several guys since we met and we continue to hangout as friends (cont)

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

How many hearts do you need to DM?

Am I missing something with Quickbooks? I’ve been hearing a lot of firms use it so I signed up to try it but it’s quite confusing with the trust accounting. Looks like I need the advanced version but that’s like $180 a month. We already do billing through Tabs3. Would I be better off investing in an all in one practice management + accounting + billing software? Any recs?

What the hell.... new office Chicago and you already have to change things up???

Florida CPA here with a question regarding CPA license renewal. I passed my tests sometime in February 2019 but didn’t get the official license until January 2020. What dates should I use for counting my CPEs towards the renewal?

Top Corp Dev teams: Trying to find the “top” (using this as short hand, I know it’s subjective) PE shops had a bunch of resources to use. However, there are no such resources (please share if I’m wrong!) for “top” Corp dev teams. “Top” is probably some mix of caliber of people, comp, ~prestige~, etc. let’s hear y’all’s top Corp dev teams!

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Any Accenture and Accenture federal services fishes how does the bonus look for this year , Any insights what’s the average hike and average bonus ?

Hi Fishes,
Can anyone please guide me about appraisal at DXC technology ?
What is the cycle for appraisal ? Is it Apr-Mar?
And what is the average hike to an average performing employee ?

Hi 🐠

I have been told last of this month hikes will rolled out ,does it started ?

Why KPMG does not mention variable portion in Offer Letter unlike Deloitte, EY & PwC ? How do we came to know our variables ? Please suggest.

Is there a reason some of the biglaw websites look like they were made in 2006? Surely that reflects poorly on a company

Any insights on Goodwin’s data privacy group?

Just In:

"FYI – Para’s can log in from a device at their home, they do not need to be in the building for these trainings!

A CERTIFICATE WILL BE ISSUED, AND THEY CAN PUT IT ON THEIR AUGUST TIME SHEET!!
 
ALL PARA’S MUST WATCH THIS MEDICAID TRAINING AS IT IS NEW INFORMATION"

Vaccine mandate for all Private Employees in NYC starting Dec 27th

Anyone else having trouble finding free fraud based CPE trainings? My job does not pay for these things so I wasnt sure if anyone else had a solution or source. I need 4 more hours of fraud based CPE and havent found much on ACFE or AICPA that I can use. Ive joined a local CFE chapter but not much is going on with it.

Anyone know about what "Business Review" status mean ?

81 Members in this Bowl...and yet...No girls I guess

Got a job but it doesn't start for another two months can I just quit now and work at Rita's Water Ice until my new job starts? My senior is so mean it is honestly just funny.

Mid level role at health tech Series B, 50-100 employees, Tier 1 city with 140K base and 20K in options. Base is higher than current salary but overall package lower due to bonus & 401K. Worth a shot?

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Need some advice. Ive been with my GF for 3.5 months now. I’ve caught my GF in multiple lies regarding her sexual/relationship history. When caught, her first reaction is anger at me for asking about her past too much, etc. but eventually she becomes quite sorry and apologetic. She says I shouldn’t care about her past, but I feel that it is important, and I communicate my questions as soon as they come up. I really like her, and I know I could be less curious, but the lying hurts. Thoughts?

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

Is giving birth w/o the epidural really that crazy of a concept? People laugh at me when I say its very feasible...

Reading Untamed by Glennon Doyle and I want my own Abby!!! Sigh.....

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

When did you know you were falling out of love with your partner? Did you fix it, or break things off and why?

In search of stories to hopefully understand a phase in my own long term relationship.

Do you think marriage is necessary? Why do we need the law to regulate the relationship? Isn't being committed emotionally enough? Would like to get different perspectives from both women and men.

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

Does anyone ever feel any insecurity about how they compare to their partner? Eg partner is smarter, hotter, more outgoing, etc

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

Boyfriend has seemed to be dropping a ton on me lately, even after I got bad news that my company is t doing so hot this week and layoffs are approaching. First it was that we may be moving to another state for his job, then it was that his brother may need to move in with us for a few months after he graduates

It’s just a bit overwhelming at this time and I’m not sure how to communicate through all of this being thrown at me. 3 yrs together and we were friends for many years before that.

Best part about being single: Not having to hold in my gas ! What is the best part of it for you??

Longest dry spell? Single people only!

Is it a red flag if they’re an associate?