I went to private white schools K-12. STEM major at a PWI in undergrad. PWI law school. I am no stranger to being the only or one of the only Black people. Sometimes even the only POC. So why does it seem to weigh on me SO much harder in practice? I’m the only Black person in my group, one of 3 in my office, and one of 10 in the entire 700+ person firm. However, all of my other social spaces (family, friends, organizations, church) are still Black & South Asian. So why does it feel so weird now?

Tips for managing difficult employees? It's my first time having direct reports and they challenge EVERYTHING. How do I motivate them and get them working with me instead of against me?

Have you ever been told off by an older attorney of color? We have one Black partner at our firm and in conversation with him this morning he told me I should work on sounding and looking "more professional" and not let my "tone" or "bad attitude" get in the way. I don't think I've ever had a bad attitude at work, and whatever "tone" I'm speaking in it's my normal one. As a Black woman I just feel super weird about it and kind of sad.

I keep fighting with the product managers on my team, who keep assigning me new features to build without checking first if I had the bandwidth for it. How do I communicate this politely?

What’s the best way to deal with a partner that prefers working solo? For context, this writer I work with conceptualizes by himself, emails the Account team, gives deep input, and makes decisions for us without consulting with me (his “partner”) most of the time. While I appreciate his proactiveness, I feel excluded, limited, and without much room to co-lead the work with him. I don’t know how to bring this up without sounding like I’m b*tching about it.

How bad is it to leave an understaffed team right before fall busy for a job in a new city? Part of me doesn’t care at all b/c it’s a business decision, part feels like I’m totally screwing the team.

Does anyone know what the dress code is for the upcoming CAALA Trial Skills seminar? Do people usually wear suits or is it business casual? Thank you!

Just started a new role in industry 2 months ago and my manager sent me a long email today saying he is not happy with my performance and is not at par with my level. He also pointed out list of instances when my submissions were late. Some of the things I agree but not all. Should I reply back or talk about it on our one on one and what to respond. They might be building a case to let me go.

Can I give notice by email? Or is it truly preferred to call the partners directly? What if they don’t pick up?

Who hates being micromanaged by your boss? I had to deal with a boss who had to be involved with every little thing and it drove me nuts, and made me feel like she didn’t trust me.

Could someone please suggest how to handle this situation?
My manager (Technology Director) sees me as an emerging thread to his position and stopped sharing details / trying to avoid including me in visible projects etc.,
FYI - His manager is the division head and Managing Director.
Why I think my manager tries to move me out?
- I am 18 YOE with a technically strong background
- Upper mgmt is starting to identify me as the backup for all systems. My manager tries to move me out since then

Preparing to give notice to my current firm. Accepted an amazing opportunity to lateral at a more prestigious firm (better compensation, lower billables, and shorter commute).
I’m excited to make this jump, but it’s still bittersweet for me because the partners at my current firm are truly amazing and I have learned a lot from them over the past few years and will miss them a lot. Any insight on the best way to have this convo without burning bridges? Thanks!

How do you pick your fights with management during promotion year for scheduling?

Shouldn’t everyone know by now that commenting with “…humbled and honored…” is overplayed on LinkedIn? How can anyone type that and still respect themselves?

My manager asked me to help sprint this proposal. I’m out in 6 weeks. How do I kindly tell him to GTFO

Doing those mid year peer/self review kills all time that would be better spent pretending to help my clients

Speaking to a lot of headhunters right now for on-cycle and wanted a description of Distressed PE vs Distressed HFs since all of their preference forms list them as separate. Is it just distressed for control vs anything else

I’m a firm believer that a manager should develop a positive relationship with employees, but I don’t want that to be an invitation to disrespect my authority. How do you know where to draw the line to make this distinction clear?

Best way to explain to new firms that you are leaving your current firm because of the toxic culture and frankly, a President who talk down to people every chance he gets?

If an employee files a complaint about workplace behavior, do you treat them differently? I'm faced with reporting an SM for bullying and finding it near imposible to believe that it won't (cont'd)

I’m new to the firm. My third project my manager was very hands off. He’s wants to have a discussion with me about my performance. He did not give me any support to work with; even when I asked! And my direct manager agrees with him, but it was my third week. What to do? I feel like I’m going to say something crazy. Any advice?

How is Airbus India company? specifically for the Mechanical/ Aerospace profiles (Design/ Stress)? How are the yearly hikes at Airbus?

People with One Medical,

Is it really worth the $200 ? If so, why ?

Any recommendations for a counselor that specializes in helping active duty transition to civilian careers, specifically federal jobs? Trying to help a family friend get some one-on-one assistance beyond the VA transition assistance programs.

Love how BS credit score is. Got my score up to 800 last month only to go on vacation so my credit utilization went up to 8% due to the increased spending and my score dropped 35 points because I didn’t immediately pay the balance after charging the purchases. I always pay my balance in full each month and have never missed a payment, how is 8% credit utilization determined to be that big of a risk that my score got immediately wrecked, I don’t understand

Hi BNY employees,

What was your last rating ? Hike % & bonus % of CTC ?

Provide your input in comment.

How not to take as personal if your manager blast in group of people even for small mistake or not even considerable as mistake.
How do you keep yourself don’t get effected and without any guilty?

