I’m having a hard time mentally committing to permanent sobriety. I know it’s the right thing to do but at the same time I would love to be able to have a drink or two on special occasions. I still have 3/4 of a bottle of Pappy Van Winkle somewhere hidden in my house that I’d love to have a glass of someday special and then let my wife hide it again.

Both my parents are starting to have some medical issues and its really becoming something super stressful and anxiety provoking. I love my parents a lot and even small things really scare me and make me worried. I’m not sure how to deal with the feelings and stress

Advice or Book recommendations on how not to get bothered by others/ friends/ peers? What they think or what they do!
Been struggling lately

Did yall hear about the Chicago mom who had her kid taken away because she wouldn't accept that her child was transgender? As a parent, that's actually kind of scary that the government would that with no basis of abuse or neglect. Smh

Desi folks! Why do you let your parents manage your profile on the websites? It’s so uncomfortable when you get a call at 4 am saying “beta, we like your profile.” 🤷🏽‍♂️

How to become good friend of manager?

Everyone likes me because I'm a doormat with no boundaries. I do anything and say anything to make people happy. I will think what you think I should think. Will you be my friend?

Been with my boyfriend for 4 years. His family is much more wealthier than mine (6 cars, owns 4 houses, part of 3 businesses). My family is middle class and I feel inadequate around his family because they’re so wealthy. I feel depressed because I can’t live his lifestyle and sad for our future. His family just bought a house for us and my family can’t even buy a second car. Idk how to go about this situation.

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

Hey fellow fishes- I am looking to make some new friends in town and potentially meet a nice woman to start a relationship with; any ideas where should I start looking or start doing? I am thinking of volunteering some of my weekends.

My wife and I just had our second child, and we have also been dealing with her cervical cancer diagnosis. It has been a stressful year, to say the least. I want to do something nice for her, but money is tight right now because of the cancer treatment costs, and her being on unpaid leave because of the cancer treatments. What is something low cost I can do that will be a nice “couples thing” so we can de-stress, but also make her feel special?

Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

One of my best friends growing up just passed away. We lost contact with each other a year or two after graduating high school and I recently came to learn he was was battling cancer the past 5 years and ultimately succumbed to the illness. He hid it well from everyone and led a very private life during it all. To make matters worse, he had just turned 25. Seeing pictures of the condition he was in towards the end of his fight broke my heart. I wish I had known so I could’ve been there for him.

Working Moms/Dads: Do in-house positions exist with flex time hours? I need to be able to leave work at 4pm to pick up my son from daycare, but i can get back online at home to resume any unfinished work at 8pm. Is this realistic to convey to any companies in an interview? Pandemic aside, is face time 9-7pm really important? Or should i just try to find a job with a salary that covers a nanny salary and accept that i will never see my son on weekdays (which would be sad for both of us)? TIA!

Desi folks , do you really regret your marriage ? What is that annoys you most ?

Looking to move to San Antonio and we're looking at places in Alta Vista and El Dorado. Pros and cons? We have two kids under five, so looking for a nice family community with good schools.

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Hello, what salary can an ACCA member (3 years of experience) expect at any of the Big 4s or MNCs?

Any tips for moving up in a medium/large-sized legal department, aside from switching companies? I work in a collegial environment with plenty of opportunities to create more value, but the management level is fairly crowded and it seems the clearest path to get one of those roles is to be hired into it. What has been your experience? Thanks!

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What are everyone's thoughts on executive MBA vs. traditional MBA? I'm currently pursuing a traditional MBA but sometimes I wonder what could've been 😅

M/Boston. I’m 49 so apparently it looks like my last year in this bowl…

Anyone change their skin care routine during pregnancy? Favorite products / things to avoid (I know retinol)

What is hierarchy level in PWC AC for manager . I heard within Manager grade there are 3 level ?? Which is highest level .

Anyone here start playing golf later in life? How did you pick it up? I'm in my early 20s/F, and I want to try out golf but don't have any friends or family that play.

How much I can expect from SAP LABS or ask them in HR round for product specialist role at T2 level already have an offer of 21 fixed.
YOE :8

I am a Backend Python Developer. Is DSA/Competitive Programing mandatory for job change?
Any Advice/help would be really appreciated :)

Is there any tax deductions for variable pay when its credited to every 3 months?

Anyone in tiger working with pepsiCo client?
Please dm me.

Anyone see a big discrepancy between GTMetrix and Page Speed Insights when testing the same site? Annoying to say the least.

Good afternoon everyone,

I am switching careers from Clinical Social Work into Project Management. I possess many transferable skills and a PM certification. I'd love a referral to PM roles at Google, Meta, Amazon or other Big Tech Companies. I'd also love to connect with other PMs in the tech space on LinkedIn if interested!

Hi fishes i received offer from legato but cognizant now revised notice period to 90 days will it be possible to get the change in joining date from legato side?

I'm considering applying for all the Contact Tracing jobs I keep seeing. Any clue what the pay is?

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

Drop below to share 👇

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
⏸ 🌬 ▶️

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Any recommendations for group therapists in NYC??

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

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