Anyone with an insecure attachment style here? I tend to have an anxious attachment style, partly driven by a childhood abandonment situation.

I feel like people that have insecure attachment styles and have not dealt with past trauma tend to struggle more with heartbreak.

I have done lots of reading and therapy in the past for this, but it still seems like a struggle always to get over heartbreak. Curious to hear what's helped you.

Does anyone have advice on going through a breakup and focusing at work. I am struggling

I have a very poor relationship with my parents, we don’t speak. My wife and I want to change our name to have no connection with them. Has anyone done so? What’s the process/ how much of a pain is it?

Do any female desis who are married take care of their own parents?

Have you ever tried to win someone over with your niceness and it didn't work?

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

I’m Elizabeth and I’m in Las Vegas. I’ve been teaching ECSE for 14 years and it’s my 18th year teaching (i taught resource for 4 years). I love my littles! Who has taught the toddler crowd?

I am a parent of a 16-year old with high-functioning autism, and would be happy to answer any questions teachers may have!

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

At times, having a wife with Borderline Personality Disorder sucks more than people can imagine. All the gaslighting, claims of hurt, screaming and false accusations based on imagined threats make me want to scream back “you have the mental illness, not me.” But the good and fun times can be extremely good and fun. Sometimes I wonder how I got into this.

Stopped a fwb situation. But staying away is so hard. 😔

Looking for a husband 🤣

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

My wife often calls me by 5:45/6 to ask where I am if I’m not headed home yet. Sometimes she’s stressed with kids/dogs/dinner and really wants me home. This really throws off my concentration because it makes me feel rushed. Like many practices sometimes I’m out at 5:30, other times it’s much later. Just depends and is unpredictable. Any advice on how to approach this?

My sister and I have recently both come to the realization that our parents guilt us into spending time with them or visiting them and the guilt causes us both to shut down. Our dad is the main offender, often reminding us how little time we have left with him, asking us why we’re leaving so soon or reminding us about all the good deeds and sacrifices made. We’ve both noticed this shift in our relationship with our parents after graduating from college and starting our own adult lives. Continued

How did you guys meet your SO?

I am done trying to pretend everything is fine at work. The higher ups on the team kept asking if I’m doing anything fun for the weekend during video calls. I felt the pressure to make something up but I just can’t. I’ve been struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety with immigration and the fact that I might be out of work soon cuz my visa is expiring. I’m thousands of miles away from my family and I just want everything to stop. But when my manager kept asking in front of everyone am I

Has science shaped the way you care for yourself and/or your family?

Hi guy please help i got laptop from publicis which is very old. Can i ask them to change it?

New to due diligence and not sure the timeline of projects. Tips to stay organized of the project and timeline, and how to update those leading the deal? Just keep track of new info and provide as necessary?

Hi Fishes,

I have offer from both nagaroo and Publicis sapeint. Project is not decided in PS but Nagarro hire me for the ZS Client itself.

I am looking for job security, wlb and good project to work on.

Fishes, can you please suggest which should I join?

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I am a junior front end developer(2+ years) and doing my Masters in Information Systems now. How possible is it to find a remote job at UK?? Living at Greece and working for company at UK. Except freelancing...

Got a verbal offer from a big agency a week ago and HR said written offer will come by EOD but no email. They did background check last week. Followed up last week no response, what should I do?

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good OB in NYC?

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Creative artwork roles in London?

Anyone want a free chefs plate box? They sent me an extra one that I can’t have. Includes three different meals for two people (total 6 portions). Location: downtown.

In cgi what are the shift timings for a tester ,?
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I’ve seen a very large range of income for general dentists. What is your income or expected/average income for dentists working 35hrs a week as contractor or associate in the city/ suburbs?

Hey fishes,
Are certifications important for hikes while switching companies?

Such a Boring session today! 30 mins left. Any drama big movers?

Corp transactional attys, what does your job involve exactly? What does a typical day look like for you?

Hi everyone,

Looking for a job change, working as a Sr. Representative , have an experience of 4.5 yearsin travel and
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I’m so happy this bowl exists 🥹🫶🏼

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Alright it’s been 21 days of no contact. Fastest and longest few weeks since lockdown 😞 I know it’s not an exact science but I’m curious on the statistics…who’s heard from their ex after a breakup and how long after?