For those planning a child-free wedding, did you invite kids to the Friday welcome event and Sunday farewell breakfast? I’m thinking that’s a nice way to show that we care about guests’ kids even though they are not welcome at the actual wedding + make it easier for parents to come to all/more of the weekend’s events without the burden of finding babysitters three days in a row. Any considerations?

Not having a “kids invited vs not invited” moral debate here so please don’t start one 😂

Can we all agree that gender reveal parties are an annoying thing to subject your friends to?

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

We get it, ghosting happens. But has it ever happened to you repeatedly by the same person? Cashmere Agency in LA calls me relentlessly and then ghosts me just as relentlessly. Sales Force has done it two or three times as well. I can’t help but laugh and think about how it feels like getting a text from an ex—this didn’t work out before remember? It’s only been a month I’m still me.

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

My girlfriend of 4 years routinely gets so angry at me in the form of “triggers.” She has childhood trauma from her terrible parents. I’ve gone to therapy with her to learn techniques to help, but when I do them during one of her triggers she says I didn’t do them. Later I’ll learn that she’s literally does not remember things I say and do when she’s in a dissociated state. Tonight it was because I didn’t get her oil changed like I said I would. Now she’s threatening to break up because idk how

Anyone be in a relationship where the other has an alcohol problem? Every night out drinking leads to emotional breakdowns and fights. Been going on for 6 months now. Should I break up?

I think my parents need therapy but being Indian parents they don’t believe in therapy. Has anyone had any success in convincing their parents to go? Is it too late because of their age?

I know it's going to be different for everyone, but at one point after your first child did you go back to work? Thinking of kids, and trying to wrap my head around what's normal, and what to expect with budgeting post delivery. Wife says 6 months after regardless of parental leave to recover. Then she wants to ease into it with part time work. Thoughts?

I spent an hour today sitting with one of my patients getting a chemo infusion. Lonely and weird time to not have his wife in there with him

Do you ever wish you could just go home at 6, play with your kids till they fall asleep, and then have a glass of wine with your wife before an early bedtime & sleep 8 hours?

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

My sister might divorce with her husband, they have a baby of 1.5 year. We came from a divorce family and honestly never thought it would happen again - I feel powerless and I don’t know what to do. I feel bad for my sister but I am also mad at her (the fault is always in the middle) because they are not trying to fix it. I am also scared for the baby, I perfectly know what it means to grow up in a divorce family and as much as parents are present is not the same.

I’m experiencing insecure attachment style specific to feeling like my puppy loves my SO more than me because I work more and he gets more quality-chill time with her.

People who have cheated in their previous relationships, how did you come to realize the reason behind your behavior? A close friend confided in me that she has cheated in all her previous relationships and struggles to understand the reasoning behind it. She feels a lot of shame and is trying to understand why she does what she does.I have suggested therapy but she is not ready yet. How did you folks arrive at the root cause behind your behavior? Advice? Book suggestions that I can pass along?

Anyone dealt with a Christian parent who has been backsliding since the pandemic? Is this common? And how did you deal with it?

Do any female desis who are married take care of their own parents?

Like the new Denny work from Droga. The insight of the grandad who can't quite find his role in the new family dynamic is lovely. But the grand dad/grandad line at the end, you just couldn't help yourself could you?

28,F divorced no child and no life , my marriage is nothing but a whole cheat drama, now parents are asking to marry anyone who can 'accept ' me but I never did anything wrong other than being innocent and naive and good to bad people, really wanted to live my life, somebody hold my hand when in distress and i ended up somebody who just need my money and body nothing else, just feel like committing suicide, never been a loser at any point of life , Life is bloody damn unfair

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

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Are there any couple pg/studio aprtment in pune wanna shift with my wife for some 3-4months.
Please help me with some suggestions..

Since I can’t really post anywhere else rn lol, I’d love some feed back on this offer I received. It my first one for a pr account coordinator in nyc: 45k, pto 17 days (but doesn’t start until next year) and thats pretty much it. I have 1 yoe + master’s and I plan to negotiate but working out how much

Can anyone from PWC tell me what is "guidewire practice" and what are they basically do

Anyone experience not working well with managers and up (due to micro-management, talk to you like a child, etc), but find them cool outside of work? Finding it hard to hang with them during HH now.

At this point, I’m looking forward to telling opposing counsel in this one case that I’m leaving my firm more than telling my firm. Between the ridiculous theory of the case, the truly obnoxious discovery requests, and the self-righteous attitude, I can’t wait to never talk to this guy again.

I have 150k miles available in United, would you suggest to use it for next flight to Asia (15hr) or keep it and exchange for something else??

