Is it normal for a boss to ask for detailed access to your calendar (not just busy/free)? New boss (new to company too), who’s asked for me to now share my calendar, is insisting it’s to help with scheduling, yet is always asking me or others to schedule meetings. They tend to be micromanaging, controlling, even though i am told i am “killing it.” How do I politely and professionally tell them I don’t feel comfortable sharing? I feel this is more about control and micromanaging.

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On my teams we share calendars openly from top to bottom. We’re at work and work remotely - nothing to hide. Equivalent of being in office - I see where you are and who you are meeting with and I know when you’re at your desk not in a meeting so I can pop by

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I find it pretty normal for teams to share calendars with one another. I find it less normal for teams to schedule on top of others’ already scheduled meetings without asking first.

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Detailed access screams micromanager. Right up there w/ my ex-mgr asking for a daily recap to every 15min of what I worked on / mtgs that day. I get it for billable time but beware that they use it against you. (Busy/free calendar access makes sense.)

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Did your new boss say you are killing it or did other people say that?

Ask if calendar access can be reciprocal - he sees yours but you can see his.

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Yes new boss has said it. I ask for feedback all the time and everything is positive. Some constructive, but by and large really solid feedback and appreciation.

New boss shares their calendar, yet it’s not helpful as they are booked solid and even in instances where there is blocks for “focus/project work”, it’s not like they let you schedule time over it. The ask is to always goes to empty slot. If that’s the case, why bother with details (which can have unintended consequences), if the only guidance is look for free time.

Sharing calendars is really helpful, eliminates the need to ask if they can move something so frequently. If it’s personal, just put person’s name or doctor. Unless they’re asking to share all details and not just meeting names, which does seem intrusive

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Who cares? Mark anything you don’t want known private?

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Perhaps they've come from a company where all diaries are open and that's what they're used to? That's what it's like in some places.

I agree with others above who said this is pretty normal. We all share our calendars here for scheduling purposes and then just make certain things on there private. It really does make things easier.

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I would never do this. It’s no one’s business. You should be be able to prioritize your own schedule/meetings. I could never work somewhere where someone else told me an existing meeting I had took less priority than whatever their need is.

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sharing detailed access is pretty normal at my company and helps us understand ahead of time when people's calendars are full which meetings are more likely to be bumped if an urgent meeting needs to be scheduled, e.g., a bi-weekly casual catch-up, versus higher stakes client meetings. It should help with prioritization in the long run if it's done correctly

Sharing detailed access is not an automatic default. Especially in new relationships. Don't be gaslit with arguments of "if you have nothing to hide..." constant monitoring isn't necessary for trust and convenience isn't the highest/only/everyone's value. You can share access and the other person can respect your time by scheduling to a time that's not booked or reaching out. Otherwise you're letting others prioritize your time for you and frankly if you're in a demanding/political job, let alone dealing with a micromanager that's not going to work well long term.

However, because you're new your manager may be trying to help you prioritize meetings or not overbook yourself. I had a similar request recently, but this was just for a screenshot of one week as I was trying to get time back. I've been in my role long enough that I had (cautious) faith and it worked out, but you're new so there is a difference in the trust and understanding you have of your team. I'd try a few things like a screenshot (short term solution and her response will tell you alot) or separate calendars to get privacy (longer-term solution, but takes getting used to), categorizing your events so somethings are private (others have mentioned this and it also takes focus and getting used to), or going back to private calendar overtime/as you ramp up and have more data on how it's used/not used by your boss.

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