How long did it take you to work the steps? Working on Step 3, been sober since January 22nd. Just trying to keep consistent and keep working toward it with my sponsor but not sure what’s normal.

What’s the hardest problem facing provider side healthcare?

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

I’m unstaffed for the first time this week, which means that no one wants to book me. Not even for BD. I have been crying all day and start having suicidal thoughts again.

I have a problem. Idk how to even begin fixing this...
I'm staying up almost every night watching shiz on my phone until 2am, wake up at 7 for meetings completely groggy. Can't stop myself.
Can't get myself to workout or even eat healthy. Unable to focus at work. Not sure how do I break this cycle. I tried putting my phone away - it doesn't work. I have insomnia + I'm a light sleeper so it's very easy for me to get up and grab my phone. Idk how to stop eating sugar & junk.

Any parents here? How did you originally explain the Covid pandemic to your children?

Is anyone spending an abundant amount of time evaluating and tracking quarantine cases, attending internal Covid updates and other tasks associated with Covid at work ?

Physically ill just being back home and knowing I have work travel tomorrow. So much has been going on in my life and I thought 1 week of vacation would help but I feel worse. Don't know what to do

TWW is over today. Took a home test this morning and got a positive! 🎉 🙏 Went in for bloodwork and waiting on our doc to call with official numbers. After experiencing an early loss last time, it’s hard to get too excited yet. Fuck you, infertility, for stealing the joy of what should be a happy day.

First in-person retreat in a while coming up and first for me at this particular firm. Several people have mentioned that much of the bonding etc happens while drinking. I am newly sober and now worried about being in this environment, any tips for making it through the weekend? Similar experiences?

Hi all, is this bowl still active? I am a public health professional (MPH) and couldn't find much relatable on fishbowl. I am working for an INGO in the national team, would love to connect with fellow PHPs. Additionally, would require 11 likes on the profile for DM. Thanks

Hi everyone! What remote jobs are you working that you feel is good for your ADHD?

Hello fishes. Need some insurance advice.
My parents are dependent on me. My 62 yo dad and 57yo mom do some part time work and makes $1000/mon. Dad has some health complications like diabetes, high bp, genetic heart issues, liver problems etc. Does it make sense to get a life insurance for him - 20 yr term, $1M coverage. Premium is around $500. I am thinking I can pay the premium but if something happens to dad, it will help my mom pay be self-sufficient

Most effective ab workouts to do at home? I know a bunch of different ones but looking to do more impactful moves in a shorter amount of time

Have you heard of any success story with natural cycle IUI?

Has anyone used eharmony? Yay or nay?

Starting IVF in a month - any guidance in prep for it, things that may help increase success for egg retrieval or anything like that? I started taking supplements advised by my doctor, but curious to hear of anything else! Thank you SO much!

Covid-19 coverage: what are you seeing? Where are we headed?

Trying to decide between soylent or huel as a meal replacement 1x daily. Anyone have recs? Goal: shed ~5-10 lbs and keep it off over the next few months.

Why does my left arm keep getting numb when I sleep on my back? Anyone experience this?

Before taking resignation they were saying will get letter in 2 days max, now Delay in offer letter even after more than month from the day I took my resignation back.

Any suggestions will be much appreciated.

SM promoted from M salary range? EY

Anybody Who joined for Mulesoft tech recently in LTI??

 I heard a commercial on the radio for Verizon that said something to the effect that parents are now learning how to lesson plan. Are any of you off the hook for lesson planning? Just wondering because I’m over here busting my butt!

Hello fishes

Could you please provide feedback on below companies and their work culture for a Java Developer

UST Global
T System
Yoe: 5.5 years


UST global offering 2.5 lakh more than T system

After your PhD, did you take time to do something completely different to give yourself a break? The stress of the past few years has made working in a cafe look surprisingly appealing.

Actively seeking SAP SuccessFactors Trainer who can train virtually. DM for more info

Hello, we've recently started a community focused on FAANG Interview preps. Wondering what kind of content people might be interested to see in such communities.

My friend just got out of a relationship and hooked up with his ex's best friend a week later. They're now dating and seeing each other everyday.
I couldn't help but feel like this wasn't an appropriate thing to do for both parties. He also revealed that he cheated on his past exes.

I'm naturally feeling a bit weary of his character and questioning whether this is a friend I want to keep close in my life. Perhaps I'm being too judgmental?

Can anyone help me find a site on Oracle EPM cloud? I guess there used to be a page where you could plug in metadata around business industry, revenue, number of users in finance... And then it would give the business case/value of implementation in dollars. It was an interface that had plug and play functionality. Anyone know what I'm talking about?

Rather specific question - best beef tartare in town?

Anyone have stats on Cohn Reznick CFO advisory comp for M or SM?

hiya fishes. happy friday! sorry if this isnt the right bowl, but this is in regards to vacation time. i have an interview process starting next week, and wondering when it would be good to mention i would be OOO between the middle of the month in september? its for a week. im unsure if i can twist this to have a start date once im back. going back and forth on being transparent vs. mentioning it later on. thoughts?

Newbie here. Did any one engage a financial planning service? I’m 34 with young kids, no debt, and $300k in cash. Absolutely no other financial/estate planning and overwhelmed!

Red flag? I use TD's robo investor for my IRA and personal investment portfolio. I noticed it chooses the same ETFs, although potentially a different ratio. This seems that it's not properly diversified for long and mid term. Should I be concerned, or just let the investment fly?

Looking for a single sharing room for male in a furnished flat near Eon IT and WTC in a gated society.
Budget 10-15K
Location: Kharadi, Viman Nagar or nearby places.

Planning to shift from mid August.

Any leads will be appreciated.
Thanks!

Hi Any positions for research, account management or power bi ?

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.

I joined a new team and have noticed something off with my Director over the last months (slurring speech, no show to calls or even full days of work). I finally asked a colleague about it today because I’m concerned about my Director. She confirmed that she’s noticed the same over the last few years, but no one ever says anything. In confidence she told me she can often smell alcohol. How can I help? I feel helpless. I’ve already lost someone to addiction and I can’t ignore this. Any advice?

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
⏸ 🌬 ▶️

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Sibling is 52 days sober from heroin/cocaine, but I just found a syringe and alcohol wipes under their pillow.

They have been passing observed urine tests, how is it possible that they’re using? Any ideas?

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

Curious to hear the story of anyone that has overcome or going through cocaine addiction. Given that people in this bowl make enough money to support such an expensive habit. Take me through your story - how bad did it get in terms of daily consumption and total money spent? Please share if comfortable.

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

Does anyone have any advice for supporting and coping with someone going through withdrawal? My husband is trying to quit his weed addiction and he has been irritable and mean since he quit. His mood is erratic and he is constantly annoyed w me. I don't even know how to bring this up without setting him off. Just feel like I'm walking on eggshells and I'm emotionally exhausted at this point. Is there anything I can do to help him? Is there anything I can do to help myself cope?

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others