Can anyone advise on some good ways of getting referrals for making job applications? I’m a current masters student, graduating in May 2022

Will LTI HR Team work on Saturday ?
Anyone got call from them on Sat?

Anyone have experience in raising capital out of the Middle East (Jordan, Kuwait, SA)? Any experience in delivering solutions in that area? I am trying to figure out if a pursuit in that area is to much of a risk. Any insight is appreciated.

Hello, I need your advice. I am currently in management in primary care. I have a strong management background in specialty hospital practice management. Recently some leadership positions have become available and I feel as if my leader has discouraged me from applying. His take is that I should take certain steps before applying, however I have the experience from my previous employment in this leadership role. Would I be overstepping to apply anyways ?

History of BCG layoffs anyone?

Does anyone have a Procurement exam dump they would be willing to share by chance?

Hi guys,

I got my full and final settlement today but I can see no tax deduction. Does anyone know the reason. 4k tax used to be deducted every month till now. I also got gratuity and leave encashment along

Hi Fishes,
Had a very serious query. In my current organization I was not under taxable bracket by any means so I didn't submit any investment declarations or anything. But I'll start a new job in 2 weeks where I'll be under taxable bracket. So will I get a chance to submit my investment declarations in the new company for tds calculations in the middle of the year ? I'm new to everything so would appreciate your help. TIA :)

What is market hike rate for senior finance professional in current scenario for organisation change..

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Hello! Has anyone ever attended the Silicon Milkroundabout in London or knows about it? I’m attending on November and don’t know what to expect.

I have many options to consider but two options below are what I’m thinking of right now.

I want to see your thoughts on which one I should pick.

Job A: Project Engineer. 135K/yr base. 10% signing bonus.

Job B: Senior Project Manager. Contract. $60/hr standard. $90/hr overtime.

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Hi - Is there any cut-off day/date each month, by which Managers need to confirm their choice of Promotions in Workday ? For eg : ESP cycle changes need to be inputted by 15th and are confirmed on the 20th, I have been informed.

Is there any such days/dates for confirming promotions on Workday ?

Thoughts on kindly asking your bridesmaids to please not give a gift? I am over the moon excited that my bridesmaids will be celebrating me and traveling for the wedding and bachelorette. I really do not want a gift from them at the wedding. Full disclosure, my fiancé and I have great paying jobs and my bridesmaids are grad students, artists, and teachers. How would you frame this? Even if they were millionaires I would not want a gift, but I don’t want it taken the wrong way.

I’m excited for my wedding but it’s almost 9 months away and I started planning it over a year ago. However, whenever I’m around friends/family it’s the only thing people want to talk to me about. It’s constant and generally there’s not many updates to give & I’d just rather talk about other things. I work full time & I’m in school right now so I’m stressed about those things and I don’t know how to communicate that I’d just rather not talk about the wedding without sounding ungrateful/happy

Tux budget NYC?

So, we have a wedding registry and my fiance and I would really like people to stick to gifting us what's on that registry. Yet, people keep asking what they should get us. The thought of dealing with a ton of crap we don't want or need is stressing me out. How can I politely tell people to only buy what's on the registry?

Guest list stress 😖😖 how many did y’all invite vs how many came?!

Budget friendly bridesmaid proposals if you’d still like to give a small token in addition to a card?

What do you think about lab-grown diamonds? My fiance and I are trying to be as ethical as possible, and lab-grown sounds like an awesome idea, but we're wondering about the quality and longevity. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

How much are y’all spending on your videographer and what all are they providing?

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

Can I do a mother of bride dress appointment the same time after my bride fitting? It'll just be my mom coming to the appointment. Or should I do hers right after I finish my appointment?

Putting together a wedding weekend itinerary and have been dealing with a frustrating level of questions from some random in-laws who are known for stirring the pot. Would it be rude to say “please contact x with any questions. Kindly do not direct questions to the bride unless there is an emergency”? What is a better way to say this?

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

Anyone do their own bridal makeup? Any advice or thoughts?

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

Help- my SIL showed me two dresses she rented for my shower, and I think they are super bridal/not very appropriate to wear as a guest or bridesmaid. I have asked others and they agree. I feel like my own outfit, a simple jumpsuit, pales in comparison to how over the top these dresses are. What can I say or do? I feel really down but also don’t want to start WW3 by saying something to her. I feel like I now need to rush to buy a new outfit.

My partner and I are planning to elope. We want the wedding and the trip that will go with it to be for us. That being said, we want to throw a party of some kind to celebrate with our friends. We're pretty lost as far as the general etiquette around this goes. Do you have to tell venues it's for a "wedding" reception? Is it expected that we will still make a gift registry?