I’m just so tired of hurting. Full on ugly scream cried for the first time thinking about how the last time I saw them was the last time I’ll EVER see them since they broke up with me this past weekend and I just feel so empty. And they don’t even care because I know they’re already back on the apps looking for a rebound. It just feels so painful.

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I’m sorry OP. Incase it’s helpful, here’s some thoughts from a stranger also going through it… when my gf broke up with me, I was shattered. The only other time I’ve lost someone I profoundly loved was when my grandmother passed away and, consequently, I subconsciously was equating my breakup to the death of a loved one. In a way, a break up is similar… it’s the death of your *imagined* future with that person. In reality though.. your ex is still here, walking this earth, staying happy, and continuing on with their lives. They COULD come back to you anytime they wish and, yet, they choose not to be in your life anymore.

Once I reframed the situation that way, it became easier to move on because what’s the point in crying and waiting for someone who doesn’t want to choose me even though they could?

DM me if you need someone to talk to.

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They say the loss of the future you imagined is so real, creates a similar sense of loss as the death of a close friend or family.

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Take care, OP. It will get better. Sending positive vibes. ❤️

I have been struggling myself for the past week. Thought I was doing pretty well.
The hardest part is, like you said, accepting that you'll never see this person again and how they apparently seem to have moved on that easily. Makes you question the reality of everything during the relationship.

Yeah exactly… I know people often say that dumpers remorse doesn’t come until later but it really doesn’t feel that way at all. It just seemed so easy for them to let me go while it feels like my world is shattering and the idea of the future I thought was coming just vanished into thin air. I’m sorry you’re struggling as well 😔

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Oof it’s hard to put yourself together after this. Stay busy?

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