I’m a PV consultant, typically coming in as interim Heads of PV and helping clean up disasters. Considering going back into Pharma- what si the base salary of a Head of PV typically? I currently command $250-300 per hour

Hello Fishes,
What kind of role does a Deputy Manager in the risk consulting service line perform. I am currently a senior consultant at EY India is it a similar kind of role?

Leadership role in my state university’s alumni group vs leadership role at my firm’s early career group? Want to develop ways to show leadership for MBA applications in a few years. Thoughts?

Is it worth taking the program that insofe/upgrad offers??

Looking for any tips! I am CA qualified with 3 YOE in external audit and 1 in internal audit now. Don’t see in a future in IA so thinking of doing MBA and making a move out. Anyone who did MBA post external/ internal audit. Is it worth it and what role did you take post MBA?? Any help appreciated!!

Roche’s Finance Perspectives program? Post-MBA program in the EU, headquartered in Basel.

Fellow EY 🐟. I left EY recently after two happy years there. How can I get the pension money back? I had around $1500 there and they are not able to help in EY-HELP3.
Can I at least do a rollover to an IRA?

I'm really having a difficult time understanding how engineering is supposed to be really competitive, most of the projects I've worked on were in groups and there wasn't usually a clear "leader," we were just on a team

Is anyone familiar with McKenna Capital? I’m interested in investing in a real estate syndicate and McKenna looks compelling. Hard to tell if they are legit or potential scam?

Weezer fans, give me a 👍

Have you ever been told off by an older attorney of color? We have one Black partner at our firm and in conversation with him this morning he told me I should work on sounding and looking "more professional" and not let my "tone" or "bad attitude" get in the way. I don't think I've ever had a bad attitude at work, and whatever "tone" I'm speaking in it's my normal one. As a Black woman I just feel super weird about it and kind of sad.

Does anyone know what the dress code is for the upcoming CAALA Trial Skills seminar? Do people usually wear suits or is it business casual? Thank you!

LA fish: Any ideas for Pro Bono assistance for nonprofit community/cultural orgs? A family member recently joined the board of a nonprofit community/cultural org and is looking for counsel. There are no active legal issues, but they’re just trying to get affairs in order and have systems in place in case any do arise. I’m unable to represent them myself due to my work and lack of experience, and I’m unfamiliar with potential resources. Thank you!

Anyone feel like your job sees you as "one of the good ones?" It hasn't explicitly been said, but I'm one of the only Black attorneys at the firm and I think my white colleagues and partners see me as an example of how Black folks "should be" cause I mind my business. Basically I feel like a token, and I don't know how to shift that idea while staying professional.

I handleda very difficult and convoluted succession for a black family. My client was astute and intelligent. We got along great. His family was difficult. Willfully ignorant.

Part of the succession dealt with clawing back $450,000 in insurance proceeds that a niece fraudulent received from the decedent by making herself the beneficiary on policies. A separate attorney was hired to handle that part before I was hired to handle all other matters, including settling a $500,000 debt with the...

I feel like I'm going through really bad imposter syndrome, How do you manage it ?

Anyone in this bowl based in Central Florida that would like to connect?

Thoughts on whether DC or NYC is a better place to be as an attorney of color?

Thinking of pivoting from insurance defense to something more meaningful and (dare I say it) with more work life balance. Currently in my 7th year of practice and am just tired of ID. Anyone make the transition? Any advice?

Does anyone in this group have ADHD? Are you finding that working in a law firm setting and billing hours is just not something they can do or is it possible with the proper medication and therapy?

I don’t cut my hours, I consistently reach 7 hours a day, but it’s not enough to meet my firm’s minimum requirement. I’m usually working 9 hours/day.

Starting at a new firm, What can I do to leave a good first impression?

How do I professionally decline a second interview? I know for sure I don’t want to work at the firm.

What is the starting Salary for entry level insurance defense attorney in NYC area?

Not legal-related but: thoughts on A Jazzman’s Blues? I loved it. Been a while since a movie has stayed on my mind long after it ended, like this one has. Shocking Tyler Perry wrote it. “Paper Airplanes” is a hauntingly beautiful song.

Did anyone from your past tell you you wouldnt make it as a lawyer? Did you ever rub it in their face later that you in fact did?? 😂

I’m a newly barred attorney in Atlanta, Ga and I need two things: (1) a mentor who has time to be a mentor; and (2) a job opportunity. I am open to being a staff attorney or junior associate. CAN YALL HELP ME PLEASE?!?

What was your experience with the LSAT? Do you think it's gatekeeping, preventing students who can't afford it (often people of color) from entering the field? OR is it helping future attorney's of color by giving them a chance to go to a top school regardless of grades? I've seen questions about the LSAT all day and just want to know how people feel.

Might be a silly question but I will throw it out there. Anyone have any tips on best practices to preserve a silk press overnight? Currently have silk pillowcases but wrapping always ends up a fail.

I'm a younger plaintiff's side attorney (31). Does anyone else feel like white attorneys give you a particularly harder time? Like unreasonably denying clear facts, or trying to fish for a way to sanction you? Usually it's solo defense attorneys that get extreme with it, but I've seen some questionable stuff from BigLaw too. Hopefully I'm not the only one.

how does anyone actually bill 8.5 hours a day?? Even on my most productive days I can only hit 6, 6.5.