Just curious: how many really good friends have you lost to disagreements or differences. I’d like my friendships to last forever, but not all of them do. And I’m beginning to wonder if I’m at the end of the spectrum on holding on to friendships (note: not romantic relationships, I have no trouble in that department). At this point I’ve lost a few really close friends, and I miss them, and it sucks. Is it me?

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It’s not you. I think there’s a natural shift in friendships every 5-7 years, whether it’s from job changes, moves, getting in a relationship or marriage, having kids or just real life disagreements.
It’s very rare that you have the same friends forever. If you have a handful of amazing friends you’re doing amazing.
People change, we change, fights happen that we can’t come back from. Other times you move on and then come back to each other when the resentment is gone, and you pick up where you left off.
A lot of my friendships ended/grew apart after lockdown, but before that, a lot of them changed between my 20s and 30s. A few of my friends disappeared after getting married and having kids, I think that’s normal. But it’s unfortunate, friends are a vital aspect to life!

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Man or woman? Cause for guys I feel like we might drift but friendships don’t really end unless someone does something wrong. Like I could see someone I haven’t talked to in years and still pick up right where we left off.

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