Any 🐠 here with fibromyalgia that have managed to deal with sudden flare ups impacting timeline of return of deliverables? Yesterday and today have been complete washes due to first, all over body pain and today, added brain fog and extreme fatigue. I can’t think, can barely lift a pinky. I have items that I expected to get out but are now taking longer and not getting the focus I’d usually bring. Has FM interrupted your schedule before and how did you deal with it?

I’m excited to marry my SO in a few months but I have severe stage fright and do not like being the center of attention. Any advice on how to reduce the anxiety and just enjoy the day?

When determining your retirement spending, how much do you anticipate and budget for healthcare costs? This is for the US.

31 year old female here. Recently started ttc. Was on pill before. How many cycles should I try before consulting a obgyn? I want to be proactive in case there is a problem. Also, do I set an appointment with obgyn for a fertility workup? Pretty new to all this and would appreciate all advice.

Best time to consume protein powder/shake ?

I let the shame spiral get the better of me this week. Realized that I wasn’t going to be able to meet a deadline because I’d mismanaged my time and the project was more complex than I though. Rather than admit the mistake and suggest a new deadline, I just kept saying I’d send it tomorrow/later/so on. And then I stayed up basically three days straight working, which has only made me slower and more inefficient. So I’m still not done and now I’m in the pits of anxiety and exhaustion hell. FML.

What are your favorite apps that encourage healthy lifestyle in your patients that might need changes in that area?

Please stop assuming your employees are available 24/7 to jump on impromptu video calls. Mental health is important, too.

What are some good healthcare/pharmaceutical etfs that you would recommend?

Do you think blue light glasses actually work? I am staring at a computer screen, reading numbers, and sending emails all day and I’ve been getting headaches more and more lately. Just wanted to see if they’ve helped anyone out before I invest.

Selling a peloton cause I’m moving out of town in a couple weeks, ~4 months old, hardly used and in great condition, $1000 or best offer

Anyone here deal with Reines HH before?

We are trying to change plan. What you’ll think about Aetna EPO, heard it pays 100% for IVF? Currently on BCBS not much benefits if we would want to skip IUI and jump to IVF. Any suggestions here would be helpful. Thank you.

this isn't a confession but it's not a general topic. does anyone use any natural remedies for ADHD?

Y'all. I need some strength training programs to do at home, given that gyms are closed indefinitely in NYC. Any full body workout programs? Any reliable apps to use for routines?

Struggling with identity now that I’ve finally, truly accepted depression/anxiety are medical conditions I need meds for. I love who I am on meds, but I hate feeling like that isn’t “the real me."

Have been having really stressful and vivid dreams since quarantine started. A few dreams have even been insanely disturbing. I’m on Zoloft & Wellbutrin. Therapist thinks it’s not related to the meds. Anyone else experience this and got through it? CONT’D

I’ve been depressed for years now and this past week I lost a dog I’ve had for 15 years; he was one of the only bright spots in my life and I’ve just found it so hard to focus or motivate myself on anything after this. I genuinely feel like I’m at rock bottom, Idk if I’m crazy to feel that way bc of a dog but I used to be able to control this and put up a front but now my depression and anxiety are starting to leak into my work conversations completely unintentionally, I wish this would stop :(

How do I find a therapist? I feel like it’s time. I’m tired of feeling anxious and getting worked up by the smallest QA comments.

People with One Medical,

Is it really worth the $200 ? If so, why ?

My theory- Vettel was smart to get out of Ferrari with 2021 rule changes, and since it is a ‘level playing field’ he might go to a dark horse minion who might have a ‘Team Brawn’

Hi fishes. I am trying to get into PWC in a legal sector (contract management services). I carry 5.5 years of experience. Did upload my resumes to their website but seems they do not review it from there lol. I am unable to get in touch with consultants too. Can somebody please refer me for the same, i hv been trying hard but no fruits. Thanks in advance!

Can I quit a job I started Monday? Lmao

Hi guy please help i got laptop from publicis which is very old. Can i ask them to change it?

What is tier 1 2 3 stuff?

How long after you quit before your company removes your access to your FSA card?

As we approach July 1st, how do the staffing pools get managed?

Anyone have any info on Ausley McMullen?

What will be in-hand salary for 43L base component.

Is it Bad to change the Sector from 'IT' and move into 'Investment Banking sector'?
Work Profile - Project Management Office
Some people say once you move out from the IT sector, there is no chance of getting back to IT.
Is this really true?

Please guide me.
Will it be good to accept the offer?

I'm working with an IT MNC in PMO profile and got an offer for the same profile but with the Investment Bank.

YoE- 3.
Current CTC- 9.5lakh (Pune)
Offered CTC- 16lakh (Mumbai)

✨What's Happening Wednesday!✨
Use this thread to share fun events, concerts, and activities happening this coming weekend!

Anyone else going to OpenWorld this year?

Is it possible that HCL technologies employees can work from any other HCL company office like HCL infosystem.
One of the recruiter told me that you can work from any of the nearest HCL office whether it is HCL technologies or Infosystem.

Hey guys! Yesterday the company i worked for laid off the people in our state for economic reasons with no notice. I’m in desperate need of referral in entry level SWE/SD(or similar) positions at the moment. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Hi Fishes, I've 5.7 YOE in digital marketing and i have an offer from PS for Senior Media Analyst Role in Digital Marketing Domain. After seeing all the layoff post i'm getting scared. It would be helpful if you could please let me know if anyone if fired from Digital Marketing Domain.

DOJ is Oct 31st, i dont have more time. Please comment if you know anyone from Digital Marketing.

I am seeking new employment, I was recently laid off due to lack of work. I would very much appreciate any leads. I have a Bs in Construction Management and over 15 years experience with Revit and AutoCAD and 7 years of plumbing design. I have solid references and impeccable work ethic. I truly enjoy what I do. Working remotely the last three years has become a way of my life and supports our current situation well, therefore I am seeking a similar role but will consider other opportunities.

What is the audit senior manager salary in bay area. I am third year senior manager of that help.

What Spotify playlist is your favorite for work?

Is it me or does depression in big law mostly affect single overworked women around age 30?

Does anyone have experience breaking up w a therapist? I've been seeing my therapist for 5+ years for eating disorder treatment and we've been through so much together, but I don't think she's able to help me anymore. While I've stopped my ED behaviors, they've evolved into OCD, and I'm finding that her methods might be making it worse. I think I want to try an OCD expert instead. But I don't know how to end the relationship. Do I just stop going? Do I explain myself? I don't know what to do 🥺

When I was going into courtrooms, a bad night of sleep didn’t matter-I’d snap to attention as soon as I got into court. I’m doing phone hearings now and the focus isn’t there as much. Any ideas?

I’m at the point that I start trembling every time I get an email alert. It’s the little things piling up that is getting to me. The to do list full of, “send emails to X about Y,” “follow-up re this,” “revise the 100 small things the baby lawyer drafted.” Tasks that might take 15 minutes to an hour individually, but all together it’s a lot. I’m the bottle neck. I’m the one who needs to move these things along. But there’s always something bigger and more urgent. Nothing’s ever FINISHED.

How should I approach an ominous zoom appointment with supervisinpartner and managing partner? I’m a 3rd year associate. This is a new job, my first day was the first day the whole firm worked from home. It’s also much more challenging and demanding than my previous firm, which is what I wanted, but I haven’t been able to dive in and face the challenge the way I had planned to because I’m really struggling with working from home, both logistically and psychologically....

Does anyone else feel like having kids is the only acceptable reason to not be in the office 24/7? If I choose not to have children, do I not have any valid reason to have a life outside work?

If you’re reading this, go drink some water!

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

question of the day: why did you join this bowl? Since I asked, I will start: I’ve been on a journey of recovery from legal-overachiever-workaholism. Changed jobs, city and environment and still working hard to recover from burnout that is, unfortunately, part and parcel of the legal profession.

I’ve been struggling with finding the right antidepressant. I started a few months ago but had really bad side effects and stopped (headaches, lethargy, nausea, inability to concentrate). The withdrawal is just as bad. I’ve noticed that I made mistakes when my mind was in a haze and just can’t seem to work. I think I need to find an antidepressant that works for me but I’m nervous it’s going to make work that much harder. Do I tell someone at my firm? If so, how?

Probably the wrong bowl, but my high school senior is going off the rails. Besides a therapist, any suggestions?

Wish apps like BetterHelp were free. I can’t afford healthcare or therapy (I’m unemployed, and yes, I’ve tried seeking pro bono therapy options — no place anywhere nearby offers it.) I really need a therapist I can talk to on at least a weekly basis to just unpack so much that’s bogging me down to the point of being unable to function some days, but it’s just so cost prohibitive! What sucks is everyone assumes this career hands you median wages on a platter but I’m worse off than I’ve ever been.

3rd yr here in a mid size firm. I’ve been struggling in the mental health dept. I was on leave for 3 wks and have returned to work in June. However, i still feel like a corpse everyday and have zero motivation to do anything. I have noticed my work product declining and I feel extremely burnt out with no hope for the future. I have been trying to get appointment with a psychiatrist but they are either not working or booked up. I want to get better but don’t know where/who to turn to. Advice?

Most/Least stressful areas of practice (in either transition or litigation)

When covid first hit, I was delighted to be working from home. My hours even improved. Now, because of some triggering events, I’m dealing with horrible panic attacks on the daily. I’m dissociating and can’t focus long enough to get work done. I JUST hit a year at this firm and am going on a one month stress leave. Worried I might not kick this mental state in that time. Any advice as to what I can do while on leave so I can come back focused and ready to work?

Does anyone have any advise when it comes to navigating getting help and your firm. I had a tough month mentally. But I reached out to my local bar’s LAP. I’m starting the process of seeing a therapist. But my dreads still here. I’m panicking about being short on hours, falling behind on my cases and explaining to my boss I know I’m behind at work but I am working on it. Any advise will be greatly appreciated.

Reminder to everyone: use your 2021 vacation time. Don’t let it pass you by just because you’re not traveling. Take a long weekend once a month to nap and eat chips in sweat pants all day. We all need to do our part to normalize self care, and sitting at home doing “nothing” is just as worthy of a vacation day as pina coladas on the beach.

Guilt and shame about working in a legal position for years where, instead of using my law degree (was supposed to do legal work per the job posting), I served as a personal assistant to my boss/did nothing for maybe half the time. I feel like I was paid for work I didn't do. I've since left that job but the guilt and shame remains. I feel that I lack the character of a lawyer and that I am unworthy of the profession. I don't know how to make up for the lost years or how to forgive myself.

I’ve had a really tense, emotionally exhausting week. Things wrapped up yesterday and now my body feels so strung out and exhausted. Any tips for coming down from being so strung out without relying on toxic habits and just shutting down/procrastinating? (My brain is saying “go for a run” and my body is getting stuck picking at my eyebrows for two hours) I feel like my central nervous system is on a roller coaster.